Zamkati
- 1. Gwiritsani ntchito nokha
- 2. Sinthani kulumikizana
- 3. Ndandanda ya nthawi
- 4. Khalani okondana
- Chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika
Kukondana kwamaganizidwe nthawi zambiri kumapangidwa ndi zochitika zauzimu, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kukondana, kukondana, komanso kulumikizana ndi bwenzi.
Ngakhale ndizofunikira kwa ena, kukondana ndikofunikira komanso kofunikira m'banja.
Ubwenzi wapamtima umakhudzana ndi kulumikizana, chitetezo, ulemu, komanso kuyandikira.
Muukwati, maanja nthawi zina amapeza kuti zochita zawo za tsiku ndi tsiku zakhala zawo, kuti akungochita zosemphana, ndipo atha kumva kuti ubale wawo wasokonekera. Amatha kupeza china chosowa, koma osazindikira kuti ndi chiyani.
Nthawi zambiri vuto limakhala loti samasamalira bwino ubale wawo, koma amalephera kuzindikira kuti ubalewo sukusamalidwa bwino.
Inde, monga mbewu, maubwenzi amafunika kusamalidwa. Ayenera kuthandizidwa ndipo amatero amafuna kukonza kosalekeza.
Anthu ambiri amataya mtima chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti ukwati ndi wangwiro; kuti mgwirizanowu, ngati uli wolondola, usamadzimve wosasamala, usasowe konse.
Choyamba, dzikumbutseni kuti palibe ukwati wangwiro.
Ngakhale maukwati osangalala kwambiri amakhala ndi zokumana ndi zovuta nthawi zina ngakhale kusowa chikondi nthawi zina. Kukhala pabanja kumafuna ntchito, ndipo ngati simunachite gawo lanu, ndi nthawi yoyamba. Mutha kukhala ndi zina zoti muchite.
Mukuyang'ana upangiri wodalirika ndi maupangiri amomwe mungabwezeretsereubwenzi wapamtima?
Malangizo omwe ali pansipa akuthandizani pakubwezeretsanso kukondana muukwati wanu ndikuwongolera zinthu.
1. Gwiritsani ntchito nokha
Kodi mungabwezeretse bwanji chibwenzi ngati mwakhala mukusowa kudzidalira ndipo mulibe chidaliro?
Piritsi lowawa la chowonadi ndiloti simungasangalale ndi maubwenzi apabanja, popeza kusadzidalira kumakhudza ubale wanu ndi mnzanu.
Mukadzichitira nokha manyazi, kusadzidalira kwanu kumayambitsa mikangano ndi mikangano, ndipo simudzayankha bwino kwa mnzanu.
Kodi mumapezeka kuti mukudziwa momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muukwati wanga? Monga akunenera, muyenera kudzikonda nokha musanakonde wokondedwa wanu.
Ngati mukukumana ndi kutaya mtima, simusintha kusintha. Gawo loyamba liyenera kuphatikizapo kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, kutenga kalasi, kuphika mkate, kapena kuwona wothandizira.
Mfundo ndiyakuti, zilizonse zomwe zingafunike kukulitsa kudzidalira kwanu, kudzidalira, komanso chisangalalo chaumwini - zidzakhala chida chofunikira kwambiri m'banja lanu ndikulimbitsa kukondana.
Ena amati mabanja omwe ali achimwemwe kwambiri ndi omwe amakhala mmoyo wawo wokha, amakonda zokonda zawo, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala okhutira komanso osangalala.
Kodi mungabwezeretse bwanji zibwenzi m'banja?
Mawu ofunikira apa ndi amodzi. Pitani mukadzipeza nokha ndipo mukapeza yankho lolondola la funsoli, momwe mungabwezeretsereubwenzi muubwenzi.
2. Sinthani kulumikizana
Iyi ndi ntchito yofunika kwambiri yomwe inu ndi mnzanu muzichita, ndipo banja lililonse lingayigwiritse ntchito kuti musangalale kwamuyaya.
Kuyankhulana, kuphatikizapo kumvera ena chisoni, kumvetsera mwachidwi, komanso kuzindikira zazomwe sizili mawu, ndi zina mwa zinthu zofunika kuziganizira.
Kulankhulana komwe mukufunika kuthandizira kumadalira zosowa za banja lanu ndipo muyenera kuzizindikira.
