Zamkati
- 1. Landirani wokondedwa wanu momwe aliri, mwa umunthu wawo wonse wowoneka bwino
- 2. Kumbukirani momwe mudalumikizirana chaka choyamba chomwe mudali pachibwenzi
- 3. Pezani nthawi mlungu uliwonse kuti mukambirane zenizeni
- 4. Sungani zinthu zachigololo
- 5. Sungani zogonana pa radar yanu
- 6. Menyani mwachilungamo
- 7. Nenani chisoni
- 8. Zizindikiro zazing'ono zachikondi zimapindula kwambiri
- 9. Palibe ubale womwe umakondana 100% nthawi zonse
- 10. Kondani mnzanu, ndikondeni inunso
Kuonetsetsa kuti chibwenzi chanu chimakhalabe chachikulu kumatanthauza kukhala okangalika posunga zinthu mosangalala, athanzi, komanso zolimbikitsa. Mabanja omwe amanyalanyaza ntchito yofunikira kuti akhalebe ndi chidwi komanso chidwi chomwe chinali chosavuta mchaka choyamba atha kuyika ubale wawo pachiwopsezo mwa kuchita chizolowezi. Musalole kuti izi zichitike paubwenzi wanu!
Chifukwa chake, ndi zinthu ziti khumi zofunika kwambiri muubwenzi zomwe muyenera kuzisamalira kuti ubale wanu ukhale watsopano, wosangalatsa komanso wolimba?
1. Landirani wokondedwa wanu momwe aliri, mwa umunthu wawo wonse wowoneka bwino
Pali nthawi muubwenzi uliwonse pomwe ma quirks onse omwe mudawapeza okongola komanso osangalatsa mchaka chanu choyamba cha chibwenzi amakhala okhumudwitsa. Momwe amatsukira pakhosi kapena kuyambitsa batala lawo "momwemo" pachotupitsa chawo, kapena momwe ayenera kuvalira pambali, osalunjika pa saladi wawo.
Kulandila zinthu izi ndikofunikira kuubwenzi wanthawi yayitali. Palibe amene ali wangwiro, koma tikukhulupirira kuti zinthu zabwino zonse zokhudzana ndi mnzanu zimaposa zodabwitsa, apo ayi, simukanakhala nawo, sichoncho?
Chifukwa chake mnzanu akayamba kukuwonetsani momwe alili, pitirizani kuwakonda mosagwirizana.
2. Kumbukirani momwe mudalumikizirana chaka choyamba chomwe mudali pachibwenzi
Tengani phunzilo kuchokera pamenepo ndikuphatikizanso zina mwazomwe zimakopa mukamacheza ndi mnzanu. Ngati tsopano mumangokhalira kutuluka thukuta ndi T-sheti yakale yakuda yaku yunivesite mukangofika kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, ganizirani kawiri za izi.
Zachidziwikire, ndizabwino. Koma kodi sizingakhale bwino kuti mnzanu abwere kunyumba kwa munthu yemwe mudali miyezi yoyambirira ya chibwenzi?
Chovala chosyasyalika, zodzoladzola zokongola, spritz wa mafuta onunkhira? Sitikunena kuti muyenera kukhala Stepford Wife, koma kudzinyadira pang'ono kumakupangitsani kuti mumve bwino za inu nokha ndikuwonetsa mnzanu kuti mumasamala momwe amakuwonerani.
Kodi ndi liti pamene mudapitako tsiku lapadera ngati tsiku? Sungani malo odyera abwino, valani diresi lakuda lakuda, ndipo mukakumana ndi mnzanu kumeneko, monga momwe mudakhalira limodzi.
3. Pezani nthawi mlungu uliwonse kuti mukambirane zenizeni
Zachidziwikire, nonse mumakambirana za tsiku lanu pamene muwonana madzulo aliwonse. Yankho nthawi zambiri limakhala kuti "Zonse zinali bwino." Izi sizikuthandizani kuti mugwirizane kwambiri, sichoncho?
Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi chachikulu ndikulankhulana kwakukulu, mtundu womwe mumasinthana malingaliro, kapena kukonzanso dziko lapansi, kapena kumangomvera malingaliro osiyanasiyana, kuvomereza momwe winayo akuwonera ndikumvetsetsa.
Kukambirana moyenera - monga ndale, zochitika zaposachedwa, kapena buku lomwe mukuwerengali - kumalimbikitsa ubale wanu ndikukukumbutsani momwe wokondedwa wanu aliri wosangalatsa komanso wanzeru.
