![Zifukwa ndi Kulingalira Pakukonzanso Malumbiro Aukwati - Maphunziro Zifukwa ndi Kulingalira Pakukonzanso Malumbiro Aukwati - Maphunziro](https://a.vvvvvv.kiev.ua/psychology/Reasons-And-Reflections-On-Renewal-Of-Marriage-Vows-2.webp)
Zamkati
- 1. Kuyika chikumbutso
- 2. Kuyambanso mwatsopano
- 3. Kulumikizana ndi abwenzi komanso abale
- 1. Sankhani amene adzachite mwambowu
- 2. Sankhani malowo
- 3. Funsani winawake kuti aziyang'anira
- 4. Sankhani mndandanda wa alendo
- 5. Pezani zovala zanu
- 6. Konzekerani momwe mungayendere kutsika
- 7. Konzani mtundu wa mwambowu
- 8. Sankhani zoyenera kuchita pa mphatsozo
Chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukonzanso malumbiro anu okwatirana? Kodi phwando loyambirira laukwati silinali lokwanira pomwe mudapanga malonjezo kwa wina ndi mnzake? Eya, masiku ano mabanja ambiri achimwemwe akusankha kuyambiranso malumbiro aukwati momwe amapezera mwayi wotsimikiziranso chikondi chawo chokhalitsa kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ngati ichi ndichinthu chomwe chikumveka chosangalatsa kwa inu, ndiye kuti nkhani yotsatirayi ikuthandizani kulingalira zina mwazinthu zomwe zimakhudzana ndi chodabwitsa cha kukonzanso lumbiro laukwati.
Koma choyamba, tiyeni tiwone zifukwa zitatu mwazinthu zomwe timapangiranso malonjezo anu. M'malo mwake, cholinga chonse ndikukondwerera ubale wanu limodzi, pazifukwa zilizonse:
1. Kuyika chikumbutso
Ngati mwakhala limodzi zaka zisanu, khumi, makumi awiri, makumi awiri ndi zisanu kapena kupitilira apo, mungafune kulemba chodabwitsa ichi ndi kukonzanso lumbiro laukwati. Otsatira nthawi zambiri amakhala nthawi yokumbukira tsiku lanu lapadera mulimonsemo, bwanji osatuluka ndikukhazikitsanso ukwati wanu pogwiritsa ntchito zomwe mwakumana nazo ndikuwona zomwe mwaphunzira panjira.
2. Kuyambanso mwatsopano
Mwinamwake ukwati wanu wakumana ndi mavuto ndi nyengo za chipwirikiti. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukukumana ndi chibwenzi, matenda aakulu, kapena zochitika zosiyanasiyana zomwe zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu. Tsopano popeza mwakumana ndi zoipitsitsa, kungakhale lingaliro labwino kutsimikiziranso chikondi chanu ndi kudzipereka kwanu kuti mukhazikike pangano laukwati lomwe mudapangana.
3. Kulumikizana ndi abwenzi komanso abale
Zitha kukhala kuti tsiku lanu loyamba laukwati linali phwando laling'ono kwambiri pomwe panali abale ochepa chabe. Kapenanso simunakhale ndi phwando lililonse koma mumangokwatirana muofesi ya woweruza. Koma popeza mwakhala limodzi kwakanthawi kwakanthawi, mungamve kuti mukufuna kukonzekera kuti banja lanu ndi abwenzi azikalalikira mukamakulitsa malonjezo anu okwatirana.
Mwina pofika pano, mwaganiza kuti ichi ndichinthu chomwe mukufuna kuchita ndi munthu wapadera pamoyo wanu.
Ndiye pali mfundo zingapo zofunika kuziganizira mukamayamba kukonzekera chikondwerero chokhazikitsira malonjezo anu achikwati:
1. Sankhani amene adzachite mwambowu
Nthawi zambiri banjali limasankha kukhala ndi tsiku lapadera lokhalanso ndi malumbiro aukwati. Kutengera ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji muli pabanja, mutha kukhala ndi ana kapena zidzukulu zomwe zingakonde kutenga nawo mbali pokonzekera kukondwerera makolo kapena agogo awo okondedwa. Pakhoza kukhalanso ndi abwenzi apamtima kapena abale am'banja (monga wantchito wapachiyambi waulemu komanso munthu wabwino kwambiri) omwe angakhale okondwa kuchita ulemu pakukonzanso.
