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Woyenera Kukhala Ndi Luso Laubwenzi Pothetsera Kusamvana- Njira Yothetsera Kusamvana: APR
- Okondedwawo athetsa vutoli mwadala
- Njira yokhayo yolankhulirana ndiyosavuta
Woyenera Kukhala Ndi Luso Laubwenzi Pothetsera KusamvanaWoyenera Kukhala Ndi Luso Laubwenzi Pothetsera Kusamvana
Maluso ofananirana ndiwo chinsinsi chokhala ndi ubale wokhalitsa, wolumikizana kwambiri womwe umakhala ndi kulumikizana kwamphamvu.
Mndandandawo ndi waufupi; chisankho chokonda, mfundo zoyambira, kulumikizana, kuwonetsa malingaliro, zokonda ndi malire ndi kusamvana.
Aliyense ali ndi "ntchito yochita" pa izi. Ndiye, pali njira ziti zothetsera kusamvana?
Ndikofunikira kukumbukira, nthawi zonse timagwira ntchito. Chifukwa chake, ndichibadwa kuyang'anitsitsa ndikuwona magawo athu komwe titha kukula, kuyeretsa, kusintha ndikusintha.
Ngakhale zonsezi, luso logwirizana lomwe limatsimikizira ngati chibwenzi chitha "tisanamwalire" ndi: Kuthetsa Kusamvana. Palibe mphindi yachiwiri ndipo ndichifukwa chake.
Mabanja ogwirizana kwambiri amalumikizana pakapita nthawi.
Pamene kulumikizana kwawo kukukulira, kukondana kwawo kumakula m'mbali zonse - zauzimu, waluntha, zokumana nazo, zamalingaliro komanso zogonana, amakhala osatetezeka.
“Amadziwululira” kwa wokondedwa wawo mochulukira.Ndi chiwonetsero ichi chimabwera pachiwopsezo; chiopsezo chokana, kuweruzidwa, kutsutsidwa, kusamvedwa, kumvedwa ndikukondedwa.
Pakachitika zochitika monga kukambirana, meseji yayifupi, kusaphonya, ndi zina zambiri, zimatha kuyambitsa mantha am'mbuyomu.
Gwero silothandiza.
Winawake ananena china chake ndipo mawuwo adatera. Adagwera pa 'malo ofewa' mwa m'modzi mwa anzawo. Mnzanuyo amachoka, kutseka, kuyankha ndi mawu okwiya, ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi ndi "nkhani zomwe zimafuna kuthetsa kusamvana".
Nkhani zimasunthira anthu kutali ndi chikondi chomwe amagawana.
Mavuto, mavuto onse, ayenera kuthetsedwa mwa njira yomwe imawalimbikitsa abwenziwo kuti ayambirenso kukondana zomwe zidalipo nkhaniyi isanachitike.
Nkhani sizingafanane ndi ena kapena kuzilungamitsa kuti “sakutanthauza, amandikonda.” Maganizo anali otanganidwa, mawuwo adayambitsa china, mnzake adasunthira kutali ndikumasulira kwavuto.
Uku ndiye kukula kwa nkhani yokhudza kuthetsa kusamvana.
Kuthetsa kusamvana ndikumacheza kwambiri pakati pawo.
Zimafunikira maanja onse kuti achite zinthu zenizeni zenizeni, ndikuyika njira zawo zodzitetezera, mantha awo ndikukhala owona.
Onaninso:
Njira Yothetsera Kusamvana: APR
(Kutha kwa adilesi ya APR)
Magazini iliyonse iyenera kuyankhulidwa ndi mnzake yemwe adayambitsidwa ndikuwonetsa: zomwe zidachitika, mawu ndi chiyani, yankho langa ndi chiyani, zomwe ndidachita "kuno".
Izi ndi za inu. Palibe 'kuwukira' pano. Pali mawu, ofotokoza mwambowu. Ogwira nawo ntchito: Mverani. "Amamvetsera" monga "amamva kukhudzidwa 'uko'.
Kuyankha komwe kuyenera kuchitika ndikuvomereza zomwe zidachitika kumeneko kubwereza kulumikizana kwathunthu momwe mungathere popanda chinyengo, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, kapena chifukwa.