4. Sungani zinthu zachigololo
Sitikulankhula zamatsenga apa. (Tidzafika kwa iwo posachedwa!). Tikulankhula zazing'ono zonse zomwe mungachite kuti musunge zinthu zachiwerewere (ndikusiya kuchita zinthu zosagwirizana) muubwenzi.
Tengani nsonga kuchokera kwa azimayi achi French, omwe samalola wokondedwa wawo kuwawona akutsuka mano. Zinthu zosasangalatsa zomwe maanja amachita chifukwa "adadutsa nthawi ya mayeso", monga kupititsa gasi poyera, kapena kudula zikhadabo zawo uku akuwonera TV? Unsexy.
Ndizabwino kwambiri komanso zabwino kuti mukhale pachibwenzi kuti muchite zinthu zina panokha.
5. Sungani zogonana pa radar yanu
Ngati kugonana kukucheperachepera kapena kulibe, dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani? Pakhoza kukhala chifukwa chomveka chosakhala chopanga chikondi.
Koma ngati palibe chifukwa chenicheni chazomwe zakhala zaka kuyambira pomwe inu nonse mwapanga boogie yopingasa, mverani. Mabanja achimwemwe amafotokoza kuti amakonda kugonana. Ngakhale wina atakhala kuti alibe, amangokhalira kukumbatirana ndikugwirana — ndipo nthawi zambiri zimapangidwira kupanga chikondi.
Kulumikizana komwe kumapangidwa ndikupanga chikondi ndikofunikira paubwenzi waubwenzi wanu choncho musapite patali popanda izi. Ngati mukuyenera kukonzekera kugonana pa kalendala, zikhale choncho.
6. Menyani mwachilungamo
Maanja akulu amamenya nkhondo, koma amamenya nkhondo mwachilungamo. Zimatanthauza chiyani? Zimatanthawuza kuti amapereka nthawi kwa iwo onse, kulola munthu aliyense kufotokoza malingaliro awo ndi malingaliro awo. Samasokoneza, ndipo amamvetsera mwatcheru, kuwonetsa izi pogwedeza mutu kapena kunena kuti "Ndikumvetsetsa zomwe ukunena". Cholinga chawo ndikupeza mgwirizano kapena mgwirizano womwe ungavomerezedwe ndi onse.
Cholinga chawo sikunyoza munthu winayo, kapena kubweretsa madandaulo akale, kapena kulankhula nawo mopanda ulemu. Ndipo musalakwitse poganiza kuti ndewu sizili pachibwenzi chachikulu.
Ngati simumenya nkhondo, ndiye kuti simukulankhulana mokwanira.
7. Nenani chisoni
Kodi mukudziwa mphamvu ya mawu awiri oti "Pepani" ndi amodzi mwamachiritso padziko lapansi? Khalani owolowa manja ndi "Pepani" yanu ingapo. Nthawi zambiri zimangotengera kuti mkangano usakwere. Ilinso ndi mphamvu yakubweretsa pamodzi.
Osatsatira ndi "koma ....." Pepani ndikwanira, zokha.
8. Zizindikiro zazing'ono zachikondi zimapindula kwambiri
Ngakhale mutakhala limodzi zaka 25, zimayambira zazing'ono zothokoza mnzanu ndizofunikira.
Maluwa ena, maswiti omwe mumawakonda, chibangili chokongola chomwe mudawona pamsika wa Mlimi ... zopereka zonsezi zimamuwuza mnzanuyo zomwe zinali m'maganizo mwanu nthawi imeneyo ndipo mumathokoza kupezeka kwanu m'moyo wanu.
9. Palibe ubale womwe umakondana 100% nthawi zonse
Ndikofunika kudziwa zenizeni za kuchepa ndi kuyenda muubwenzi osangodumphira nthawi yoyamba (kapena ya 50) yomwe ili munthawi yochepa. Apa ndipomwe ntchito yeniyeni yolimbikitsira chikondi chanu yachitika.
10. Kondani mnzanu, ndikondeni inunso
Maubwenzi abwino, athanzi amapangidwa ndi anthu awiri abwino komanso athanzi. Musadzifufute nokha kuti mugwirizane ndi chibwenzicho, kapena chitha.
Yesetsani kudzisamalira kuti mutha kupezeka kwathunthu kwa mnzanu, m'malingaliro, thupi, ndi mzimu.
Mukudabwa, ndi zinthu ziti khumi zofunika kwambiri pachibwenzi? Chabwino! Muli ndi yankho lanu.