Zamkati
- 1. Kumvetsera kwambiri, osalankhula kwambiri.
- 2. Kumanga kuzindikira.
- 3. Kusunga kuzindikira.
- 4. Yesani chatsopano.
- 5. Khalani ndi nthawi yambiri pamodzi.
- 6. Muzikhala ndi nthawi yochepa yocheza.
- 7. Ikani foni pansi.
- 8. Ikani patsogolo ubwenzi.
- 9. Kukhazikitsanso zolinga za ubale.
- 10. Khalani ndi zosangalatsa zambiri.
- Sinthani kusanja kwamawu
Chaka chatsopano. Mwayi watsopano wokula, kuphunzira, kufufuza, ndikuwonekeratu chisankho cha chaka chatsopano.
Zosankha zambiri za Chaka Chatsopano zimakhudzana ndi kudzisamalira. Mwachitsanzo, kudzikweza tokha, kuchita zambiri, kumwa pang'ono, kucheza kwambiri ndi abwenzi komanso abale, kapena kupeza nthawi yoti tikhale tokha. Nanga bwanji za mwayi wokula ubale?
Kaya ndinu othandizana naye, okwatirana, abwenzi, kapena kungopita kunja, chaka chatsopano ndi nthawi yabwino kutero onaninso momwe mungakulitsire chibwenzi ndi momwe mungalimbitsire ubale wanu.
Tiyeni tisaganize izi ngati zisankho, koma njira zounikira zomwe tikuchita tsopano, zomwe tikufuna kuchita mtsogolo, ndikufupikitsa malo pakati pa awiriwa.
Werengani kuti muphunzire njira 10 zomwe mungapangire mwayi wokula limodzi ngati banja ndikupanga banja kukhala labwino.
1. Kumvetsera kwambiri, osalankhula kwambiri.
Pamene tikulankhula ndi mnzathu kapena mnzathu nthawi yomwe simunagwirizane nthawi zambiri, timangomvetsera zomwe mnzathu akunena. Kuchokera m'mawu awo oyamba, tayamba kale kupanga mayankho kapena kukana.
Kodi zingawoneke bwanji ngati mumamvetseradi - kulola mpata kuti umve zomwe mnzanuyo akuganiza, momwe akumvera, ndi zomwe akuda nkhawa, musanayankhe mayankho athu?
Kulimbitsa ubale komanso kukula limodzi muubwenzi, muyenera kutsegula makutu anu ndi kumvetsera.
2. Kumanga kuzindikira.
Nthawi zambiri, mayankho athu kwa anzathu si mayankho kutengera zomwe zikuchitika pakadali pano - mayankhowo amatengera zomwe tili nazo pakadali pano mkangano wathu wapano.
Tikubweretsa zifukwa zam'mbuyomu, malingaliro am'mbuyomu kapena momwe timamvera, zokumana nazo zakale ndi zotsutsana zofananira. Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji njira zatsopano zopangira ubale wabwino ngati simukudziwa zomwe mwina mukubweretsa munthawi ino?
3. Kusunga kuzindikira.
Njira ina yolimbikitsira ubale wanu ndikudziwitsa za momwe mukumvera komanso zosowa za mnzanu.
Titha kukhalabe ozindikira muubwenzi wathu wonse pokhudzana ndi zomwe zikuchitika mthupi lathu.
Tikakhala ndi nkhawa, kukwezedwa, kapena kukwezedwa, matupi athu amawonetsa zizindikilo zina. Zindikirani ngati mtima wanu umayamba kugunda kwambiri ngati mukumva ngati mulibe mpweya ngati mukumva ngati mukutentha kapena kutentha kapena kutuluka thukuta.
Izi zonse ndizizindikiro kuti mumakhudzidwa. Samalani ndi izi, ganizirani izi ndipo pangani ndikudziwitsani za momwe thupi lanu limayankhira.
Thupi lathu limagwira ntchito yayikulu posunga mayankho athu.
4. Yesani chatsopano.
Kaya ndi zomwe mnzanu amafuna kuyeserera ndipo mwakhala mukukayikira, kapena malo atsopano omwe simunakhaleko kale, kuyesera china chatsopano kapena chosiyana chingayambitsenso moto ndi chisangalalo muubwenzi.
Tikamakumana ndi zinthu zatsopano limodzi, zimakulitsa ndikukulitsa kulumikizana komwe tili nako ndi mnzathu.
Sayenera kukhala yopenga - itha kungoyitanitsa china kuchokera ku malo odyera omwe mumakonda ku Thailand omwe anyamata amatenga nawo Lachisanu usiku uliwonse.
5. Khalani ndi nthawi yambiri pamodzi.
Kukula kwaubwenzi, okwatirana ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yambiri yocheza limodzi.
