Zamkati
- Zotsatira za kuyamikira
- Chifukwa kuthokoza kumathandizira maubale
- Onetsani kuyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku
- Chiyamiko chimakuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta
- Osamverera? Mwina izi zingathandize:
Thanksgiving ili pafupi pomwe ndipo nayo, makamaka pazama TV, imabweretsa zolemba zonse. Novembala siwo mwezi wokha kuti mumve ndikuthokoza, komabe. Kodi mukukhala mukuyamikira chaka chonse kapena ndinu m'modzi mwa iwo omwe akukhala opanda chiyembekezo komanso osathokoza? Kodi mumadziwa kuti kuyamika ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino wachikondi? Ndizowona. Anthu omwe amakhala ndi chiyembekezo chothokoza amakhala athanzi komanso osangalala.
Zotsatira za kuyamikira
Kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndikuyamikira monga chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kumathandizira kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino. Kuchita zinthu posachedwa kumachepetsa kupsinjika ndi kukhumudwa ndipo kumatipangitsa kukhala achimwemwe, olimba mtima. Kukhala bwino kwamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro kumatithandiza kukhala osinthika komanso olimba mtima pakagwa zovuta.
Chifukwa kuthokoza kumathandizira maubale
Monga wothandizira, ndimakonda kuwona anthu atakula kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amakhala ozikika mozungulira omwe amawapangitsa kuti anene zinthu zowopsa komanso zoyipitsana. Malingaliro ndi malingaliro onse omwe ali nawo okhudzana ndi anzawo siabwino. Ndiyenera kuyang'ana zabwino. Ndiyenera kupeza zabwino pakati pamavuto onsewa ndikuyamba kuwonetsa maanja ndikuwala pang'ono m'miyoyo yawo yamdima kuti athe kuwona kuti pali chikondi pamenepo. Akayamba kuwona kuti pali zabwino zina, amayamika chifukwa cha izi. Pambuyo pake, zinthu zimayamba kusintha kukhala bwino.
Mukamayamika mnzanu komanso chifukwa cha zomwe amachita kuti moyo wanu ukhale wabwino, zimakhudza kwambiri moyo wanu komanso aliyense amene mungakumane naye.
Ngati muli m'malo osayenera, muyenera kusintha dala. M'mawa uliwonse wa tsiku lililonse muyenera kudzuka ndikudziuza kuti tsiku lino mudzakhala othokoza. Nthawi zonse, muyenera kuyang'ana zabwino. Mukachita izi, mudzawapeza, ndikulonjeza.
Tikamayamikira kwambiri zomwe tili nazo, m'pamenenso tiyenera kuyamikira kwambiri. Zitha kumveka pang'ono 'koma ndi chowonadi.
Onetsani kuyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku
Sizimachitika mwadzidzidzi, koma mutha kupanga mawonekedwe othokoza ngakhale zikuchitika pamoyo wanu pakadali pano. Timalankhula zambiri muma blog anga a Katswiri wa Mabanja ndi podcast zakuyamikira zazing'onozing'ono. Mfundo yayikulu ndikuwonetsa kuyamikira kwanu nthawi zonse. Kukhala ndi mayendedwe abwino, kunena kuti zikomo, kulemba zolemba ndi makalata ndikufikira pakuwathokoza ndi njira zabwino zochitira izi. Kodi ndi liti liti pamene munafikira munthu wina ndi mawu othokoza? Uwu ndi ulemu womwe watayika makamaka munthawi yathu yamagetsi. Iyenera kuukitsidwa. Yesani kuti muwone momwe zimakhudzira wolandila.
