Zamkati
- Kudzudzula, poyera komanso mobisa
- Ndemanga zoyipa zilizonse zomwe mnzake amakonda
- Kugwiritsa ntchito mkwiyo kuopseza
- Kugwiritsa ntchito kumuwopseza kuti apusitse mnzake
- Kugwiritsa ntchito chete ngati mphamvu
- Anthu ozunza anzawo amafuna kukupangitsani kuganiza kuti ndinu openga
- Kukana
Anthu akamva mawu oti "kuzunza," nthawi zambiri amagwirizanitsa mawuwo ndi nkhanza. Koma palinso nkhanza yamtundu wina, yomwe siimaphatikizapo kupweteka kulikonse kwakuthupi: kunyozedwa. Kunenedwa mawu opweteka sikungapweteke thupi, koma kuwonongeka m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo komwe kumatha kumatha kuwononga kudziona kuti ndi munthu wabwino. Kodi kunyoza ndi chiyani?
Kulankhula mawu achipongwe ndi pamene munthu wina amagwiritsa ntchito chinenero kukhumudwitsa mnzake. Muubwenzi, nthawi zambiri amakhala amuna kapena akazi omwe amamuzunza, koma palinso azimayi, omwe amamuzunza, ngakhale izi sizodziwika. Kunenedwa mawu achipongwe ndi "kubisika" poyerekeza ndi kuchitiridwa nkhanza chifukwa sikusiya zizindikiro zilizonse. Koma nkhanza zotukwana zitha kukhala zowonongera, chifukwa zimawononga kudzidalira kwa wovutikayo, kudzidalira, ndipo pamapeto pake masomphenya awo owona.
Kwenikweni, kunyoza mawu ndikumagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo kutsimikizira munthu kuti zowona momwe akuganizira kuti akudziwa kuti ndizabodza, ndipo masomphenya okhawo omwe amamuzunza ndiowona. Mawu achipongwe ndi ovuta komanso osangalatsa. Wogwirirayo amagwiritsa ntchito njira iyi mobwerezabwereza kuti asokoneze zomwe mnzakeyo akufuna kuti azitha kumulamulira.
Omwe amamuzunza adzagwiritsa ntchito njira zotsatirazi kuti avulaze ndi kuwongolera wovutikayo:
Kudzudzula, poyera komanso mobisa
Omwe amachitira nkhanza anzawo amawadzudzula kuti owonererawo azikayikira za kudzidalira kwawo. "Simudzamvetsetsa malangizowo, ndiroleni ndiyikemo kabatiyo" ndichitsanzo chodzudzula mwachinsinsi. Zikatero, wolankhulayo samanena motsimikiza kuti mnzake ndiopusa, koma angonena izi posalola mnzakeyo kuchita okha ntchito.
Omwe amachitira nkhanza anzawo satha kutsutsa, komanso, samachita izi pagulu. Kumbuyo kwa zitseko zotseka, sangazengereze kutchula anzawo mayina awo, kunena zakomwe anzawo akuwonekera ndikuwayika pansi. Zomwe zimapangitsa nkhanzazi ndikuti mnzakeyo azimulamulira, osawalola kuganiza kuti angathe kusiya chibwenzicho. M'malingaliro a wozunzidwayo, palibe wina amene angawakonde chifukwa amakhulupirira pamene wozunza awauza kuti ndi osalankhula, opanda pake komanso osakondedwa.
Ndemanga zoyipa zilizonse zomwe mnzake amakonda
Popanda kunyoza mnzake, wolankhulayo amanyoza chilichonse chofunikira kwa wozunzidwayo. Izi zitha kuphatikizira chipembedzo, fuko, zosangalatsa, zosangalatsa kapena zokonda. Wowonongekayo adzanyoza abwenzi ndi abale akewo ndikuwauza kuti sayenera kucheza nawo. Zonsezi zimadza chifukwa chofuna kupatula mnzake yemwe amamuchitira zachipongweyo kuchokera kwina kuti mnzakeyo azidalira kwambiri iwo. Cholinga ndikuchepetsa wovutitsidwayo pachisangalalo chilichonse kapena chikondi kunja kwa iwo, kuti apitilize kuwongolera kwathunthu.
Kugwiritsa ntchito mkwiyo kuopseza
Wonenedwa mawuwo amapsa mtima msanga ndipo amakalipa ndi kufuula kuti achitire nkhanza munthuyo atakwiya. Palibe njira zabwino zolankhulirana zothetsera kusamvana popeza wozunza samamvetsetsa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito luso lotha kuthetsa kusamvana. Omwe amachitira nkhanza anzawo amayambira pa zero mpaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi m'masekondi 30, akumathetsa zoyesayesa za mnzake zolankhula mwanzeru. Mwakutero, yemwe amamuwuza mawuwo amagwiritsa ntchito kufuula kuti athetse kuyesayesa kwamtundu uliwonse kuti athetse mavuto abwenzi. Ndi njira yawo kapena khwalala. Zomwe zimatsogolera kumatanthauzira otsatirawa amwano:
Kugwiritsa ntchito kumuwopseza kuti apusitse mnzake
Omwe amamuzunza sakufuna kumva mbali ya womenyedwayo ndipo adzafupikitsa malongosoledwe ake powopseza. “Ngati simukhala chete tsopano, ndichoka!” Yemwe akuchitirananso nkhanza amaopseza mitundu ina ya nkhanza, monga kufuna kuti musankhe pakati pawo ndi banja lanu, "kapena ayi"! Ngati akuwona kuti mukuganiza zosiya chibwenzicho, awopseza kuti akutulutsani mnyumbamo / kutenga ana / kuunditsa chuma chonse kuti musalowe muakaunti yakubanki. Omwe amanyoza mawu amafuna kuti mukhale mwamantha, modalira komanso pachiwopsezo.
Kugwiritsa ntchito chete ngati mphamvu
Omwe amamuzunza agwiritsa ntchito chete ngati njira "yolangira" mnzake. Powaziziritsa, amadikirira kuti wovutikayo abwere kudzapempha. “Chonde ndilankhuleni,” ndi mawu omwe ozunza amafuna kumva. Amatha kupita nthawi yayitali osalankhula kuti awonetse okondedwa awo mphamvu zomwe ali nazo pachibwenzi.
Anthu ozunza anzawo amafuna kukupangitsani kuganiza kuti ndinu openga
Pofuna kuti azikulamulirani, "akuwunikirani". Ngati angaiwale kugwira ntchito yomwe mudawapempha kuti achite, adzakuwuzani kuti simudzawafunsa konse, kuti "muyenera kukhala okalamba komanso okomoka".
Kukana
Omwe amanyoza anzawo anganene china chake chopweteka, ndipo mukawayitanira, kanani kuti sichinali cholinga chawo. Adzakupatsani udindo, nkunena kuti "simunawamvetse" kapena "amatanthauza nthabwala koma mulibe nthabwala."
Tsopano popeza muli ndi chidziwitso chotsimikiza cha kutukwana, kodi mumazindikira chilichonse chomwe chalembedwa pano? Ngati ndi choncho, chonde funsani wothandizira kapena malo ogona azimayi. Mukuyenera kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wathanzi, wachikondi, osati munthu wankhanza. Chonde chitanipo kanthu tsopano. Kukhala kwanu bwino kumadalira.