Chifukwa chake, mungabwezeretse bwanji chibwenzi muubwenzi wanu? Gawo loyamba ndikuwonetsetsa kuti inu ndi mnzanu muli patsamba limodzi ndipo zolinga zanu, cholinga chanu komanso kuyesetsa kwanu kumanganso chibwenzi ndizogwirizana.
Ngati mukuwona kuti wokondedwa wanu ali wokonzeka kugwira ntchitoyi kuti akalimbikitse kukondana, muuzeni zomwe mukufuna. Ngati simunapezekebe pano, pali zambiri zomwe mungachite panokha kuti muyambitse zinthu. Ngati ndi choncho, mnzanuyo akhoza kutsata zomwe mwatsogolera.
Ubwenzi wapita pachibwenzi ndipo mukuyang'ana njira zothandiza kumangitsirananso ukwati, zingakhale zothandiza kuwerenga buku lolumikizana monga The Five Languages of Love kapena, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Mabuku awa akupatsani chidziwitso kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro komanso kusintha zina ndi zina kuti mubwererenso muukwati.
3. Ndandanda ya nthawi
Ndizachidziwikire kuti inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kucheza nthawi yabwino limodzi kuti mubwezeretse chikondi m'banja.
Koma mungamange bwanji chibwenzi?
Patulani nthawi yokwanira kamodzi pamlungu kuti muyambe. Limbikitsani nthawi ino ndi chidwi chanu chonse komanso luso lanu.
Patsani chovala chanu chokongola, dzipangeni kukhala owala.
Konzani nthawi yocheza kuti pasakhale phokoso mukamacheza, osakhala ndi nthawi yongoyang'anizana, ndipo osayambitsa mikangano.
Zilibe kanthu kuti mumachita chiyani, bola ngati ndichosangalatsa kwa nonse; komanso pamlingo womwe mutha kulumikizana nonse.
Ngati zinthu sizisintha nthawi yomweyo - musachite mantha, komanso koposa zonse, osataya mtima poyesetsa kupeza chibwenzi m'banja.
Mukupita kwa nthawi, inu ndi mnzanu mutsimikizika kulumikizananso ngati mwadzipereka kuchitira chibwenzi.
4. Khalani okondana
Kukhala wachikondi kumatanthauza kuchita zinthu zochepa koma zoganizira zomwe zikuyimira chikondi chanu.
Kupereka zolemba zachikondi, kuphika chakudya chamadzulo, kapena kuwapatsa mphatso yokutidwa popanda chifukwa china koma kunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" ndi zitsanzo za machitidwe achikondi ndipo zimathandiza kwambiri pakukhazikitsanso ubale.
Kuti mulimbikitse kukondana, osawopa kupita kunja kwa malo omwe mumakhala bwino, kuti mukhale olimba, kenako nkumamatira zomwe zimagwira ntchito.
Chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika
Kubwezeretsa chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika ndikubwezeretsanso ubale womwe udasweka ndi ntchito yovuta.
Komabe, ngati nonse muli ofunitsitsa kuchira pazochitikazo, konzaninso ubale wanu ndikupangitsa kuti banja lanu likhale umboni-mtsogolo, nazi maupangiri oti mungakondenso pambuyo pazovutazo.
- Funsani katswiri wovomerezeka Yemwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavuto omwe kusakhulupirika kwabweretsa pa banja lanu ndikupita kukhululukira mnzanuyo.
- Onaninso malo akale, bweretsani masiku anu oyambilira ndikuwongolera mphamvu kuti mupange zokumbukira zatsopano ndikukumbukira zomwe zidakupangitsani kukhala oyamba.
- Muzicheza nawo momveka bwino za zokumbukira zaubwana, masiku okumbukira kubadwa ndi zokumbukira tsiku lokumbukira, tchuthi ndi zolemba zakale za moyo.
- Monga sitepe pang'onopang'ono, pitilizani kuwunika zomwe zikusowa m'moyo wanu wabanja ndipo yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu kuti muthe kuthana nawo, mogwirizana.
- Tengani njira yodalirika yokwatirana pa intaneti kuchokera kunyumba kwanu kuti zikuthandizeni kupulumuka kusakhulupirika ndikumanganso banja labwino.
Kubwezeretsanso kukondana m'banja si sayansi ya rocket.
Ngati china chake sichikugwira ntchito, sinthani njira kuti mupezenso chibwenzi. Chofunika kwambiri, simuyenera kusiya bola ngati nonse mukuyesetsa kubwezeretsa chibwenzi muukwati.