Ikani keke mubokosi la makalata kuti likuthandizireni okunyamulani makalata, zikomo kwaogulitsa malonda anu komanso omwe amakuthandizirani. Zimamva bwino! Tembenuzani kuyamika kwanu panyumba pozindikira zomwe mnzanu amapereka kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino watsiku ndi tsiku. Thokozani ana anu pochita ntchito yabwino ndi ntchito zapakhomo kapena homuweki. Onetsani kuyamikira nyumba, chakudya, moyo kapena zina zomwe inu ndi mnzanu mumagwira ntchito molimbika. Mwawona, mukumva lingaliro tsopano! Sakani zabwino zonse mumayanjano anu ndi mnzanu, makolo anu, anzanu. Lankhulani ndi mnzanu pafupipafupi ndipo muwauze kuti, "Ndikukuyamikirani komanso zonse zomwe mumandipatsa." Lankhulani mosapita m'mbali.
Chiyamiko chimakuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta
Zinthu zikalakwika, ndipo mukukumana ndi zovuta (chifukwa mudzatero), ndikosavuta kupilira ndikuyang'ana ndalama za siliva mumitambo yamkuntho ya moyo wanu. Posachedwa ndinawona nkhani yokhudza banja lomwe lili ndi zaka za m'ma 50 nyumba yawo idawotchedwa ku Northern California nthawi yamoto woyaka moto. Chithunzicho chinali cha iwo akumwetulira, kuseka ndi kuvina panjira yanyumba yawo yotentha. Mwina mungaganize kuti, "Kodi angakhale bwanji osangalala chonchi, ataya zonse zomwe ali nazo?" Zomwe ndinawona anali anthu awiri omwe amakhala akukhala othokoza. Iwo sakanakhoza kupulumutsa nyumba yawo, kotero iwo anavomereza izo ndipo anali othokoza kwambiri kuti iwo akanatuluka osakhudzidwa ndi chimodzi. Kuthokoza kwawo kunali kwa moyo komanso mwayi wopitilira kukhala limodzi. Ndinaganiza kuti zinali zokongola.
Osamverera? Mwina izi zingathandize:
- Yesetsani kuyang'ana pozungulira pompano ndikusankha zinthu 5 zomwe mutha kuwona ndi kukhudza. Zinthu zowoneka bwino zomwe mumakondwera ndizotheka. Khalani othokoza chifukwa cha izi.
- Yang'anani mnzanu nthawi yotsatira mukakhala limodzi ndikusankha zinthu zitatu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala othokoza kukhala ndi munthuyo. Makhalidwe omwe ali nawo, zinthu zapadera zomwe amabweretsa kuubwenzi wanu zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala othokoza. Nenani mokweza.
- Khalani mwakachetechete nokha madzulo ndikuganiza za tsiku lanu. Sinkhasinkhani pazinthu zabwino zomwe zidakuchitikirani ndipo muziyamikira.
- Ganizirani zinthu zoyipa zomwe zikukuchitikirani sabata ino, ndipo yang'anani zabwino pakati pamavutowo.
- Yambani zolemba. Lembani zinthu zomwe muyenera kuthokoza pakadali pano miniti iyi ndikuchita izi tsiku lililonse. Pamapeto pa sabata, bwererani kukawerenga zomwe mwalemba. Mupeza kuti mukukhala mwanjira yoti muzindikire miyala yamtengo wapatali imeneyi tsiku ndi tsiku kuti muzitha kukumbukira kuzilemba.
- Yambani mtsuko woyamikira. Ikani botolo ndi mapepala ena. Lembani zinthu zomwe muyenera kuyamika ndikuzilemba mu timapepala tating'ono ndikuziyika mumtsuko. Kumapeto kwa chaka, tulutsani botolo ndikuwerenga pepala lililonse. Mupeza kuti muli ndi zifukwa zambiri zoyamikirira.
Ngati mutha kuchita izi, mukuyamba kukhala ndi mtima woyamikira. Yesetsani izi mpaka zitakhala chizolowezi. Sipakutenga nthawi kuti muyambe kuyang'ana pazinthu zabwinozi, nthawi zoyamika ngakhale muli pakati pamavuto omwe mukukumana nawo. Izi ndizosinthadi zomwe zingakhudze inu ndi okondedwa anu mwanjira yabwino kuyambira pano mpaka kumapeto kwa moyo wanu.