Zamkati
- Njala yotamanda
- Kupweteka anthu kuti asokoneze malingaliro awo
- Woweruza
- Nsanje ndi tsankho la kupambana kwa ena
- Perekani mpweya woyenera
- Nthawi zonse amafuna kuti ena azichita zambiri
- Miyezo yosiyana
- Chidaliro komanso chosangalatsa
Narcissism ndimavuto amunthu omwe amapangitsa kuti munthu azidziona ngati wofunika kuposa ena. Wolemba zamatsenga amadziona kuti ndi wofunika kwambiri komanso wodzidalira.
Mkhalidwe wa wankhanza ndi wamtali komanso wokulirapo ngati mahealayas.
Munthu amene amadzinamiza amadziona kuti ndi wapamwamba kuposa ena popanda zifukwa zomveka.
Wolemba zodziwika bwinoyu amadziwika kuti amachita nkhanza komanso kuzunza anthu omwe amakhala pafupi naye. Kukumana ndi wankhanza sikungakhale kosangalatsa.
Komabe, simungapewe kugundana mwangozi. Ikakhala tsogolo lanu, simungathe kuyisintha ngakhale zitakhala kuti.
Chifukwa chake, mungadziwe bwanji wankhanza pakati pa anthu wamba?
Narcissists ali ndi mawonekedwe ena omwe amawasiyanitsa ndi ena. Mutha kuziona ngati muzindikira mikhalidwe imeneyi.
Onaninso: Psychology of Narcissism.
Njala yotamanda
Wolemba zamatsenga nthawi zonse amakhala ndi njala yolemekezedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa, akhale wowona mtima kapena wosawona mtima.
Narcissists nthawi zonse amawedza mozungulira kuti ayamikire ndi kuyamika. Iwo satopa ndi kutamandidwa. Momwemo, zimamangidwa, zimayamika mopitilira muyeso ndipo zimadyetsa chidwi chawo chachikulu.
Amayang'ana mozungulira kuti akhale ndi anthu omwe adziwa kunyengerera. 'Kutsimikizika' kwamatamando omwe adawasimbira kulibe kanthu, zomwe zimafunikira ndi mawu okutidwa ndi shuga omwe amamva kuchokera kwa ena.
Izi zimawapangitsa kukhala achimwemwe ndi okhutira kwamuyaya.
Kupweteka anthu kuti asokoneze malingaliro awo
Narcissists nthawi zambiri amawongolera ma freaks. Ndiwo maestro owongolera ndikuwunika miyoyo ya anthu.
Kuti achite ntchito yawo, amalankhula zinthu zopweteka kwa anthu, zomwe zimawasokoneza. Akamfooketsa wina, amatha kumugwiritsa ntchito. Ndiwo luso lomwe adapanga.
Sadziimba mlandu aliyense. Chifukwa chake, sizotheka kuti avulazidwe. Samatenga chilichonse pamtima; mutha kuwayesa anthu amitima yamiyala.
Kwa iwo, nthawi zonse amakhala olondola; Ichi ndichifukwa chake samadzimva olakwa pazolakwa zawo.
Ngati mukuchita ndi wankhanza, olakwika nthawi zonse ndimomwe muli. Ndiwo ulamuliro wawo kwa iwo.
Woweruza
Wolemba zanyengo nthawi zonse amakhala woweruza, osasamala za malingaliro a ena. Amadzitenga ngati munthu wowongoka, waluso komanso wokhoza kuwunika chilichonse.
Amakhala ndi tsankho kwambiri pankhani ya anthu ena. Pali kuchepa kwa mgwirizano pakati pa wankhanza kuti amanyalanyaza malingaliro onse opatuka.
Popeza wolemba nkhani amadziona ngati wapamwamba, achita chilichonse kuti apangitse mnzakeyo kukhala wonyozeka.
Nsanje ndi tsankho la kupambana kwa ena
Wolemba zamatsenga sangakhutire ndi wina aliyense amene akukwaniritsa zoposa iwo. Ayenera kusilira anthu opambana owazungulira.
Kaduka kameneka kangakhale kopanda tanthauzo. Nthawi zina, wamisala amatha kukhala munthu wopanda nkhawa kwambiri, zomwe ndi kunyada kwathunthu.
Wolemba zamatsenga nthawi zambiri amakayikira kupambana kwa anthu ena. Chifukwa choti iwowo sangathe kuzipukusa, amaziona ngati zopanda pake komanso zopanda pake.
