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Monga HSP (Munthu Wosamala Kwambiri), ndimakhala wodabwitsidwa nthawi zonse ndimomwe anthu ambiri sanayesere kusinkhasinkha kapena kulingalira. Tawonani kuchuluka kwa zomwe zimatipanikiza tsiku lonse: kuthamanga kwathu m'mawa; nkhani zosokoneza zomwe zikuwoneka kuti zikuipiraipira ndikuchenjeza kulikonse; zokopa zomwe tiyenera kuchita ngati tikufuna kuti makasitomala athu kapena ntchito zizigwirabe; kuwonjezeka kwa masiku omalizira; kusatsimikizika ngati zoyesayesa zathu kapena zoopsa zathu zingapindule; nkhawa zakuti mwina tidzakhala ndi zokwanira pantchito yopuma pantchito kapena ngakhale renti ya mwezi wamawa. Zonsezi kuwonjezera pa zomwe filosofi ya Tao imati "zisangalalo zikwi khumi ndi zisoni zikwi khumi" zomwe zimaphatikizapo moyo wamunthu. Kodi aliyense angatani kuti akhale wamisala popanda kukonza malo obisalako kwa mphindi 10 patsiku?
Ndiyeno pali ukwati!
Malire opindulitsa koma amiyala kwambiri omwe amafunikira chisamaliro chachikulu komanso kuleza mtima. Kuti tisaiwale, ziribe kanthu kuti ndife ndani kapena zomwe tingachite kuti tipeze ndalama, timatenga dziko lathu ndikupita nalo kwathu. Ndipo dziko lino, ngakhale lili lodabwitsa, ndilopikitsanso mavuto. Kungakhale bwino kwa ife tonse ngati tingapeze njira, mwa mawu a mtsogoleri waku Zen waku Vietnam a Thich Nhat Hahn, "ozizira moto." Ochenjera nthawi yonse amalimbikitsa kusinkhasinkha ngati njira yochotsera zinthu zomwe timadzipeza, makamaka zomwe zimakhudza okondedwa athu.
Kwa zaka 20 zapitazi, ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito yosinkhasinkha, makamaka mu miyambo ya Theravada ya Chibuda, ndipo sindingathe kufotokoza momwe mchitidwewu wandithandizira kuti ndichepetse mkhalidwe wanga wolimba kwambiri ndikupanga kumveka bwino ndi mgwirizano mu ubale wanga , makamaka ndi amuna anga Julius omwe, chifukwa cha zabwino zake zonse, atha kukhala ochepa okha.
Ndizosatheka kuchepetsa zopindulitsa zaukwati pakuchita kusinkhasinkha mpaka zitatu zokha, koma nazi zitatu pamsewu:
1. Kumvetsera ndi kupezeka
Mukusinkhasinkha kwachikhalidwe, timaphunzitsidwa kukhala chete, ngakhale mayiko atakhala kuti akutuluka ndikumwalira m'maganizo ndi matupi athu titakhala. A Ram Dass amatcha izi "Kukulitsa Umboni." Chilichonse ndi zonse zitha kutichezera tikakhala pansi - kunyong'onyeka, kusakhazikika, mwendo wopanikizika, zosangalatsa zabwino, zokumbukira m'manda, mtendere waukulu, mikuntho yamphamvu, kufunitsitsa kutuluka mchipinda - ndipo timalola chilichonse kuti chikhale ndi chonena popanda kulola tokha kuti tiponyedwe kutali ndi iwo.
Zomwe timaphunzira poyeserera kumvetsera ndikukhala pa khushoni, pambuyo pake timatha kugwiritsa ntchito ubale wathu ndi anzathu.
Titha kukhalapo kwa iwo ndikumvetsera ndikumvetsera kwathunthu ndikakhala ndi chidwi akakhala ndi tsiku loipa kuntchito kapena akabwerera ndi nkhani yoti afika paakaunti yofunika kwambiri kapena akamafotokoza zomwe dokotala wanena awafotokozere momwe thanzi la amayi awo lasinthira. Titha kuloleza kuchuluka kwa moyo wathu popanda kuthawitsa kapena kuthawa.
