Zamkati
- 1. Khazikitsani malamulo oyenera kutsatira
- 2. Kugonana motetezeka
- 3. Khalani aulemu
- 4. Kayezetseni
- 5. Ikani malingaliro anu pambali
- 6. ... Musaope kulowereramo
Ngati mukuganiza zobweretsa zachiwerewere pamoyo wanu, pali malamulo ena omwe muyenera kudziwa musanachite.
Ambiri amawona kulumikizana kopanda zingwe kuti ndi kukumana kokhutiritsa komanso kosangalatsa. Anthu awiri okha omwe amagawana matupi awo usiku umodzi (kapena mausiku angapo) kuti azisangalala. Koma, kodi kuchita zachiwerewere nthawi zonse kungakhale kosasangalatsa? Zimakhala zovuta kukankhira pambali pamene mukugawana zachifundo kwambiri ndi wina.
Kugonana mwachisawawa kwakhala chizolowezi kwa zaka zikwizikwi zambiri ndi Gen Z's. Koma monga ma 1960 Gen X am'mbuyomu adaphunzira, "abwenzi ndi maubwino" samagwira ntchito kawirikawiri. Nawa malamulo asanu ndi amodzi okhudzana ndi kugonana kosakwanira komanso zifukwa zomveka zomwe, ngakhale mutayesetsa motani, sizimagwira ntchito kwenikweni.
1. Khazikitsani malamulo oyenera kutsatira
Ngati mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi popanda kucheza nanu, muyenera kukhazikitsa malamulo ndi mnzanu. Mwachitsanzo, kulankhula ndi kutumizirana mameseji kuyenera kukhala kwakanthawi komanso kosangalatsa.
Osakumbatirana kapena kucheza limodzi mutagonana. Izi ndi zomwe okwatirana amachita, osati omwe akungokhalira kukwatirana.
Pezani munthu yemwe mumakhala naye bwino. Ngakhale simukuyenera kugona ndi munthu wapamtima, mumayenera kulumikizana ndikumasuka ndi mnzanu. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukumana kokhutiritsa kwambiri kotheka.
Osayanjana pazanema. Kuwona zithunzi ndi zosintha zazomwe mungakonde mu sabata yonseyi zitha kuyamba kukupangitsani kuti muzimvera nawo.
2. Kugonana motetezeka
Chitani zogonana motetezeka - nthawi zonse! Ngakhale mutakhala ndi mkazi yemwe mukulera naye, gwiritsani ntchito kondomu.
Dziwani zambiri.
Makondomu samakutetezani ku zinthu monga HPV kapena herpes, chifukwa chake musawope kufunsa mnzanu mafunso amomwe amatetezera komanso kuti adayesedwa liti komaliza.
Simudziwa komwe mnzanuyo adakhalako ndipo sakudziwa komwe mudapitako. Musalole kuti kukumana kwanu kokhutiritsa ndikudandaula kwakukulu pamoyo wanu.
3. Khalani aulemu
Kumbukirani kuti uku ndi njira yongogonana osagonana, koma choseweretsa chanu. Muyenera kulemekeza malire amunthuyo komanso zogonana.
Ngati iwo sali mu kink yofanana ndi yomwe inu muli, pitirizani ndikupanga zina pamodzi.
Ngakhale simuli pachibwenzi, yesetsani kuyang'ana chisangalalo cha mnzanu. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti azimayi amakhala pachiwopsezo chotenga nawo mbali ndi mnzawo wokondana kuposa zokumana nazo. Izi ndichifukwa choti mnzake amafunitsitsa kuti amusangalatse, amamasuka nawo, ndipo amalankhulana momasuka.
Kudziwa izi, osamulemba! Muuzeni adziwe kuti mulipo kuti mumuchotse, ngakhale zitenge nthawi yayitali bwanji. Yesetsani kuchita masewerawa osangalatsa ndikuchita zilizonse zomwe zingamuthandize kukhala wosangalala.
