Zamkati
- Vuto lofala kwambiri
- Onetsetsani kuti mumasilira yemwe ali lero
- Zizindikiro zosaoneka bwino: Ma AAA atatu
- Ovuta kwambiri A: Nkhani
- Zizindikiro za khalidwe labwino
- Musanatero ndimatero
Mwakhala pachibwenzi kwakanthawi. Mutha kukhala kuti mukukhala limodzi. Mwamuna wanu pomaliza adatulutsa funsoli, koma mukudabwa: kodi mukuti inde?
Ngati munazengereza, matumbo anu akukuuzani china chake. Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mubwerere, kuwunika ubalewo moona mtima momwe mungathere, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti alidi yemweyo. Chifukwa chiyani ndikulangiza kusamala kotere?
Chifukwa ndimagwira ntchito yopanga maukwati, okhazikika pakubwezeretsa mavuto. Ndikudziwa momwe banja ndilovuta, ndipo ndikukuuzani, ngati simuli 100% kulumpha mmwamba ndi pansi kukonzekera kukwatirana naye, mwina pali china chake cholakwika.
Vuto lofala kwambiri
Pali mwambi wakale wakuti mkazi akwatiwa ndi mwamuna akuyembekeza kuti amusintha, pomwe mwamuna akwatira mkazi akuyembekeza kuti sangasinthe.
Ngati mwazengereza (kapena tsopano mukufunsa ngati mukuyenera kuyankhadi inde-azimayi ambiri amati inde chifukwa ndichabwino "kuchita kapena chifukwa sakufuna kumukhumudwitsa), mukudziwa kuti china chake sichabwino . Amayi ambiri ndi okondweretsa anthu (taphunzitsidwa kukhala motere), chifukwa chake timakwatirana podziwa kuti amuna athu siomwe timafuna muukwati, koma ndikuyembekeza kuti adzafikako. Adzakulirakulirabe gawo, kapena amasungunuka. Amangofunika nthawi, sichoncho?
Cholakwika.
Zalangizidwa - Asanakwatirane
Onetsetsani kuti mumasilira yemwe ali lero
Anthu samasintha chifukwa choti mumafuna, ndipo maubwenzi ambiri amatsikira machubu chifukwa wina akufuna kusintha mnzake. Mudzakhumudwa chifukwa chakuti sasintha, ndipo amakukwiyirani chifukwa chokana kumulandira monga momwe alili. Ngati mukufuna ukwati wabwino, khalani ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi khalidwe labwino, osati kuthekera kuti mwina tsiku lina adzasanduke munthu wamaloto anu.
Nchifukwa chiyani khalidwe ndilofunika? Chifukwa moyo ndi wovuta, ndipo mukusowa wina amene amachita zoyenera ngakhale sizili bwino. Ayi wina amene ali ndi kuthekera kochita zabwino tsiku lina munthawi yamsewu.
Zizindikiro zosaoneka bwino: Ma AAA atatu
Ndidafunsa Brett Novick, wothandizira maukwati komanso wolemba "Musakwatire Ndimu!" kwa upangiri wake pazomwe mungayang'anire mnzanu. Amalangiza kutengera mawonekedwe ndi zikhulupiliro koposa zonse, kuphatikiza kukongola kwakuthupi ndi umagwirira.
"Samalani ndi ma A atatu: AAA ya Mowa, Chizolowezi, Zinthu," Novick akutero. "Kodi ali ndi mbiri yodumpha kuchokera pachibwenzi kupita pachibwenzi? Chizolowezi? Kodi amamwa kwambiri? ”
Novick akuchenjeza za AAAs chifukwa amati zambiri zamunthu. Munthu amene amamwa mowa kwambiri mwina satha kuthana ndi mavuto athanzi, ndipo uchidakwa ndi nkhondo yodyetsa yomwe ingalimbikitse ubale wanu. Momwemonso zizolowezi zosonyeza kufooka kwamakhalidwe zomwe zingawononge banja. Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi mbiri yachiyanjano chachifupi sangakhale okhoza kudzipereka kwa inu.
Ovuta kwambiri A: Nkhani
Bwanji ngati wakupusitsani musanalowe m'banja? Monga katswiri wothandiza maanja kuthana ndi kusakhulupirika, ndikupangira kuti muthe tsopano. Ukwati ndi wovuta. Mufunikira wina yemwe azikuthandizani nthawi zonse, ngakhale nthawi zovuta. Ngati anakunyengani, wakuwonetsani kuti ndi ndani. Yendani panja tsopano, pamene ululu umangokhala wosweka. Zowawa zakusudzulana ndizowopsa kwambiri, makamaka ngati muli ndi ana naye.
Zizindikiro za khalidwe labwino
Koma mungadziwe bwanji ngati munthu ali ndi khalidwe labwino?
Novick akuti mutha kudziwa ngati bambo ali ndi khalidwe labwino kapena loipa poyang'ana momwe amacheza ndi anthu ena. "Tonsefe timayesetsa kukhala ndi khalidwe lathu labwino tikakumana ndi munthu koyamba," akutero Novick. “Tikukhulupirira kuti amakusamalirani bwino. Onani momwe amachitira ndi anthu ena, makamaka anthu omwe sangathe kumuthandiza kapena kumuthandiza chilichonse. Kodi amamuthandiza bwanji woperekera zakudya? Banja lake? Amayi ake? ”
Chifukwa chiyani muyenera kusamala ndi momwe amachitira ndi anthu omwe samamupindulitsa? Anthu ambiri amakhala ozindikira mokwanira kuti adziwe kuti tiyenera kuchita bwino tikamafuna kuti tibwezere kena kake. Komabe, muyenera kudziwa momwe adzakuchitireni mtsogolo, pamene nonse muli omasuka wina ndi mnzake, kapena muli ndi nkhawa. Nthawi yokondwerera ukwati itatha, kodi adzapitilizabe kumuganizira? Mukufuna kusankha munthu wokoma mtima, wowolowa manja, waulemu komanso wofunitsitsa kudzipereka chifukwa cha ena.
Momwemonso, mukufuna kuyang'ana zisonyezero kuti ndiye mtundu wa munthu yemwe angathane ndi zovuta zammoyo. Kodi ndi wolimba mtima? Zabwino? Kutha kuthana ndi zopinga komanso zovuta popanda kuimba mlandu ena pamavuto ake? Onani momwe amasamalira chilichonse kuchokera pagalimoto yoyipa mpaka ngozi yagalimoto. Kodi nthawi zonse chilichonse chimakhala cholakwika ndi wina, kapena amatha kuvomereza kulakwa akalakwitsa? Kodi ndi wokonda kubwezera kapena wachisomo?
Musanatero ndimatero
Kusankha bwenzi kumakhala kovuta. Zitha kukhala zokopa kukhazikika ndikungoti inde ngati kufunafuna mwamuna kwakhala kwanthawi yayitali komanso kotopetsa. Monga mlangizi wa maukwati, ndikukutsimikizirani kuti ndibwino kukhala osakwatira ndikupitiliza kufunafuna kuposa kumangiriza mfundo ndi munthu wopanda khalidwe. Mwamuna wabwino amayenera kudikirira, ngakhale mutayenera kusiya chibwenzi musanakonzekere.