Zamkati
- 1. Fikani patsamba lomwelo musanachitike
- 2. Khazikitsani malamulo ndi zotsatira zake limodzi
- 3. Kubwezerana wina ndi mnzake
- 4. Osamakangana pamaso pa ana
- 5. Khalani osinthasintha polera ana
Munakwatirana ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu ndipo tsopano inu ndi mnzanu simungathe kudikira kuti mukhale makolo. Mukuyembekezera mwachidwi kukhala ndi ana anu ndikukulitsa banja.
Mutakhala ndi ana, mumazindikira kuti ngakhale kukhala kholo kwadzetsa chisangalalo ndikudabwa m'miyoyo yanu, kunabweranso ndi zovuta zaubereki zomwe simumayembekezera. Ngati makolo sagwirizana pankhani yolera ana, zitha kuyambitsa mavuto pakati pawo.
Vuto lalikulu ndiloti inu ndi mnzanu simukugwirizana pa momwe mungalangire ana anu.
Wokondedwa wanu amaganiza kuti ndinu otayirira pomwe inu mukuganiza kuti ndi okhwimitsa zinthu.
Mukaona kuti mwana wanu akachoka panyumba chifukwa cha nthawi yofikira panyumba, angaone kuti ndi bwino kungomupatsa zinthuzo.
Mutha kukhala osagwirizana pafupifupi chilichonse chokhudza kulera- pomwe ana ayenera kugona, kaya apite kokagona, momwe angagwirire kusachita bwino kwawo kusukulu, ndi zina zotero. M'malo mwake, chinthu chokha chomwe mukuwoneka kuti mukugwirizana ndichakuti china chake chikuyenera kusintha.
Kupsinjika kwa mikangano kosalekeza kukufikira nonse a inu. Ukwati wanu ndi banja lanu ndizofunika kwambiri ndipo inu kapena mnzanu simuli okonzeka kuzitaya chifukwa cha kusiyana kwamalangizo.
Chizoloŵezi chodziwika ndi chakuti, "ine ndi mnzanga sitigwirizana pa kulera", ndiye mungatani?
Osataya mtima, pali chiyembekezo kwa inu.
Nawa maupangiri olera momwe mungapezere malo ogwirizana ndi mnzanu ngati simukugwirizana pa mayankho abwino olera kapena momwe mungakhalire kholo 101:
1. Fikani patsamba lomwelo musanachitike
Inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zolerera. Mwina m'modzi wa inu ndiwotsendereza pomwe winayo ndi wololera. Mitundu yanu yakulera itha kubweretsa kusiyana m'mene mukufuna kulangizira ana anu.
Pofuna kupewa mikangano yanthawi zonse pazokhudza kulera ana, ndikofunikira kuti nonse mukhale ndi tsamba limodzi zisanachitike.
Njira imodzi yothandiza kulera ana ndi kukambirana zomwe aliyense ali nazoee komwe mutha kunyengerera pazisankho zina zakulera.
2. Khazikitsani malamulo ndi zotsatira zake limodzi
Ana anu amafunikira dongosolo lomwe limabwera ndi chilango kuti akule bwino.
Kuti mukwaniritse bwino nyumba yanu, inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kuthandizana kukhazikitsa malamulo apanyumba ndi zotsatirapo zophwanya malamulowo.
Funsani ana anu kuti athandizirepo ndipo ganizirani malingaliro ndi malingaliro awo ndikusunga zowongolera zonse.
Monga imodzi mwanjira zabwino zolerera ana, ndikosavuta kutsatira malamulo omwe aliyense amavomereza.
Onerani kanema wothandiza uyu wa Psychiatrist Dehra Harris akuyankhula za njira zosiyanasiyana zopangira malamulo oti mwana wanu azimvera ndikumachita akamachita izi mobwerezabwereza:
3. Kubwezerana wina ndi mnzake
Mukazindikira malamulowo ndi zotsatirapo zake, khalani osasinthasintha pakuwatsatira ndikumbukira makolo ngati gulu.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi akamalanga ana, winayo ayenera kuwathandiza. Imeneyi ndi imodzi mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zolerera ana zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi woti mukhale ogwirizana kwa ana anu ndikuwapatsa mwayi woti asokoneze zisankho zanu zakulera.
Kupatula izi ndikuti ngati mukuwona kuti mnzanu akuvulaza ana anu mwakuthupi kapena mwamalingaliro.
4. Osamakangana pamaso pa ana
Kukangana pamaso pa ana za kulangiza njira zosinthira kumayang'ana kwa iwo. Ana amatha kukhala opondereza kwambiri ndipo akazindikira kuti makolo awo sakugwirizana amatha kuyesa kusewera nawo kuti achoke.
Ngati mukuona kuti mkangano ukubwera, khalani ndi nthawi yozizira. Mutha kupita kokayenda, kuyenda pagalimoto kapena kungochoka mchipindacho ndikupeza china choti muchite.
Bweretsani nkhaniyo nthawi ina nonse mukadzikhazika mtima pansi ndipo mutha kukambirana bwino lomwe.
5. Khalani osinthasintha polera ana
Njira zabwino zakulera ziyenera kukhala zotheka kusintha pamene ana anu akukula. Pali palibe kukula kwake komwe kumagwirizana ndi njira zolerera ana. Lingalirani umunthu wa ana anu mukamapeza njira zowalangitsira.
Komanso, khalani omasuka ndi njira yanu ndipo musachite manyazi kupempha ena kuti akuthandizeni pakafunika kutero. Zochitika zina monga kuchita ndi wachinyamata wachikulire zitha kukhala zoposa zomwe inu ndi mnzanu mungathe kuthana nazo ndipo akatswiri atha kukhala bwino kuti athetse mavuto.
Zikasiyidwa, kusiyana kwa makolo kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto m'banja omwe atha kusokoneza banja lonse.
M'malo mokangana nthawi zonse pankhani yolanga ana anu, kulumikizana, kunyengerera ndikupeza zomwe mungagwirizane pothetsa mavuto a makolo. Ngati nonse mumagwirira ntchito limodzi, mutha kukhala ndi banja losangalala komanso banja losangalala komanso labwino.