2. Kupumira kopatulika
Tivomerezane: Maanja ali ndi ndewu zawo ndipo ndi nthawi yamikangano pomwe zambiri zomwe zakhala zikuchitika pansi pano zitha kuchitika. Tikamaphunzira mozama kusinkhasinkha, timayamba kudziwa bwino zomwe mphunzitsi wachi Buddha wotchedwa Tara Brach amachitcha kuti "Kupuma Koyera."
Pamene mkangano ukukula, titha kumva m'thupi mwathu, tazindikira momwe timachitira ndi thupi (kumangika m'manja, magazi akuyenda kudzera muubongo wathu, pakamwa pocheperako), kupuma mozama ndikuwunika ngati malingaliro athu ali, m'mawu ake a Brach, "Malo Oberekera Ochita Zinthu Mwanzeru."
Ngati sichoncho, tingachite bwino kudziletsa kuti tisamalankhule mpaka nthawi yomwe titha kuyankha modekha komanso momveka bwino.
Ndizosavuta kuzinena kuposa kuzichita, zachidziwikire, ndipo zimafunikira maphunziro ambiri, koma zitha kupanga kusiyana konse kuubwenzi wathu komanso miyoyo ya iwo omwe akhudzidwa ndiubwenzi.
Ku Metta Sutta, Buddha adapempha ophunzira ake kuti ayambe gawo lililonse la kusinkhasinkha (kukoma mtima kwachikondi) pokumbukira, koyamba, nthawi yomwe amalola mkwiyo kuwapeza opambana ndipo, chachiwiri, nthawi yomwe mkwiyo udabuka koma adapitiliza awo ozizira ndipo sanachitepo kanthu. Ndayamba kale magawo anga onse osinkhasinkha pamalingaliro ndi malangizo awa ndipo nditha kunena mosapita m'mbali kuti zinthu zimayenda bwino ndikamakhala bata. Ndikutsimikiza ndizofanana kwa inu ndi mnzanu.
3. Khama
Tonse tikudziwika omwe akufuna chisangalalo chotsatira osadzilola kuzolowera zochitika wamba. Poyamba, titha kudziganiza kuti ndife anzeru kuti tipewe kunyong'onyeka, kenako ndikupeza kuti chilichonse chomwe tithamange chotsatira chidzatithawa posachedwa.
Moyo wabanja ndiwodzala ndi zachilendo - ngongole, ntchito zapakhomo, chakudya chamadzulo chomwecho chomwe timakhala Lachitatu lililonse usiku - koma izi siziyenera kuwonedwa ngati nkhani zoyipa.
M'malo mwake, mu Zen, palibe malo apamwamba kuposa kukhala mokhazikika pazomwe timakumana nazo. Mukusinkhasinkha, timaphunzira kupachikidwa pamenepo, pomwe tili, ndikuwona momwe moyo wathu wonse ulili pano pomwe timakhala. Timayamba kuwona momwe zimakhalira zambiri komanso, ndizodabwitsa kwambiri ngakhale zokumana nazo wamba (kusesa pansi, kumwa tiyi).
Monga ndidanenera koyambirira, izi sizomwe zili ndi mndandanda wazopindulitsa, koma izi zokha ndizifukwa zokwanira kuti zikufikitseni ku khushoni yanu yosinkhasinkha kapena mpando wolimba koma wabwino, komwe mungayambire ulendo wanu pongoyang'ana mpweya wanu.
M'mizinda yambiri, pali malo osinkhasinkha momwe mungachitire kalasi yoyamba. Kapena pitani ku laibulale kuti mukawone buku. Mutha kulowa pa dharmaseed.org kapena pulogalamu ya Insight Timer kapena kungoyang'ana zokambirana kuchokera kwa aphunzitsi odziwika bwino monga Jack Kornfield, Tara Brach, kapena Pema Chodron pa Youtube. Momwe mumayambira zinthu zochepa kuposa momwe mumayambira ... kuti zithandizire anthu onse, makamaka mnzanu!