Zamkati
- 1. Ganizirani za nkhaniyi ngati nkhani ya 'mpaka pati'
- 2. Ndi akatswiri pa "Impression Management"
- 3. Amakhala ndi mphatso ya "Chisanu ndi chimodzi" kuti azunkhira anthu oyenera
- Zifukwa zomwe kuli kovuta kwambiri kuzindikira a narcissists ndi ma sociopaths
- Kusiyanitsa pakati pamavuto azovuta za chikhalidwe cha anthu
- Womba mkota
Ngati pakhala pali nthawi m'mbiri ya anthu pomwe mawu amisala asintha kukhala mawu wamba, osazindikirika, ndiye m'zaka za zana lino. Akatswiri kulikonse, makanema apa TV komanso makanema ndiomwe akuwakayikira omwe akulepheretsa izi.
Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, kuyerekezera ziwerengero zamagulu amisala, timayamba kuganiza za 'Chala Chaching'ono.' Pamapeto pake, timapeza munthu kuchokera Game of Thrones- Ramsay Bolton. Kuyang'ana pa iwo, mwina titha kuganiza kuti tikudziwa tanthauzo lenileni la zilembo ziwiri izi "narcissist" ndi "sociopath". Choyipa chachikulu kulingalira ndichinyengo chakuti titha kuwona anthuwa m'moyo weniweni.
Nkhani lero ndi kufunafuna kumvetsetsa kusiyanitsa pakati pa anthu awiriwa- narcissist kapena sociopath. Kenako phunzirani kuwona kusiyana, kufanana, ndi zizindikilo zoti muziyang'anira m'zochitika zenizeni m'moyo.
Zachidziwikire, pali kupezeka kwakukulu pakati pamavuto awa. Chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino pamavuto azikhalidwe zaanthu komanso kuti narcissist ndikuti onsewa agwera mgulu la "Cluster B" pakati pa DSM-5 yokhala ndimatenda amisala, antisocial, histrionic komanso malire amalire.
Monga akunenera, moyo wa pa TV siwowona, ndipo kumakhala kosavuta kwambiri kuwona anthu, akatswiri azachipembedzo kapena ngakhale omwe timaganiza kuti ali "achikale" kuposa momwe ziliri m'moyo weniweni.
Mwakutero, talemba chifukwa chake zimakhala zovuta nthawi zina kuti tipeze ochita zachiwerewere kapena anthu wamba m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, ndi zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse kuwonongeka koyambirira.
1. Ganizirani za nkhaniyi ngati nkhani ya 'mpaka pati'
Ndizotheka kuti wina awonetse zizindikilo za vuto koma osakwaniritsa zofunikira zonse ndikumutcha kuti sociopath kapena narcissist. Ena ndi odzikonda kapena ali ndi "kukoma" kovuta, komabe munthu yemweyo safika kumapeto kwenikweni kwa kupitiriza kwa zikhalidwezo. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mbali yawo yamdima imachitika pafupipafupi kapena mozama kwambiri yomwe ingayembekezeredwe pamatenda athunthu kapena, amalola kutsutsidwa pamakhalidwe awo kumapereka mayankho.
Anthu ochita zachiwerewere kapena okonda kucheza ndi anzawo amafunika kukhala osamala kwambiri kuti athe kuthana nawo komanso kukhala okonzeka kumeza "ayi, ndiye kuti ndinu ovuta" ndikuwunikiranso moto mukamafotokozera zinazake zamakhalidwe awo.
Amatha kukulangani ndi njira zina monga chete kapena chiwawa chobisalira. Itha kukhala yocheperako kapena yolimba ngati momwe ingakhalire ndi munthu yemweyo yemwe ali kumapeto kwenikweni kwa masewerawa.
Chifukwa chake, timasiyanitsa bwanji? Kodi mbendera yofiira ikuwonetsa nthawi yanji? Makhalidwe ofatsawa mwina sangapangitse kuti munthu azinena kuti ndi wolakwa kapena wamakhalidwe abwino koma munthu amene savomereza kuti walakwitsa, amakhala wokonda kubwezera komanso wosafuna kunyengerera ndiye kuti ali ndi malire mwa "mikhalidwe" yochepa. Amakhala ngati wokonda kucheza ndi anthu kapena wamisili.
2. Ndi akatswiri pa "Impression Management"
Kuwongolera chidwi ndi chinthu chovuta kuchizindikira mwa munthu, ndipo munthu akakhala waluso kwambiri, ndizofunika kuzindikira momwe amathandizira. Zili ngati kuti mungasokoneze wopusa ngati wanzeru akakhala chete.
Ngakhale anthu omwe ali ndimavuto amatha kudziwonetsera ngati oganiza bwino, osangalatsa komanso oyenera. M'malo mwake, ena amatha kukupusitsani popanda kuwazindikira mbali yawo ndipo mumakhala ndi udindo pazolakwitsa zawo ndikuwathandiza kuchita zomwe akufuna.
