Zamkati
- Nanga bwanji za maubale ena onse omwe timakumana nawo tsiku lililonse?
- Lamulo Lachitatu
- Ubale ndi kufunikira kwa anthu m'miyoyo yathu
Pamene Jule Styne ndi Bob Merrill adalemba nyimbo ya "People" ya Broadway nyimbo ya Funny Girl yomwe ili ndi Barbra Streisand, sanadziwe kuti nyimboyi ingakhale yotchuka kwambiri. Kaya anali mawu a Barbra kapena momwe nyimboyi imakhudzira zosowa zamkati za aliyense ndizovuta. Lingaliro lonse la anthu osowa anthu lakhala bizinesi yayikulu - makamaka yoyang'ana pachibwenzi. Mabuku, malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, akatswiri odziwa zamankhwala, maulendo apanyanja, malo ogulitsira tchuthi ngakhale othandizira kutikita minofu amalimbikitsa kutikita minofu kwa maanja.
Nanga bwanji za maubale ena onse omwe timakumana nawo tsiku lililonse?
Ganizirani ogwira nawo ntchito? Apongozi? Abale anu? Kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati dotolo wamano kapena dokotala? Bwana yemwe tsiku lililonse samawonjezera kalikonse pamlingo wa EQ kuntchito? Kapenanso amalume achikulire achi Harry, omwe amamva kuwawa koma amawonekera patchuthi chilichonse wokonzeka kukuyendetserani mtedza? Nanga bwanji ubale wanu ndi iye - m'modzi mwa osakondedwa mmoyo wanu? Sipanakhalepo thandizo lochuluka kunja kothetsa maubwenzi awa. Tiyenera kudumphadumpha ndikuwapangitsa kugwira ntchito momwe tingathere.
Lamulo Lachitatu
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndapeza yankho, ndipo ndimalitcha Lachitatu Circle Protocol. Mzere wachitatu ndi mgwirizano wosanenedwa womwe tili nawo wina ndi mnzake. Ziyembekezero zomwe sitimayankhula koma zimangochitika zokha. Zomwe timayembekezera kuchokera kwa anzathu, apongozi athu, achinyamata athu, ngakhale wogulitsa m'sitolo. Munthu winayo amayembekezera kuchokera kwa ife. Ndipo palibe amene amalankhula za chiyembekezo chimenecho - mgwirizano womwe tili nawo limodzi. Inu, owerenga ndi ine tili ndi mgwirizano. Mukuyembekeza kuphunzira china chothandiza kuchokera m'nkhaniyi ndipo ndili ndi chiyembekezo choti mudzawerenga (mwachiyembekezo mpaka kumapeto) ndikuphunzira china kuchokera momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito pamoyo wanu. Kapenanso kuposa pamenepo, khalani ndi chidwi chokwanira za Protocol yomwe mungafune kudziwa zambiri za izo, kuchokera patsamba langa kapena bukuli.
Zaka zisanu ndi zitatu zapitazo kuchipatala changa, ndimkagwira ntchito ndi wachinyamata yemwe adalandira bizinesi yamakolo ake, yomwe idaphatikizapo wopanga mabuku yemwe adamudziwa kuyambira ali ndi zaka 4. Tsoka ilo wosunga mabuku anali kumachitirabe motero. Monga kuti anali ndi zaka zinayi. Zinawonekeratu pamagawo omwe timayenera kupanga mawonekedwe atsopano a ubalewo - amafuna kuti akhalebe wamisala! Chifukwa chake 'kukhala' wachitatu adalengedwa, adakhala iye, woyang'anira mabuku komanso ubale - wokhawo wachitatu. Tidagwira ntchito pazomwe 'gululi' lidapangidwa, zofunikira ndi zoyambira, zosowa ndi zosowa za munthu aliyense, ndi zomwe adakonzeka kupereka kwa 'wokhalapo' watsopanoyu. Ubale wawo.
Lingaliroli lidagwira ntchito bwino, tsopano ndimaligwiritsa ntchito mu chipatala ndi achinyamata ndi makolo, maanja, apongozi, ogwira ntchito ndi owalemba ntchito komanso madera ena aliwonse omwe maubale amafunikira. Ndaphunzitsanso akatswiri azamisala komanso makochi omwe amagwiritsa ntchito ndi makasitomala awo.
Ubale ndi kufunikira kwa anthu m'miyoyo yathu
Kafukufuku waposachedwa ku Harvard adafika pachimake patatha zaka zopitilira 50 ndikupeza zambiri pazochitika zaubwenzi komanso kufunikira kwa anthu m'miyoyo yathu. Wofufuza wotsogola Dr. Waldinger adavomereza kuti potsatira maphunzirowa kwazaka zambiri ndikuyerekeza zaumoyo wawo komanso maubale awo koyambirira, anali wotsimikiza kuti kulumikizana mwamphamvu ndi gawo lofunikira pakukhala ndi thanzi labwino.
"Kafukufuku wathu wasonyeza kuti anthu omwe adachita bwino kwambiri ndi anthu omwe amadalira ubale wawo, abwenzi komanso gulu."
Ubale umatsimikizira kuti ndife ndani. Timachita ndikuchitapo kanthu kwa anthu omwe tili nawo pafupi - chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuphunzira momwe tingachitire ndi aliyense; anzathu ogwira nawo ntchito, abale athu, makolo omwe ali ndi achinyamata komanso ngakhale osakondedwa m'moyo wathu.
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, nthawi zonse timafuna kuti anthu atilandire momwe ife tiriri, koma timanyinyirika kuwalandira momwe alili. Njira yolumikizirana ndi omwe timawakonda, monga momwe timawakondera, ndiye kuti, ndikukhulupirira, pofunafuna zomwe timagawana kapena zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Sitiyenera 'kukonda' munthu kuti tigwirizane nawo. Tiyenera kupeza njira yabwino yolumikizirana ndikulola kuti ubale wabwino uchitike. Ngakhale nthawi zina zimawoneka ngati zosatheka, sizotheka. Pezani mtengo womwe mumagawana, chinthu choyambirira chomwe chimalumikiza ndikugwira ntchito ndi zomwe mungapeze. Zimapangitsa moyo kukhala wosavuta, wachifundo komanso wosangalatsa.
Nthawi ina ndikafufuza zaubwenzi ndi apongozi ndi makolo mukamalowa mabanja. Mpaka nthawiyo, khalani ndi moyo wanu. Iwo alidi omwe inu muli.