Zamkati
Mabwenzi ambiri, ofunitsitsa ubale womwe wagwa pansi poterera osayanjanitsika ndi malaise, amadabwa kuti atha kuchitanji kupulumutsa banja mutatha kupatukana. Kwenikweni izi zimachitika pakakhala kusagwirizana kwakukulu kapena "wogulitsa".
Kodi ndizotheka kuti machiritso enieni komanso osatha asinthe njira yakuyanjananso pambuyo pakupatukana kowawa m'banja? Komanso ndizotheka kupatukana kupulumutsa ukwati, kapena kukuwonetsa kuti kutha kwowawa kwayandikira?
Tisanayesere kukhazikitsa njira yopulumutsira banja lanu titapatukana, tiyeni tiganizire kanthawi kuti kupatukana ndi chiyani? kapena kupatukana kwa ubale ndi chiyani?
Kupatukana muukwati kapena kulekana m'banja ndi lingaliro momwe okwatirana amasiya kukhalira limodzi popanda kusudzulana. Kulekana kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi m'banja sizitanthauza kuti banjali lidzatha.
Njira yolekanirana m'banja imatha kukhala ndi zolinga zosiyanasiyana, zomwe zimasiyanitsa kupatukana mu mitundu yosiyanasiyana, monga kulekana kwamilandu, kulekana kwamuyaya, ndi kulekana kwalamulo.
Kulekana poyeserera pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri kumatanthauza kuti banjali silikukayika ngati akufuna kukonza zovuta zawo kuti abwerere limodzi kapena akufuna kusudzulana. Zikatero, banjali limakhala mosiyana ndikulingalira momwe akumvera ndi zisankho zawo.
Kupatukana kosatha, kumbali inayo, ndi komwe awiriwo alibe zolinga zoyanjanitsira ukwati wawo koma sanasudzulanebe.
Kulekana mwalamulo ndikofanana kwambiri ndi kusudzulana pankhani yogawa katundu, chisamaliro, chisamaliro cha ana, ndi kusunga mwana. Komabe, ndizosiyananso ndi chisudzulo chifukwa simungathe kukwatiwanso mwalamulo.
Njira yopita patsogolo
Ngati mukuwerenga chidutswa ichi chifukwa mukufuna kupulumutsa banja lanu mutapatukana, konzekerani ulendo wovuta koma wofunikira.Pongoyambira, abwenziwo ayenera kuzindikira kuti kulekana sikungakonze chilichonse chokha. M'malo mwake, kupatukana kumatha kukulitsa mkangano.
Nayi chinthu chake ... Anthu ambiri omwe ali nawo pamavuto omwe amatsogolera kupatukana amaganiza kuti kupatukana ndiye njira yokhayo yothetsera mavuto ndikupangitsa kuyambanso. Amakhulupirira kuti, "Tikachoka kwa wina ndi mnzake kwakanthawi, titha kukhala mwamtendere ndi bata."
Tsoka ilo, mtendere ndi bata zimatha kuyamba kukhala zofunika kwambiri kwa omwe apatukana kuposa kutsitsimutsa ukwatiwo. Maanja omwe akupweteketsa akungokhala osadikirira kuti chilengedwe chisathe kapena kusintha kwamatsenga, kusintha kwenikweni sikukuchitika.
Njira yopita patsogolo, poganiza kuti imatanthauza kubwezeretsa ukwati, kumatanthauza kuchita chibwenzi chenicheni ndi bwenzi lomwe latalikirana. Kodi ndinu okonzeka komanso okonzeka kuchita izi?
Malingaliro ochepa oti muganizire
Monga alangizi ambiri, atsogoleri azipembedzo, ndi anzeru omwe amafunika mchere wawo angakuwuzeni, palibe mndandanda wathunthu wamalamulo opatulira mabanja omwe ungapezeke m'sitolo yayikulu yazidziwitso yomwe ilipo kuti musangalatse munthu. Komabe, malangizo angapo osavuta akuyenera kuyesedwa.
Malingaliro awa ndi awa:
1. Kuchita zodzisamalira
Ngakhale ukwati umamveka bwino, umafuna kudzipereka, nthawi, ndi kudzipereka kwa okwatiranawo. Ngakhale zimavutikabe pakapita nthawi chifukwa mumazolowera kuchita zoyanjana, ukwati ndi chikole chosalekeza cholimbikira ndi kulimbikira.
Chifukwa chake, mukamagwira ntchito zapakhomo, ntchito yanu, ndi ana anu ndi banja lanu, kudzisamalira kumafuna malo ammbuyo kwa mabanja ambiri. Kuti mupange moyo wotetezeka wabanja lanu mukadaperekanso thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe ndi thupi.
Khalani mukudzikonza nokha, kapena kulimbikitsa ubale wanu ndi mnzanu, kulekana kwakanthawi m'banja kumapereka mpata kwa maanja kuti azilumikizana okha komanso kuti asatengeke ndi zochitika zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku za kunyengerera ndi kudzipereka.
2. Kupeza mlangizi kuti athandize maanja kulankhulana
Kupatukana mbanja kumalola maanja kuyerekeza chiyanjano chawo mosiyanasiyana ndikupeza njira yomvetsetsa malingaliro amzawo. Pakapita nthawi amatha kufika pamgwirizano kudzera momwe amathandizira zomwe akuyembekezera kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake.
Kunena zowona, izi zimamveka bwino. Koma, nthawi zambiri zenizeni zimakhala zoluka komanso zowopsa. Mwamuna ndi mkazi sangathe kutuluka mu mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.
Pa sitepe iliyonse yomwe atengapo pofuna kukonza ubale wawo, amatha kuchita zinthu ziwiri kuti awuwononge.
Kumvetsetsa malingaliro a anzanu si chinthu chophweka, ndipo moona mtima nthawi zambiri mumalakwitsa ndi mailo.
Chifukwa chake taganizirani izi, bwanji ngati pangakhale wina kunja uko yemwe angakutsogolereni nonse kumalo komwe mungathetsere mavuto anu mozama ndikuphunzira njira zatsopano zothandizirana ndikumvetsetsana.
Izi ndi zomwe upangiri ungakuchitireni, kufunafuna mlangizi wokuthandizani kudzera munkhani zanu ndi njira yabwino yopulumutsira banja mutapatukana.
3. Kuyika kuwonekera poyera patsogolo pa mgwirizano
Chofunikira paubwenzi uliwonse kapena m'banja ndi momwe mumakhalira achilungamo, komanso otseguka momwe mungakhalire ndi mnzanu. Kuwulula poyera zakukhosi kwanu kumathandizira kukulitsa kulimba, chifukwa zimakupatsani mwayi wouza zakukhosi kwanu kwa munthu yemwe angakukondeni zivute zitani.
4. Kuzindikiranso kukondana.
Kukondana ndikofunika kwambiri kuti ukwati ukhalebe, kaya m'malingaliro kapena mwakuthupi. Ngati banja lanu likuyenda bwino ndipo palibe chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikukusangalatsani muyenera kuyambiranso ndikupezanso kukondana kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Ndi liti komanso ngati mukuyesera kumvetsetsa momwe mungayambitsire banja mutatha kupatukana, tengani njira zazing'ono mukamayesetsa kulimbikitsa ubale wanu ndi moyo, kukondana, kutseguka, ndi mwayi. Musachedwe kuyamba kuyambiranso kwanu.