Olemba ma Narcissist ali ndi luso lapadera chifukwa ali ndi luso lapamwamba loti akupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu apadera pomwe chidwi chawo chili pa inu.
Kuphatikiza apo, mfundo yoti wankhanza amayang'anitsitsa mawonekedwe awo, nthawi zina amatha kukhala okongola- chomwe ndi gawo la masewera awo okopa.
3. Amakhala ndi mphatso ya "Chisanu ndi chimodzi" kuti azunkhira anthu oyenera
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe ma narcissists kapena ma sociopaths ndi ovuta kuziwona m'dera lamasiku ano ndi chifukwa chakuti anthuwa ali ndi mphatso yosankha anthu oti awasokoneze. Anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo, amadaliranso ndipo amakonda kufunafuna zabwino mwa ena. Narcissist kapena Sociopath?
Chifukwa anthu ena ochita zachinyengo komanso ochita zachiwerewere ndi achinyengo modabwitsa ndipo amatha kuzindikira anthu "abwino" mgululi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti anthu awa omwe akuwoneka ngati abwino awone mpaka atachita zoopsa zazikulu komanso zosatsutsika m'miyoyo yawo.
Komanso, chifukwa ambiri aife tidalembetsa zamakhalidwe abwino omwe amati ndi olakwika komanso abwino, anthu ena (makamaka anthu ozindikira) amakonda kufunafuna "chifukwa chomveka" chomwe wina akuchitira "zosayenera" Amachita izi popereka njira yopindulitsa m'malo mofufuza zomwe zingakhale zovuta pamakhalidwe ndi machitidwe omwe anthu awa amabisala.
Pakafukufuku yemwe adachitika mzaka zoyambilira, kupezeka kwachisokonezo chazindikiritso- komwe ndi kuopa kupsinjika komwe tingakhale nako ngati titayamba kusakhulupirira, mantha kapena kuda nkhawa ndi mantha pazomwe titha kupeza za wokondedwa, zidatsimikizika kukhala chifukwa chomwe ambiri amatithandizira kutanthauzira zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe timafunikira komanso zomwe timafuna kukhulupilira za munthu, makamaka kwa wokondedwa.
Zifukwa zomwe kuli kovuta kwambiri kuzindikira a narcissists ndi ma sociopaths
Ma Sociopaths ndi narcissist ndianthu wamba monga ife ndipo amafanana ndendende ndi tonsefe. M'malo mwake, ena amayang'anira mawonekedwe awo (a narcissists) kuposa ena. Akhozanso kukhala akhama pantchito, olemera komanso ovala bwino kuposa ife. Palibe chilichonse chakuthupi chomwe chimasiyanitsa iwo ndi ife.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pamavuto azovuta za chikhalidwe cha anthu
Kusiyana kwakukulu ndi:
- Olemba ma Narcissist amadziona kuti ndi ofunika komanso kuti ndiwofunika. Ayenera kuti apitirire patsogolo zomwe akwanitsa kapena amayembekeza kuti azindikirika kuposa ena
- Ma Sociopath amasangalala chifukwa chokhala opusitsa kwambiri. Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, angafune kuti akudziweni kaye, azilankhula nanu ndikumvetsetsa mfundo zanu zochepa. Izi ndizosiyana ndi narcissists.
- Narcissists atha kuvulazidwa kapena kukwiya- ngati amamva kukhumudwa kwambiri kapena kukwiya akapanda kuyamikiridwa komanso kumvera konsekonse padziko lapansi. Ndiwukali waukulu pamalingaliro awo. Ma Sociopath kumbali inayo amakumana ndi zosakhalitsa ndipo amazitenga ngati anthu wamba.
- AchiNarcissist amakwiya ndi kuwopseza. Amachita bwino kuchititsa anthu manyazi. Ma Sociopaths amagwiritsa ntchito kunyengerera komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zovuta zomwe munthu ali nazo.
Womba mkota
Narcissist kapena Sociopath? Zofanana, kusiyanasiyana ndi zizindikilo, zonse zomwe zayang'aniridwa, zitha kukupangitsani kuti mukhale ovuta kukhulupirira komanso malingaliro koma chowonadi ndichakuti anthuwa alipo ndipo simudzawalekanitsa powayang'ana.
Komanso, mawu awiriwa atha kukhala kuti adagwiritsidwa ntchito mosinthana ndi anthu ena otchuka koma, izi sizimawapatsa tanthauzo limodzi. Ali ndi kusiyana kowonekera ngakhale wina atha kuwonetsa zina mwazowonetserako za zovuta izi komanso koposa zomwe sizikugwirizana nawo.