Zamkati
- Kutha kudzilamulira kumathandizira kulumikizana kwabwino
- 1. Pamene mukuyamba kumukwiyira mnzanu
- 2. Dzipangitseni nokha
- 3. Yang'anani kumbuyo pa nkhaniyi
- 4. Funsani maganizo a mnzanu
- 5. Mukamacheza, muzikumbukira ndi kutseguka
Kukhala pachibwenzi kumakhala ndi zabwino zake. Zomwezo zitha kunenedwanso ndikukhala ndi banja. Pokhudzana ndi kusamvana mdera lililonse, kulumikizana kwamphamvu komwe kungakhalepo pachibwenzi chilichonse kumavomerezedwa.
Kutha kudzilamulira kumathandizira kulumikizana kwabwino
Chofunikira kwambiri pakulankhula bwino ndi kuthekera kwathu pakudziwongolera pawokha.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Kwenikweni, izi zikutanthauza momwe timatha kusamalira malingaliro athu. Izi zingawoneke ngati lingaliro lachilendo koma chomwe chingakhale chinthu chomwe nthawi zambiri chimakhala panjira, kuzindikira.
Ndi kuzindikira za zikhulupiliro zathu ndi zikhulupiriro zathu ndi momwe zimakhudzira zomwe tikuyembekezera zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zoyambitsa kupanga kulumikizana, kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro, komanso pamapeto pake mikangano kapena ngakhale kusudzulana.
Pogwira ntchito ndi maanja, nthawi zambiri amabwera kwa ine kudzawonetsa kukwiya kwawo kuti wokondedwa wawo sanasamale kuchita 'x' kapena kuyiwala kuchita 'y' kapena kusokoneza 'z'. Nthawi zina, machitidwe omwe amalankhula angawoneke ngati opanda pake (monga kuchotsa zinyalala kapena kutsuka chotsuka chotsuka) kotero pamene ayesa kulankhulana ndi kuthetsa vutoli sakuwoneka kuti akupita kulikonse.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa sakulankhula zenizeni!
Nkhani yeniyeni ndikuti zinthu izi zikuyimira chiyani kwa iwo, tanthauzo lakuya la zomwe zikuyimira. Izi ndi zomwe tiyenera kulumikizana ndikumvetsetsa ndi mnzathu chifukwa moona mtima, palibe amene amasamala za mbale.
"Nanga timayamba bwanji kuzindikira izi?" mungafunse. Nawa maupangiri angapo okuthandizani kuti muziyenda bwino.
1. Pamene mukuyamba kumukwiyira mnzanu
Tawonani komwe mumamva zomverera izi komanso momwe zimakhudzira inu.
Pamlingo wa 1 mpaka 10, kodi ndi 3 kapena 7? Izi zikuthandizani kuti muyambe kupanga chidziwitso pakufunika kwakuti nkhaniyo ndiyofunika kufunikira kwake kapena chikhulupiriro chake. Zinthu zina zitha kukambirana pomwe ena sangatero.
Ngati ili 10 nthawi iliyonse, ndingafunike kulingalira ngati uyu ndi wopanga malonda.
2. Dzipangitseni nokha
Tengani nthawi kuti muzilemekeza zilizonse zomwe mukukumana nazo pobwerera ndikumakwaniritsa zosowa zanu musanazilankhule!
Kulumikizana ndi malingaliro ozama amenewo ndikumveka kumamveka kokwanira momwe ziliri, makamaka tikakhala pakati pawo. Mwayi wake, kutero kungangokulitsa zinthu. M'malo mwake, dzikonzereni.
Zinthu monga kupuma kwambiri, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusinkhasinkha, kumvera nyimbo zamayiko awiri, komanso kudzisamalira, ndi zina zonse njira zabwino zothanirana ndi nkhondo, kuthawa kapena kuzizira mdziko ndikubwerera mdziko lathu lomveka bwino.
3. Yang'anani kumbuyo pa nkhaniyi
Mukakhala ndi nthawi yoyendetsedwa, yang'anani kumbuyo nkhaniyi ndikudzifunsa kuti phindu kapena chikhulupiriro chomwe chidatsutsidwa panthawiyo chinali chiyani?
Kodi mbale ndi chizindikiro chogwirira ntchito limodzi muubwenzi? Kodi vuto lalikulu lomwe ndikumva ngati mnzanga sakuwakoka kapena linali lonena za iwo osasamba mbale chifukwa adagwiranso ntchito mochedwa.
Kodi izi zimandiuza kuti, "Simukufuna ine?" Monga mukuwonera, machitidwe omwewo atha kutanthauza china chosiyana ndi muzu ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti mumveke bwino musanalankhule.
4. Funsani maganizo a mnzanu
Mukadutsa magawo atatu oyamba, mwakonzeka kukonzekera. Lembani zomwe mwatenga powunikirako kuti mugawane ndi bwenzi lanu. Mwachitsanzo, mudakwiya bwanji pamlingo wanu ndipo zimalumikizana bwanji ndi mtengo wanu (mwachitsanzo, kufunikira kwake ndi chifukwa chiyani).
Komanso, funsani malingaliro a mnzanu pa nthawi yabwino yokambirana. Sankhani nthawi yomwe ingathandize nonse kulola zosokoneza zochepa kapena zoyambitsa zina mbali iliyonse.
5. Mukamacheza, muzikumbukira ndi kutseguka
Wokondedwa wanu azikhala ndi malingaliro komanso momwe akumvera.
Mukufuna kusamalira iwo koma mwaulemu dziwani kuti mukufuna kugawana nawo kaye.
Khalani kutali ndi mawu oti "inu" chifukwa izi nthawi zambiri zimatha kutumiza anthu kudzitchinjiriza zomwe sizolinga.
Cholinga ndikumva ndikumvera ndikusintha kusintha! M'malo mwake, gwiritsani ntchito mawu oti "Ine" kutsimikiza kutha ndi pempho lakusintha kwamakhalidwe. Zonse ndizokhudza momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito limodzi kuthetsa vutoli.