Zamkati
- Kuvomereza zachilendo zatsopano
- Kukhala moyo wanu wakale inunso
- Kulola nokha kumva chisoni
- Kupeza mwayi wokula
- Kusunga nthawi limodzi
Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akapezeka ndi matenda aakulu kapena ngati ali wolumala, dziko lanu limasintha. Sikuti mumangokhudzidwa aliyense payekha ndi izi, koma banja lanu liyenera kuzolowera chinthu china chatsopano. Malingaliro anu amtsogolo palimodzi atha atha, ndikusintha mapulani anu ndikumachita mantha komanso kuda nkhawa. Mutha kupeza kuti inu ndi mnzanu mwalowa mu limbo, mkhalidwe wosatsimikizika.
Kukhala wosamalira okwatirana kumakuyikani mu kalabu yomwe palibe aliyense wa ife akufuna kulowa nawo, koma chowonadi ndichakuti ambiri aife tidzachita ukwati. Kalabu yodzifunira iyi sikusankha. Mamembala ake ndi osiyana zaka, jenda, mtundu, fuko, malingaliro azakugonana, komanso kuchuluka kwa ndalama. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu akadwala matenda aakulu kapena chilema, banja limatha kuyesedwa ngati kale. Kaya ndikudwala kapena matenda amisala, palibe kukayika kuti kudwaladwala kwa mnzathu kumakhudza gawo lililonse la moyo wathu. Ntchito ina yosasangalatsa komanso nthawi zina yozama yosamalira wokondedwa wathu ingatisiye kufunafuna chitsogozo chotithandiza kupyola zowawa zathu kupita kumalo a chiyembekezo ndi mtendere.
Kuvomereza zachilendo zatsopano
Matenda owopsa nthawi zonse amakhala mlendo wosafunikira zikafika pakhomo pathu. Koma, monga zosavomerezeka monga kulowerera kumverera, tiyenera kuphunzira kuthana ndi vuto loti mwina tikhala pano kwakanthawi, ngati sichikhala moyo wathu wonse. Izi zimakhala zachilendo zathu zatsopano, zomwe tiyenera kuziphatikiza m'miyoyo yathu. Zomwe timamverera kuti miyoyo yathu ikukhala, kapena kuyenera kukhala, yopuma, tiyenera kudziwa momwe tingagwirire ntchito ngakhale tili m'malo osatsimikizika. Nthawi imeneyi imatha kutenga nthawi yayitali, chifukwa chake nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosatheka kwa ife kuganiza kuti tikhoza kudikira matenda a mnzathu ndikubwerera momwe zinthu zidaliri kale. Timapita patsogolo ngati banja ngakhale tili mu limbo, ndikuphatikiza zachilendo zatsopano m'moyo wathu.
Kukhala moyo wanu wakale inunso
Ngakhale tivomereze zenizeni za ubale wathu, tili ndi mbali zambiri m'miyoyo yathu yakale zomwe zikupitilirabe. Timakondwerera masiku okumbukira kubadwa, zikumbutso, maholide, maukwati ndi makanda obadwa kumene. Timapita kumisonkhano, kusukulu, ndi kuntchito. Achibale ena ali ndi mavuto azaumoyo kapena mavuto awo ndipo timafuna kuwathandiza. Ndikofunika kuti tisalole kuti matenda a mnzathu atilepheretse kusangalala, zisoni, zochita, komanso ubale womwe umatipangitsa kukhala omwe tili. Ngati tisiyana kotheratu ndi zomwe timazizolowera komanso zomwe timazidziwa, tidzadzitaya tokha ndikupeza kuti chokhacho chomwe tatsala nacho ndi cha womusamalira komanso wodwala. Kupezeka pamiyoyo yathu kumatithandiza kuti tizidziona tokha ndikutipangitsa kukhala olumikizana ndi anthu komanso zochitika zomwe ndi zofunika kwa ife.
