Zamkati
- 1. Muzisamala ndi anzanu
- 2. Musaiwale zazing'ono
- 3. Kulankhula tsiku lililonse
- 4. Pangani zogonana patsogolo
- 4. Khalani ndi tsiku lokhala ndi tsiku lokhazikika
- 5. Khalani mbali imodzi
Ukwati sudzisamalira wokha. Kukulitsa chikondi ndi ubwenzi m'banja kumapangitsa kuti anthu azikondana, azichita zinthu zosangalatsa, komanso kuti azisangalala. Kupatula apo, banja lanu likakhala ndi thanzi labwino, moyo wanu wonse umatsatira zomwezo.
Mabanja achimwemwe amapangitsa mabanja kukhala achimwemwe, kaonedwe kabwino ka moyo, ndi chipambano pantchito. Koma, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuyika ntchitoyi ngati mutapeza zabwino zake. Kulimbikitsa chikondi ndi ubwenzi m'banja ndikofunikira kuti mgwirizano ukhale wokhalitsa. Nazi njira 6 zosamalirira ubale wanu.
1. Muzisamala ndi anzanu
Maubwenzi ambiri amayamba ndi kupanga ubale. Mumadziwana wina ndi mnzake zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, mumakambirana za momwe mukumvera, zolinga zanu, masiku anu, ndipo mumapita kukachita zosangalatsa limodzi. Musaiwale zaubwenzi uwu mutakwatirana.
Sikuti maulendo anu onse kapena zochita zanu monga banja zimayenera kukhala zachikondi. Ayeneranso kukhala osangalatsa. Gawani zinthu zomwezo ndi wokondedwa wanu momwe mungachitire ndi anzanu. M'malo mongopita kukadyera kandulo ndi makandulo, bwanji osapita ku bowling kukatenga mowa wambiri? Pitani paulendo wokondana pagombe usiku wamadzulo ndikuponyera phwando m'malo mwake.
Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe, ndikofunikira kuti inu ndi mnzanu musangalale limodzi. Muyenera kukhala okonda kudzipereka komanso abwenzi abwino. Mbali imodzi yaubwenzi wanu isalowe m'malo inayo.
2. Musaiwale zazing'ono
Tsiku lililonse ndi mwayi wokumbutsani mnzanu momwe mumawakondera ndikuwayamika. Anthu okwatirana omwe ali ndi banja losangalala sanaiwale kuchita zazing'ono zomwe zimakumbutsana kuti ndi ofunika. Zinthu zazing'ono monga kupsompsonana wina ndi mnzake, kupangira mnzanu kumwa khofi m'mawa, kapena kuchapa zovala zonse ndizosavuta, koma zoganizira zomwe zimapangitsa kuti banja likhale losangalala.
Ganiziraninso zinthu zonse zabwino komanso zabwino zomwe mumachita pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chanu. Kumugulira maluwa chifukwa choti mumamukonda, kuphika mkate wambiri womwe amakonda, kuvala kuti muzingokhala pakhomo limodzi. Zinthu zing'onozing'onozi zimatha kupangitsa kuti kuyamikira kwanu kuzikhala kwatsopano m'banja lanu.
3. Kulankhula tsiku lililonse
Pamene zizolowezi zimatenga nthawi komanso magawo antchito agundana, nthawi zina maanja amataya mwayi wolankhulana. Tengani osachepera mphindi 15 kapena kupitilira tsiku lililonse komwe mumatseka dziko lonse lapansi. Zimitsani zida zanu zanzeru komanso kanema wawayilesi ndikusangalala ndi anzawo. Kungotenga mphindi zochepa patsiku kulumikizana motere kumatha kupanga zodabwitsa muukwati wanu.