Ngati mukufuna kupewa "kumangokhalira kukhudzidwa" mukamalumikizana, ndibwino kuti muthe kusiya nthawi yomwe mwakumana. Koma khalani aulemu. Ngati ndi 4 AM, imeneyo si nthawi yabwino kwambiri yoti mutumize mnzanu wogona.
4. Kayezetseni
Kodi mudayesedwapo matenda opatsirana pogonana? “Ndimagonana mosatekeseka!” mungatero. Izi ndi zabwino, koma kodi mumadziwa kuti kugonana kosatetezeka kumaphatikizapo chilichonse chomwe mbolo imalowera pamalo opanda kondomu, ngakhale mutayika kondomu pambuyo pake kuti mufike pachimake? Kugonana pakamwa popanda zopinga kumawerengedwanso kuti ndi kotetezeka.
Kuyesedwa ndimakhalidwe abwino mdziko lazogonana. Onetsani ulemu kwa inu nokha ndi mnzanu wamtsogolo mwa kudzipangitsa kukhala oyera komanso okonzeka kusangalala.
Izi ndi zomwe Centers for Disease Control and Prevention imalimbikitsa kuyesa kwapachaka kwa STD:
- Chlamydia, Gonorrhea: onse omwe amagonana ayenera kuyesedwa kamodzi pachaka ku matenda opatsirana pogonanawa.
- Syphilis, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea: CDC imalimbikitsa amuna onse ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zingapo kapena osadziwika ayenera kuyesedwa miyezi itatu iliyonse mpaka itatu.
- HIV: Kayezetseni kamodzi pachaka ngati mukugonana mosadziteteza
5. Ikani malingaliro anu pambali
Kwa ena, ndizosavuta kuyima usiku umodzi kapena kungomangirira osaganizira chilichonse. Kwa ena, ndizosatheka kuti asadziphatike kwa munthu yemwe akupereka thupi lawo komanso kuti akhale pachiwopsezo ndi iye.
Chinsinsi cha kugonana kosafunikira ndikuti palibe ubale womwe umakhalapo.Kuti mukhale okhazikika pamakonzedwewo, muyenera kudzikumbutsa kuti izi ndi kugonana chabe. Anthu ena amatha kupewa kumpsompsona ndi cholumikizira kuti apewe kuyanjana komwe kumadza ndi izi.
Langizo lina lothandiza kuti muchepetse nkhawa ndikupewa kugona ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena wina amene mwakhala mukumufuna kale.
Chifukwa chogonana osagwirizana sikugwira ntchito kwenikweni
Kugonana ndichinthu choyandikira kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndi munthu wina. Mukuwonetsa kusatetezeka mwanjira yake yoyera. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumalonjezera - mumalumbira- mumalumbira kuti musamangokhalira kukhumudwa, anthu ambiri samangoyenda mwanjira imeneyi.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti oxytocin yomwe imatulutsidwa panthawi yogonana (makamaka pambuyo pobwezeretsa) ndiyomwe imapangitsa kuti anthu azigonana. Kugonana kumathandizanso kuti anthu azikondana kwambiri komanso kumalimbana.
Chifukwa chake, mwayi woti mnzake m'modzi angadziphatike kwa mnzake ndiwokwera kwambiri.
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6. ... Musaope kulowereramo
Kugonana mwachisawawa kumatha kukhala kwabwino kwa ena, koma ngakhale m'badwo wamasiku ano, anthu ambiri samangopangidwira zolakwika zopanda tanthauzo.
Ngati mwagwa pa bwenzi lanu, musawope kutsatira mtima wanu ndi kuwafunsa.
Mutha kuwona tsogolo lenileni ndi munthuyu, ndipo simudzakhala nokha amene mungagwere naye mnzanu wamba. Pali mabanja ambiri omwe tsopano ali okwatirana omwe adayamba kuwonerana ngati malo amodzi usiku.
Ngati mukufuna kusewera masewera olimbitsa thupi, onetsetsani kuti mwakhazikitsa malamulo anu. Kayezetseni, khalani otetezeka, komanso muzilemekeza okondedwa anu madzulo. Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yopanga zogonana, osangokhala kunja. Ngakhale titakhala oona mtima, sizimachitika chimodzimodzi.