Kulola nokha kumva chisoni
Nthawi zambiri timaganizira zakumva chisoni ngati zomwe timachita munthu akamwalira. Koma matenda amabweretsa zotayika zambiri, ndipo nkoyenera kuvomereza ndikumva. Izi sizomwe mumafuna kuchita poyera ndi mnzanu, koma matenda akulu kapena kulumala kumabweretsa chisoni chomveka ndipo sizothandiza kupewa kapena kuthana ndi zovuta zomwezo. Zitha kukhala zopindulitsa kwambiri kutchula kutayika kwanu. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu atakuwuzani kuti akukonzekera kukayenda ndi mwamuna wake chaka chamawa, mutha kumva chisoni kuti simungakwanitse kukonzekera tchuthi mtsogolo. Ngati mnzanu sangathe kupita kuntchito kapena kugwira ntchito zapakhomo, mutha kumva chisoni chifukwa cha kutayika kwake. Mutha kumva chisoni ndi kutaya chiyembekezo chanu chamtsogolo, kutaya chiyembekezo kwanu, chitetezo chanu. Izi sizofanana ndikudandaula popeza mukudzilola kuti muzindikire ndikuwonetsetsa zotayika zenizeni zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu.
Kupeza mwayi wokula
Mukamakumana ndi matenda a mnzanu, nthawi zina zimamveka ngati zopambana kungodzuka m'mawa ndikakumana ndi ntchito zofunika kuchita tsikulo. Koma kodi pali njira zomwe mungakulire? Zinthu zomwe mungaphunzire? Mwinamwake mumapeza kuyamikiridwa kwatsopano pakutha kwanu kukhala olimba mtima, osadzikonda, achifundo, olimba. Ndipo mwina mumadziona nokha mutatambasula kuposa momwe mumaganizira kuti mulipo. Tikamakumana ndi zovuta bwino kapena tikalimbana ndi kutopa komanso mantha kuti atigwire bwino kwambiri, timapatsidwa mwayi wopereka miyoyo yathu ndi tanthauzo lenileni ndikupanga kulumikizana ndi mnzathu yemwe ndiwotsimikizika kuposa kale mavuto azaumoyo. Kuzindikira kotereku sikungakhale kosalekeza kapena kawirikawiri, popeza kusamalira odwala kungakhalenso komvetsa chisoni komanso kovuta. Koma mukazindikira nthawi yochulukirapo, zimatha kukhala zosangalatsa komanso zolimbikitsa.
Kusunga nthawi limodzi
Nthawi zambiri potanganidwa ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, timatenga mopepuka anthu omwe ali pafupi nafe. Izi zitha kuchitika makamaka ndi okwatirana athu ndipo timadzipangira tokha patsogolo anthu ena ndi zochita, poganiza kuti titha kukhala ndi anzathu nthawi ina. Koma kudwala kukayamba, nthawi yocheza imatha kukhala yofunika kwambiri. Titha kumva kuti tikufunika kugwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yomwe tili muubwenzi wathu. Kusamalira komweko kungatipatse mwayi wolumikizana m'njira zomwe sitinakhalepo nazo kale. Ngakhale titha kuwona kuti kuthandizira mnzathu panthaŵi yakudwala kumakhala kokhumudwitsa komanso kowawa, pangakhale lingaliro kuti zomwe tikuchita ndizothandiza komanso zopindulitsa. Nthawi zina chakudya chabwino, zopaka kumbuyo, kapena kusamba kofunda ndi zomwe mkazi kapena mwamuna wathu amafunika kumva kuti watonthozedwa kapena kulimbikitsidwa. Ndipo zingamveke bwino kukhala munthu woti tithandizire mnzathu panthawi yamavuto.
Pali njira zambiri zodzisamalirira nokha, mnzanu, komanso banja lanu panthawi yakudwala. Munkhaniyi, ndangokhoza kukhudza ochepa. M'buku langa laposachedwa, Kukhala mu Limbo: Kupanga Kapangidwe ndi Mtendere pamene Wina Amene Mumakonda Adwala, wothandizirana ndi Dr. Claire Zilber, timakambirana mitu iyi ndi ena ambiri mozama. Kwa inu omwe mukugwira nawo ntchitoyi, ndikufunirani kulimba mtima, kukhazikika, komanso bata.