Iwo sali mneneri wachisangalalo; motero, amawona chilichonse mwanjira yodabwitsa.
Perekani mpweya woyenera
Wolemba zanyengo amaganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu pachilichonse m'moyo.
Amakhala ndi moyo wokokomeza wokhala ndi ufulu. Amaganizira kuti amabadwira kuti azikondedwa ndi kulambiridwa ndi dziko lapansi. Wolemba zamatsenga amabadwa ndi chibadwa chomwe chimawapangitsa kudziona kuti ndi apamwamba.
Nthawi zonse mumapeza munthu wankhanza pakati pa okopa. Amadzizungulira ndi anthu omwe amawawombera m'manja.
Pamfundo yapadera, akawona aliyense akuphwanya malamulo awo, amayamba kuwona zofiira. Amachita chilichonse, mwachilungamo kapena mopanda chilungamo, kuti amugwaditse.
Nthawi zonse amafuna kuti ena azichita zambiri
Wolemba zamatsenga samakhutira ndi zomwe ena amawachitira. Nthawi zonse amangodandaula zosasiyana ndi zachizolowezi. Ngakhale muwachitire zochuluka motani, adzafunsanso zochulukira.
Sadzadzidalira pazinthu zomwe adapatsidwa ndipo apitiliza kukulitsa chiyembekezo chawo.
Miyezo yosiyana
Wolemba zamatsenga samadziwa kufanana ndi zopereka. Zofuna zawo zidzakula pomwe zopereka zawo zidzachepa.
Anthu ena ochita zachiwerewere amayang'ana wina yemwe angathe kumulanda, wina yemwe ali ndi nkhawa kale ndi zowawa zamtundu uliwonse, kapena wina amene angatsatire kudalira.
M'malo mwake, ena mwa ma narcissist amasaka munthu wamakhalidwe abwino komanso wodalirika, ndiye zimawatenga ngati chovuta kuti adzichepetse kudzidalira.
Chidaliro komanso chosangalatsa
Kupatula zofunikira zawo kuyesedwa, kukondedwa, kuopedwa, ndi kulemekezedwa munjira zilizonse zofunika, wotsutsa amatha kukhala ndi mikhalidwe ina yomwe imawakakamiza kuposa ena.
Maluso awiri kapena mawonekedwe oterewa akupitilira chidaliro komanso chithumwa. Ndikudalira komanso kukongola kwa narcissists komwe kumapangitsa anthu kuwagwera.
Chifukwa chake musadabwe ngati mumapeza mnzanu ali wolimba mtima komanso wosangalatsa mukamakumana koyamba, ndipo adakhala mbiri yankhanza.
Nayi mfundo yayikulu yoti mungakodwe ndi wamisala:
- Wokondedwa wanu ndi wamwano, wosamumvera chisoni kapena ayi.
- Mnzanu akuwonetsa machitidwe owongolera.
- 80% ya zomwe mnzanu akunena ndizabodza, ndipo 20% inayo ndi bodza loyera pang'ono.
- Mnzanu amafunika kuti azimva kukhala wapamwamba nthawi zonse.
- Wokondedwa wanu amatsutsa wina aliyense ndipo savomereza zolakwa zawo. Sadzayankha funso lachindunji.
- Mnzanu ndi wozunza ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mawu achipongwe mosavuta.
- Mnzanu sazindikira malire ndipo samatsatira.
- Mnzanu amasewera ndi momwe mumamvera. Wokongola, Wonyenga. Khalani Ankhanza. Bwerezani.
- Wokondedwa wanu samatsimikizira momwe mukumvera. Amazitaya mosavuta komanso osaganizira.
- Wokondedwa wanu samapereka chilichonse mwaufulu osaganizira. Lingaliro ndi momwe angakunyengeni kuti mukhale nawo ngongole kwa iwo.
- Wokondedwa wanu ali ndi nkhani yowopsa yokhudza wakale wawo - wopenga.
- Mnzanu amakukhumudwitsani ndikukuyimbani mlandu chifukwa cha zomwe mwachita.
Ma narcissist osiyanasiyana, njira zosiyanasiyana, koma cholinga chake chimakhala chofanana nthawi zonse. Muubwenzi, wankhanza amayembekeza kuti akhale wolamulira mwankhanza, nthawi zonse.