Zamkati
- 1. Kuti akhazikitsenso ubale, onse awiri ayenera kuchita nawo izi
- 2. Sinthani zizolowezi zakale
- 3. Kuthetsa zokumana nazo zosakondweretsa
- 4. Siyani kukwiya
- 5. Dziyang'anireni nokha
Zimakhala zovuta mukakumana ndi nthawi yovuta muubwenzi wanu. Makamaka mukakondana kwambiri koma mwanjira inayake mwasunthira njira ina.
Maubwenzi ambiri amawonongeka panthawi yakutali komanso pamavuto. Koma ngati mukuwerenga izi, mwayi wake ndikuti mukuganiza njira ina - njira yomangiririra ubale wanu.
Kusankha kumanganso ubale wanu ndichinthu choyamba choyenera. Koma uyenera kukhala wokonzeka, njira yokonzanso itha kukhala yayitali. Padzakhala malingaliro ndi zizolowezi zambiri zakale zomwe ziyenera kuthetsedwa, ndi zokumbukira zatsopano zomwe mungapange pomwe nonse mukugwira ntchito yomanganso ubale wanu.
Komabe, palibe chomwe chingakhale chovuta kuchita ngati nonse mukondana, ndipo mwatsimikiza mtima kumanganso ubale wanu. Ubale womwe ungakulire kuchokera phulusa la ubale wakale limodzi mosakayikira udzakhala wolimba kwambiri ndikukwaniritsa.
Nazi njira zisanu zomwe muyenera kuganizira kuti mumangenso ubale wanu
1. Kuti akhazikitsenso ubale, onse awiri ayenera kuchita nawo izi
Ngati mmodzi sanafikepo pa chisankho, kapena kuzindikira kuti akufuna kugwira ntchito yomanganso chibwenzicho, pali njira zina ndi njira zomwe zingafunikire kuganiziridwa musanapitilire kudzipereka kuubwenziwu. Kupatula apo chibwenzi chimatenga anthu awiri.
2. Sinthani zizolowezi zakale
Mukapanga chisankho chimodzi kuti nonse ndinu odzipereka paubwenzi wanu. Nonse muyenera kugwira ntchito molimbika kuti musinthe zizolowezi zina zakale.
Palibe kukayika kuti ngati ubale wanu uyenera kumangidwanso, mudzakhala ndikumverera kolakwa, kudziimba mlandu, komanso kusowa mwanjira ina. Monga kusakhulupirika, kusowa ubale wapamtima, kusayankhulana, ndiyeno zolakwa ndi zolakwa zomwe zimatsagana ndikusowa kwa mbali zonse ziwiri.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuyamba kuwona momwe mumalankhulirana. Ndipo chitani khama kuti musinthe njira yomwe mumalankhulirana kuti kulankhulana kwanu kukhale kwachikondi komanso kuganizira ena.
Chifukwa mukamawonetsana chikondi ndi kulingalira wina ndi mnzake, ziyamba kupukuta zina mwazomwe zidakupweteketsani m'mbuyomu, ndikufesa mbewu kuti mumangenso ubale wanu mwanjira yomwe ingakhale yolimba komanso yapamtima.
3. Kuthetsa zokumana nazo zosakondweretsa
Ngakhale nonse mwina mungadzipereke kukonzanso ubale wanu, gawo lalikulu la izi ligona pothetsa zovuta zomwe zidakhala gawo lanu lakale.
Ngati pali nkhani zokhulupirirana, ziyenera kuthandizidwa, chimodzimodzi ndi mkwiyo, chisoni, ndi zina zambiri. Monga tanenera kale, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire bwino.
Kugwira ntchito bwino ndi mlangizi wamaubwenzi, hypnotherapist kapena mtundu wina waupangiri kukuthandizani kuthetsa mavutowa m'malo olamulidwa. Onetsetsani kuti mwangozi musapitilize kufotokozera mavutowa.
