Zamkati
Banja lililonse limamenya nkhondo nthawi ina, ndizosapeweka. Ndi pambuyo pa nkhondo yomwe imakhala yofunika kwambiri. Makanema ena atha kukhala osalamulirika ndikupanga kapena kuwononga chibwenzi, nayi makanema anayi kutengera momwe maanja amakangana komanso momwe zotsatira za ndewu izi zimakhudzira ubalewo.
Malinga ndi American Psychology Association, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zimapanga ubale wabwino komanso wathanzi. Okwatirana amakangana za nthawi yabwino, ndalama, ntchito zapakhomo, ndipo nthawi zina kusakhulupirika kumachitika. Zitha kukhala zopweteka kwambiri ndipo nthawi zina anthu samadziwa zomwe ayenera kuyembekezera mkangano ukayamba. Zomwe zimapangitsa ubale wabwino zimaphatikizapo kumenyera chilungamo, kulumikizana kuti mudziwane, kutenga zoopsa, komanso kuthandizana pafupipafupi. Ndinaika mndandanda wamakanema omwe akuwonetsani zomwe simuyenera kuchita ngati mukufuna chibwenzi chabwinopo. Onani ngati inu ndi mnzanu mungafanane ndi makanemawa.
Lonjezo
Paige ndi Leo amakondana kwambiri. Mpaka ngozi yangozi yamagalimoto imachoka Paige popanda kukumbukira kwake. Leo amamuthandiza kuyesa kukumbukira koma ndizovuta. Paige ali mu studio yake pamene Leo alowa kuti ayese kulankhula naye ndikumuuza momwe amakonda kwambiri zaluso zake. Anatinso anali kuyimba nyimbo yake mokweza kuti luso lake liziyenda. Amakuwa kuti aime! Zimitsani nyimbo ndikumva mutu! ” Ichi chinali chowonekera kwambiri.
Muli ndi okwatirana omwe amakondana kwambiri ndipo ali pachibwenzi, tikungofuna kuwakonzera mavuto amnzathu. Chithunzichi ndi chitsanzo chabwino chothetsera mavuto a wina pamene munthu wina akufuna kudziwa zinthu paokha. Ndibwino kupereka malingaliro kwa mnzanu mwachikondi koma sizabwino kukwiya ngati zinthu sizikuyenda monga momwe mumapangira.
Blue Valentine
Dean ndi Cindy amakondana ndikukwatirana koma posakhalitsa banja lawo limayamba kutha. Dean amalimbana ndi Cindy pantchito yake, ndikupangitsa kuti Cindy achotsedwe ntchito. Dean ndi kupanda chidwi kwake komanso Cindy kufuna zochuluka pamoyo amasokoneza banja lawo. Amayamba kukula. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha maanja akufuna zinthu zosiyana kotero kumakhala kovuta kulumikizana. Kulephera kulumikizana kumatha kuwononga ubale popeza ndiye maziko aubwenzi wina ndi mnzake ndipo chibwenzicho chimakhala choopsa. Ngati palibe kulumikizana paubwenzi, palibe ubale. Ubwenzi umakhazikitsidwa pazinthu zambiri kuphatikiza kulumikizana.
Kutha kwa banja
Nthawi zina timatha kukhala bwino ndi mnzathu ndi zomwe timachita, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kunyalanyaza wina ndi mnzake. Brooke ndi Gary ndi banja lomwe lili pamphambano muubwenzi wawo, amasiyana ndikumenyera kondomu yomwe amagawana limodzi. Kutha kwawo ndikuti Brooke samva kuyamikiridwa ndi Gary. Amawona kuti zonse zomwe Brooke akunena ndizochulukirapo. Anthu awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi amafuna kumva. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha kuyankhulana koyipa ndikumverera kuti sakuyamikiridwa. Zomwe mungachite m'malo mwake ndikungokhala pansi ndikulankhulana zenizeni zomwe mukufuna, musaganize kuti akudziwa.
Opanda moto
Caleb ndi Catherine ndi chitsanzo chosamvera kapena kupatula nthawi yocheza ndi mnzake. Catherine akuwona kuti Caleb amangodzisamalira yekha ndipo akuwona kuti Catherine samamumvera kapena kukwaniritsa zosowa zake. Amamenyana nthawi zonse ndikuphwasula wina ndi mnzake. Pomaliza amazindikira kuti ataya mkazi wake ndiye mothandizidwa ndi abambo ake amapeza njira zopezera mkazi wake ndikuwonetsa kuti atha kukhala gulu lofanana ndi lomwe amuna ndi akazi ayenera kukhala.
Maganizo Omaliza
Pali zifukwa zambiri zofunika kuganizira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino. Zomwe makanema onsewa amafanana ndikuti alibe maubwenzi abwino omwe ayenera kukhala nawo. Monga kulumikizana bwino, nthawi yabwino, kumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo komanso kutenga zoopsa limodzi. Palibe ubale wabwino kwambiri koma kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo zazikuluzikulu kungakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanu kukhala olimba m'banjamo.