Kodi mukuwononga nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanu? Unikani nthawi, maola, kapena masiku omwe mumakhala ndi anzanu - kodi nthawi yabwinoyi ndi imeneyi? Kapena nthawi yakwana?
Pezani malo ochezera nthawi yabwino limodzi munthawi zomwe mwina m'mbuyomu zidadziwika kuti nthawi zopezekapo. Fufuzani mwayi wolumikizana.
6. Muzikhala ndi nthawi yochepa yocheza.
Chabwino, ndikumvetsetsa kuti izi ndizosiyana ndi nambala yapita; Komabe, nthawi zina kupezeka kumapangitsa mtima kukula. Pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yotalikirana, titha kukulitsa ubale ndi ife eni.
Pogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yopatukana ndi bwenzi lathu, tikhoza kuyamba kuchita zina mwazomwe timalemba pamndandanda wathu woti tichite masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusinkhasinkha, kucheza ndi anzathu, kuwerenga kapena kulemba zolemba.
Tikamatha kulumikizana ndi ife tokha- ndipamene timakhalapo tikakhala ndi mnzathu.
7. Ikani foni pansi.
Kusagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka pafoni sikofanana ndi kuwononga nthawi yocheperako mukakhala ndi mnzanu.
Nthawi zambiri, timatha kuwonera kanema limodzi, pulogalamu yathu yomwe timakonda pa TV, ndikudalira mndandanda wathu womwe timakonda wa Netflix, komanso nthawi yomweyo tikudutsa mafoni athu.
Kodi zimawoneka bwanji kungowonera chophimba chimodzi mukamacheza ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu kapena bwenzi lanu kapena bwenzi lanu? Nthawi yocheperako yoti aliyense payekha itha kukhala imodzi mwamaganizidwe anu a Chaka Chatsopano, koma nanga bwanji nthawi yophimba yomwe mumakhala limodzi ndi mnzanu?
Mafoni am'manja amakhudza kwambiri maubale athu ndipo tiyenera kukhala oyenera komanso odziletsa.
8. Ikani patsogolo ubwenzi.
Kukondana muubwenzi sikutanthauza kungogonana kapena zochita zilizonse zogwirizana ndi kugonana. Ubwenzi ukhoza kukhalanso wachikondi, kupezeka podziwa, komanso kukhala pachiwopsezo cha wokondedwa wanu.
Izi sizitanthauza kuti kukondana sikuyenera kukhala patsogolo. Pakhoza kukhala malo okondana komanso kuwonongeka kwamaganizidwe. Ikani patsogolo maubwenzi apamtima ndikulumikizananso ndi mnzanu.
9. Kukhazikitsanso zolinga za ubale.
Nthawi zambiri muubwenzi kapena m'banja, timatopa ndi ntchito zamasiku ano. Timadzuka, timamwa khofi, timadya chakudya cham'mawa, timapita kuntchito, timabwerera kunyumba kukalankhula ndi anzathu za ntchito kapena ana, kenako ndikukagona. Zingawonekere bwanji ngati kukhazikitsanso ndikudzipereka ku zolinga zanu muubwenzi wokondana?
Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mukufuna kuziyika patsogolo chaka chino? Ndi madera ati omwe nonse mungapereke pang'ono kapena kutengera pang'ono kuchokera kwa anzanu? Kukhazikitsa nthawi yokhazikika kuti mukhazikitsenso zolinga zaubwenzi kungakuthandizeni kuti muzimva kulumikizana ndi mnzanuyo komanso kuti mumve ngati muli pachibwenzi.
10. Khalani ndi zosangalatsa zambiri.
Kuseka. Pali zovuta zambiri zomwe zikuchitika m'miyoyo yathu, mdera lathu, padziko lapansi. Pali zambiri zoti zikhumudwitse, Zambiri zomwe sizabwino, ndipo mwina koposa zomwe tikufuna ndizomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osasangalala. Chithandizo chake chingakhale kupeza mwayi wosangalala, wopusa, wosewera, komanso wonga mwana.
Onerani kanema chifukwa amangokupangitsani kuseka, kugawana nthabwala kapena ma memes ndi mnzanu kuti muchepetse tsiku lawo, muziyika patsogolo tsiku lililonse thandizani mnzanu kumwetulira.
Sinthani kusanja kwamawu
Mwa kusintha "chisankho" kukhala "mwayi" wosintha, kukula, kapena kukulitsa kulumikizana. Titha kusintha mayanjano athu ndi izi.
Kusintha kumawoneka ngati ntchito inayake yomwe timafunikira kuti tichite zomwe timafunikira, koma kulumikizana ndichinthu chomwe chitha kupitilirabe kupitilira nthawi. Palibe kutha kulumikizana, kukula, kapena kusintha. Mwanjira iyi, bola mukuyesera - mukuyesetsa - mukukwaniritsa lingaliro la Chaka Chatsopano chaubwenzi wanu.