Zamkati
- Momwe mungachitire ndi kupatukana kwaukwati
- 1. Ntchito ya kunyumba
- 2. Fotokozerani zonyansa ku chiyanjanocho
- 3. Gwetsani khoma lamalingaliro
- 4. Lankhulani kuchokera pansi pamtima
- 5. Dziwani wina ndi mnzake ... kachiwiri
Kulekanitsidwa ndi wokwatirana naye, kaya ndi inu amene mukuwafuna kapena mukulandira, sizovuta kwenikweni. Zimakhala zotopetsa komanso zosokoneza kwa onse awiri.
Pali zambiri zoti muchite mukamasiyana. Muyenera kupita pafupipafupi kwa loya, kuwononga ndalama zanu, ndikusunga mawu ndi malingaliro anu. Ndizochulukirapo kufunsa panthawi yovutayi!
Mutha kuyesa kulumikizana ndi anzanu kapena abale anu kuti akupatseni upangiri wokhudza maukwati. Koma, potero, pali mwayi wolandira upangiri wokondera, womwe sungakupindulitseni pamapeto pake.
Pakapatukana m'banja, malingaliro anu ayenera kukhala ndi mafunso angapo. Mwachitsanzo, ‘momwe angasamalirire kulekana kwa ukwati,‘ ‘kulekana kutha bwanji,” ‘kupatukana ndi okwatirana mukukhalira limodzi,’ ndi ena ambiri.
Ino ndi nthawi yomwe mumafunikira upangiri wopatukana, popanda tsankho, ndipo izi zimakuthandizani kuti mutuluke.
Chofunika kwambiri, malangizo opatukana ndi maanja akuyenera kukutsogolerani pazomwe simuyenera kuchita mukapatukana, komanso momwe mungasungire ukwati nthawi yopatukana.
Momwe mungachitire ndi kupatukana kwaukwati
Mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri opatukana ndi kufunafuna upangiri wapabanja mwachangu komanso mosamala mukasiyana ndi sing'anga kapena mlangizi.
Kodi upangiri wa maukwati ndi chiyani?
Upangiri waukwati ndi gawo lothandizira la psychotherapy.
Cholinga cha upangiri wotere ndi kuthandiza maanja amitundu yonse kuti azindikire ndikubwezeretsanso pakakhala kusamvana ndikulimbikitsa kulumikizana kwabwino komanso kukonza kusokonekera kwa maubale.
Upangiri wabwino wazokwatirana, umathandiza anthu okwatirana ndi anthu kupanga zisankho moganizira za kukulitsa chibwenzicho kapena, ngati pakufunika kutero, azisiyana.
Nthawi zambiri, upangiri waukwati umathandizidwa ndi othandizira omwe ali ndi zilolezo omwe amakhazikika pakuthandiza pomwe malo ovuta afika. Pokhala ndi madigiri omaliza komanso omaliza maphunziro, ambiri mwa akatswiri amadziwika ndi American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT).
Koma, ngakhale mutasankha upangiri, mutha kudalira kokwanira mlangizi wanu ndikuyembekeza kuti achite zamatsenga ndikumasulani ku nkhawa zonse. Momwe othandizira angakuthandizireni zimatengera momwe mungalandirire komanso kuthana ndi mavutowo.
Mukamayesetsa kwambiri kuchokera kumapeto kwanu pakupanga upangiri, zotsatira zake zimakhala zabwino. Chifukwa chake, nayi gawo lofunikira pakulangiza zakulekana.
Mutha kubweretsa malangizo opatulira mayesowa, mosasamala kanthu za momwe mukulandira kapena ayi.
1. Ntchito ya kunyumba
Simungathe kuneneratu zotsatira zakusudzulana. Koma, mutha kusankha kuchita homuweki yanu bwinobwino, kuti musadandaule chifukwa chosachita zinthu zina panthawi yoyenera.
Monga gawo la homuweki yanu, lembani zomwe mukugwirizana komanso zomwe zikupitilirabe kuwononga banja. Gawanani izi ndi mnzanu.
Khalani okonzeka kulandira zopereka zawo, nanunso. Ndipo, khalani ndi malingaliro okonzeka kulandira kutsutsidwa kwamtundu uliwonse.
2. Fotokozerani zonyansa ku chiyanjanocho
Kodi ndi mawu ndi zochita ziti zomwe banja lanu lochokera kapena ubale woyambirira zomwe zikupitilirabe kukudziwitsani?
Uphungu wina wopatukana ndi wakuti nonse muyenera kutulutsa. Monga tanenera poyamba, mutha kuyesa kuthana ndi malingaliro anu ndi chilichonse chomwe chikukusowetsani pansi.
Komabe, pali njira yofotokozera zoyipazo. Simuyenera kuchita kukhala ndi mnzake. Mutha kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu ofatsa ndikuthana ndi mavuto anu moyenera.
3. Gwetsani khoma lamalingaliro
Kodi simuyenera kuchita chiyani mukamasiyana?
Upangiri wovuta kwambiri wopatukana m'banja ndikuti muyenera kupewa kupewa malingaliro olimba.
Tikapwetekedwa kwambiri, timakonda kukhazikitsa malingaliro omwe amatilepheretsa kuyanjana ndi omwe timawakonda. Timalingalira zinthu zomwe kulibe, ndipo izi zimakulitsa kusiyana muubwenzi uliwonse.
Ngati mukufunitsitsanso kuyambiranso ndichikondi cha moyo wanu, muyenera kuwunika makoma omwe mwawamanga patsogolo pa mtima wanu.
4. Lankhulani kuchokera pansi pamtima
Apa, mphamvu ya mawu oti "Ndikumva" imakhala ndi kulemera kwakukulu komanso mwayi. Mukamalankhula ndi mnzanu, khalani oona mtima.
Monga gawo la upangiri wofunikira pakulekana m'banja, kumbukirani kuti simuyenera kunyalanyaza zinthuzo. Lankhulani za zomwe zikupweteketsani, ndipo musadzikakamize kunena zomwe mukuganiza kuti akufuna kumva.
Awa ndi malamulo ofunikira kwambiri opatukana m'banja omwe atha kupanga kapena kuwononga chibwenzi chanu.
5. Dziwani wina ndi mnzake ... kachiwiri
Ngati mwakhala mukukumana ndi zinthu zina panokha kapena ngati banja, zitha kukhala zovuta kuti mukhale pachibwenzi chamtundu uliwonse. Ndikofunika kuyesa, komabe.
Kulankhula. Pitani pa tsiku. Kuyenda. Kuphika pamodzi. Phunzirani kusangalatsanso wina ndi mnzake. Ngati zikukuvutani kuti muzichita izi nthawi yomweyo, khalani ndi nthawi.
Mutha kusankha mogwirizana pa nthawi yopuma. Ngati wina wa inu akufunika kuwonjezera, musakakamize chilichonse. Mukakhala olimba mtima kwambiri, pamakhala mwayi woti muyanjanenso.
Ngati mukufunafuna thandizo lina, ndibwino kuti mupite kukakwatiwa kuchokera kunyumba kwanu. Ikuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse mavuto anu ndikuwongolera omwe akuyenda.
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