Chotsatira, chochitikacho chimakonzedwa ndikulankhula zazomwe zakumana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa,
"Mukati, 'Ndipatseni kuno, ndidzachita!' Ndinamva kuti sindinasiridwe. Sindinali wokhoza. Ndinali wolamulidwa, kachiwiri. Ndinadzimva wotsika kuposa. Zakhala zikuwoneka muubwenzi wanga wonse wakale ndipo ndichinthu chomwe ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito kwa ine ”kwakanthawi koma zimabwerabe”.
Wokondedwayo akuyankha ndikuvomereza zomwe zayambitsazo komanso momwe mawuwo akhudzira. Ndi mawu omvetsetsa; Zomwe mawu / zochita zawo, zidawapangitsa okondedwa wawo ndi zomwe akumva, momwe akumvera.
"Ndikumvetsetsa. Ndidatenga zomwe ndimakonda kuchita. Ndikatero, simukuwona kuti ndikukuyamikirani, kapena gawo lanu kuubwenzi wathu kapena kuti ndikhulupilira kuti mutha kuchita [zomwe ndikudziwa kuti sichoncho.
Ndikumvetsa zomwe zidachitika, zomwe ndidanena komanso zomwe zakubweretserani, kumeneko. ”
Mbali yachiwiri pamalingaliro othetsa kusamvana: "Kukhala wowona mtima" kumafuna kukana kulikonse, kudzitchinjiriza, kudula, kuchotsa, ndi mayankho ena kuti asungidwe.
Izi zimapha kukambirana; palibe chomwe chatsimikizika.
Okondedwawo athetsa vutoli mwadala
Mgwirizano "wochita china chosiyana" mtsogolo liti zina zimachitika monga zidachitikira kuno. Ndipo, amapanga fayilo ya cKutumiza kumgwirizanowu.
[Anayambitsa] "Ndikudziwa kuti mumandikonda ndipo mumandithandiza. Ndigwira ntchito pakumva kuti mnzanga samandiona kuti ndine wofunika. 'China chikachitika' ndikumverera kwakale kukuyamba kukwera mwa ine, ndipumira ndikudziwitsani zomwe zikuchitika "kuno." ‘Wokondedwa Gosh, utayamba kugwira ntchito ndi mayi wogulitsayo, ndimatha kuzindikira kuti chinthu chamtengo wapatali chomwe ndikugwiranso ntchito chabweranso '. Ndigwira ndipo ndadzipereka kukupempha kuti undikumbatire kapena kuti undigwire dzanja, ndiyandikira, sindingodula. ”
[Mnzake] "Nditha kutero! Ndikudziwa gawo langa. Ndilumpha.
Ndikulanda. Sindigunda batani la kaye ndikugwira nanu ntchito.
Ndiyenera kuchita ntchito yabwinoko. Ndidzipereka kuti ndikhale ndi chidziwitso chopita patsogolo chifukwa ndikudziwa kuyankha komwe kumachitika ndikamachita "zomwe ndimachita." Ingolowererani, kapena ikani dzanja lanu mthumba mwanga kapena khalani pamiyendo kuti mundimvere. Sindingakhale wangwiro, ndakhala kwa nthawi yayitali, koma ndigwira ntchito pa Ine. ”
Ena mwa iwo omwe amakhala ndi zachiwerewere mwina amatsatira posachedwa pamachitidwe othetsa kusamvana (Ndiko kutenga kwanga!)
Cholinga chothetsera kusamvana ndikosavuta: kubwezeretsa ubalewo pafupi ndi chikondi chomwe awiriwo amagawana.
Njira yokhayo yolankhulirana ndiyosavuta
- Adilesi
- Njira
- Sankhani
Pangani mgwirizano watsopano ndikudzipereka kuti musunga mgwirizano.
Zikugwira. Zimatengera kuyesetsa komanso kuzindikira ndi anthu onse kuti zichitike.
Kuthetsa mikangano, kuthetsa nkhani zomwe zikuwonekera, kumatsimikizira zotsatira zake; kodi ubalewo ubweretsa chisangalalo, kukhutira ndikukwaniritsidwa kapena kodi okondedwa awo apitilirabe kutali ndi chikondi.