Ili ndi bwalo loyipa lomwe silingathandize konse pakukonzanso chibwenzi ndipo ndi lomwe muyenera kupewa.
Ngati ndizovuta kuwona wina wothandizidwa, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito njira zowonera kuti mugwiritse ntchito zomwe zikugwirizana - zithandizira kwambiri. Maganizo onse amasungunuka ndikaloledwa kufotokozedwa. Chifukwa chake kudzera pakuwonetseratu, mutha kudziwonera nokha kulola kutengeka kopitilira muyeso kutulutsa m'thupi lanu.
Ndipo ngati mukumva kutengeka kulikonse, kapena mukufuna kulira, lolani kuti zomwe mukumvazo kapena zotulukazo zifotokozedwe (nthawi zina zimatha kuwonekera mokalipa kwinakwake mthupi lanu) ingokhala nanu ndikulola kuti mufotokozere chilichonse chomwe chikuyenera kufotokozedwa mpaka imayima - idzaima.
Izi zimasula zomwe zakudzidzimutsa, zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi woganizira za kukhazikitsanso ubale wanu osapanikizika. Izi zidzapangitsa kuti kukhale kosavuta kulankhulana mwachikondi ndi kulingalira.
4. Siyani kukwiya
Gawo ili likufanana ndi gawo 3. Pamene aliyense akumanganso chibwenzi, nkofunika kuti tisasunge chakukhosi kapena kupwetekedwa chifukwa cha zolakwa zilizonse zakale.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukumanganso chibwenzi mutachita chibwenzi, wosalakwayo ayenera kukhala wokonzeka komanso wofunitsitsa kusiya vutolo ndikupita patsogolo. Sayenera kukhala chinthu chomwe chimangokhalira kuponyedwa munthawi yovuta, kapena mukamakangana.
Ngati mwatsimikiza mtima kumanganso ubale wanu koma mukukumana ndi zovuta kuti mugwirizane ndi zanzeru zilizonse, ngakhale mutakhala odzipereka, itha kukhala nthawi yoti mupeze thandizo kwa aliyense payekha kwa mlangizi wachitatu kuti akuthandizeni kuyanjanitsa izi.
Kusungitsa ndalama zochepa kumeneku kumabweretsa zabwino kuubwenzi wanu, popita nthawi.
5. Dziyang'anireni nokha
Ngati muli ndiudindo pazabanja lanu, gawo lomanganso ubalewu lidzafunika kuti mumvetsetse chifukwa chomwe mudapangira zomwe mudachita poyamba. Mwina ndinu otalikirana ndi otalikirana komanso zomwe zadzetsa mavuto, mwina pali mavuto okwiya, nsanje, zovuta pakusamalira ndalama, ana kapena katundu ndi zina zotero.
Yakwana nthawi yoti muziyang'anitsitsa nokha ndikuwona mtundu uliwonse wamachitidwe omwe mwakhala nawo m'moyo wanu.
Yang'anani mmbuyo pomwe mudayamba kuchita izi ndikupeza nokha zomwe mumaganizira, ndi zomwe mumayembekezera kuti mupeze.
Uwu ndi ntchito yanu, kuti musamve kuti mutha kugawana ndi mnzanu, ndipo ndichabwino. Muyenera kukhala ndi malo ogwiritsira ntchito izi, koma ndikofunikira kuti musagwiritse ntchito ngati chowiringula kuti mupewe kugwira ntchito yovuta yomanganso ubale wanu (mwina ngati mukufuna kukonza!).
Mukawona machitidwe omwe angakhale atakhalapo kwazaka zambiri, ndiye kuti mutha kuyamba kuzigwiritsa ntchito ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake zidachitika, ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake, mudzapatsidwa mphamvu kuti musinthe zomwe mungafunike kupanga kuti mukwaniritse moyo wosangalala komanso wokwaniritsidwa ndi mnzanu.