2. Sankhani malowo
Ngati zikhalidwe zikuloleza, mutha kukonzanso malumbiro anu pamalo omwewo monga nthawi yoyamba. Kapena mungasankhe malo ena aliwonse oyenera, makamaka ngati ali ndi tanthauzo kwa inu nonse. Mwinanso mungakhale ndi malo olambirira, kapena kunyumba kwanu. Mwina mungakonde malo okongola achilengedwe monga pagombe kapena m'munda wokongola kapena paki, m'mapiri kapena paulendo wapanyanja.
3. Funsani winawake kuti aziyang'anira
Monga kukhazikitsanso malumbiro aukwati si mwambo womangika, mutha kufunsa aliyense amene mungasankhe kuti mukwaniritse. Mutha kukhala ndi mtsogoleri wachipembedzo, kapena mwina m'modzi mwa ana anu kapena mnzanu wapamtima kapena wachibale - wina amene ali ndi mwayi wopeza zochitika ndipo azidzachita nawo chikondwererochi.
4. Sankhani mndandanda wa alendo
Kutengera mtundu wa chikondwerero chomwe mumaganizira mukafuna kukonzanso malumbiro aukwati, iyi siyingakhale nthawi yoitanira anzanu kuntchito. Kumbukirani, siukwati koma kukonzanso malumbiro aukwati. Chifukwa chake ngati mukufuna kutsimikiziranso zaubwenzi wanu, mwina abwenzi apamtima ndi abale anu ndi omwe angakhale abwino kwambiri kuphatikizira pamndandanda wanu wapadera wa alendo.
5. Pezani zovala zanu
Ngati ndinu m'modzi mwa anthu ochepa omwe ali ndi mwayi omwe angakwanitsenso zovala zanu zoyambirira zaukwati, ndiye, mwa njira zonse, sangalalani nazo mobwerezabwereza ndikukonzanso malumbiro aukwati! Kapena sankhani china ngati chovala chamadzulo chamadzulo kapena diresi yokongola, ndipo mwina maluwa anu, kapena chipewa chokongola. Mutha kunyamula maluwa ndi kuvala zovala. Kwa mkwati, suti kapena tuxedo ndi tayi zitha kukhala zofunikira, ndi maulalo ena anzeru ndi rozi limodzi kapena chovala pakhosi panu.
6. Konzekerani momwe mungayendere kutsika
Mosiyana ndi tsiku laukwati wanu, mwakhala nanu kale, chifukwa chake mungasankhe kuyenda pansi monga banja. Ngati muli ndi ana, atha kukhala omwe akukuperekezani mwachimwemwe kutsogolo komwe mukakhala mukukonzanso malonjezo anu kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kutengera zaka za ana anu, izi zitha kukhala zokumana nazo zozama komanso zolimbikitsa kwa iwo, pamene akuwona chikondi ndi kudzipereka komwe makolo awo amawonetsera pagulu.
7. Konzani mtundu wa mwambowu
Nanga chimachitika ndi chiyani pamwambo wokonzanso ukwati? Zachidziwikire kuti chinthu chachikulu ndikunena malonjezo kwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo uwu ndi mwayi wabwino kwa nonsenu kuti muganizire mozama za zomwe ubale wanu ukutanthauza kwa inu komanso momwe mumamvera wina ndi mnzake. Kenako mungakonde kusinthananso mphete - mwina mphete zanu zomwezi zomwe zajambulidwa ndi tsiku loti mudzakonzenso. Kapena mungafune kulandira mphete zatsopano! Mwambowu ungaphatikizepo nyimbo zapadera ndikuwerenga ndi ana anu, kapena abale ndi abwenzi.
8. Sankhani zoyenera kuchita pa mphatsozo
Chikondwerero chamtunduwu pomwe mumapangitsanso malumbiro aukwati mosakayikira chimaphatikizapo kupatsana mphatso, koma pakadali pano mwina simukusowa kakhitchini kapena zinthu zina zapakhomo. Ndiye bwanji osagawana nawo chisangalalo ndikupempha kuti anzanu apereke ndalama zachifundo zomwe mwasankha.