4. Pangani zogonana patsogolo
Kukondana ndi gawo lofunikira pakulimbikitsa chikondi ndi ubwenzi m'banja ndipo pali zabwino zambiri zokhudzana ndi thanzi zogonana nthawi zonse. Kuchepetsa chiopsezo cha khansa ya prostate, chitetezo chokwanira, komanso kuchepa kwa matenda amtima ndi zifukwa zabwino zopangira chikondi, palinso zabwino zambiri zakugonana kamodzi kapena kamodzi pa sabata ndi mnzanu.
Kugonana ndi maliseche zimalimbikitsa zokulitsa mtima zotchedwa endorphins, komanso oxytocin, wogwirizira mwamalingaliro. Chifukwa chake sikuti kugonana kumangokhala kosangalatsa, koma kumapangitsanso kuti maanja azikondana ndikulimbikitsa kukhulupirirana kwa ubongo. Kugonana kumathandizanso kuthana ndi mavuto achilengedwe ndipo chilichonse chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale uyende bwino ndichophatikizira.
Mabanja omwe ali otanganidwa kwambiri amatha kusankha nthawi yogonana. Ngakhale izi sizingamveke ngati gawo lachiwerewere kapena lokondana, koma ndi njira yabwino kwa mabanja kuti azikhala nthawi yocheza limodzi kukhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wawo wotanganidwa.
4. Khalani ndi tsiku lokhala ndi tsiku lokhazikika
Kaya ndandanda yanu imatha kuloleza kamodzi pa sabata kapena kamodzi pamwezi, kukhala ndi tsiku lokhala ndi tsiku lapakalendala kumatha kuchita zabwino zokulitsa chikondi ndiubwenzi m'banja. Gwiritsani ntchito usiku uno kunyengerera wina ndi mnzake. Yerekezerani kuti ndi tsiku lanu loyamba ndikukonzekera zochitika zapadera zomwe zingakulimbikitseni kulumikizana, kucheza, komanso kusangalala.
Gwiritsani ntchito izi ngati mwayi wokumbukira pamodzi, kugwirana manja, kupsompsona pagulu, ndikupanga zaluso. Kukhala ndi tsiku lokhala ndi zibwenzi sikuti kumangolimbikitsa kusangalala komanso kukondana ngati banja, kumakupatsaninso chinthu choti muziyembekezera limodzi.
5. Khalani mbali imodzi
Njira imodzi yoyambira kukulitsa chikondi ndiubwenzi m'banja ndikuganizira maluso anu othetsera kusamvana. Ndi zachilengedwe kuti maanja azikangana nthawi ndi nthawi, koma nkofunika kukumbukira kuti muli mbali imodzi.
Osangogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa ngati chodzikhululukira, kutchukitsa zakale, kuneneza, kapena kunena zinazake ndi cholinga chofuna kukhumudwitsa mnzanu. Limbani mkanganowo, osati wina ndi mnzake. Kusungirana chakukhosi kumawononganso ubale uliwonse, kaya ndi kholo lanu, m'bale wanu, mnzanu, kapena mwana. Koma, zimakhala zovuta makamaka mukamamenyana ndi munthu yemweyo yemwe mudalonjeza kuti mudzamukonda ndi kumusamalira kwamuyaya.
Ponena za kukulitsa chikondi ndi ubwenzi m'banja, yesetsani kusiya zomwe mudakangana m'mbuyomu. Popanda kutha kuchoka pazinthu zazing'ono (kapena zazikulu) zomwe mnzanu wachita kuti akupweteketseni, simudzatha kuyamba zatsopano.
Yesetsani kuthetsa kusamvana mwauchikulire ndipo ngati mungalole kuti mtima wanu ukugonjetseni - pemphani kupepesa.
Pitirizani kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba komanso lolimba pochita kuti wokondedwa wanu akhale patsogolo pa moyo wanu. Lankhulani tsiku lililonse, khululukirani, khalani ndi tsiku lokhala ndi usiku, ndipo musaiwale kuti mnzanu ndi mnzanu komanso wokondedwa wanu. Pochita izi, mudzalimbikitsa chikondi ndi ubwenzi m'banja.