Zamkati
- Momwe mungadziwire ngati mukufuna upangiri waukwati
- Kodi mungayembekezere chiyani kuchokera kuchipatala
- Kodi phindu la chithandizo chokwatirana ndi chotani
Sizachilendo kuti okwatirana azengereza kufunafuna chithandizo mpaka atakhala pamavuto mpaka kuganiza zopatukana.
Ino si nthawi yoyenera kufunafuna chithandizo kapena kupeza chithandizo chokwatirana! Pamenepo, ndikothekera kuti aliyense m'banja wapwetekedwa kwambiri ndi mnzake kapena wapanga mkwiyo kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wawo.
Kukwiya kotere kumawapangitsa kukhala kovuta kwa iwo kuti akhulupirire njirayi mokwanira kuti ayambe kulola m'njira zatsopano zakumvetsetsa zovuta zawo. Zikutanthauzanso kuti m'modzi m'modzi atha kukhala kuti achoka pachibwenzi pofuna kudziteteza ku zowawa ndi zopweteka, ndipo izi zimawapangitsa kukhala kovuta kuti agwetse makoma awo ndikupanganso chibwenzicho. Ndipo mwina, izi ndi zizindikilo zochepa zomwe muyenera kuyendera mlangizi waukwati.
Monga tanenera, ndibwino kuti mupemphe thandizo ndikuyamba kulandira chithandizo chaukwati koyambirira, mukazindikira kuti simuthetsa kusamvana kwanu moyenera ndipo zikubweretsa machitidwe osayanjana wina ndi mnzake.
Momwe mungadziwire ngati mukufuna upangiri waukwati
Ndi zachilendo kuti tizikhala ndi mikangano kapena kusiyana muubale wathu.
Ndife anthu awiri osiyana omwe ali ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zamaganizidwe ndi kuzindikira, komanso zokonda ndi njira zosiyanasiyana zochitira zinthu. Izi sizimamupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wolakwika kapena woipa.
Koma, pali mikangano ina yaukwati yomwe imafunikira upangiri waluso ndi upangiri. Kuchita chithandizo chokwatirana kumatha kuthandiza maanja kuthana ndi zazing'ono zotere, zomwe zikadatha, zitha kuwononga banja lawo mpaka kalekale.
Zizindikiro zochepa m'banja mwanu zingakuuzeni kuti yakwana nthawi yoti mupite kukalandira chithandizo chokwatirana.
- Simupeza nthawi yoti mukhale pansi ndikukambirana bwino
- Mutha kukangana pazinthu zazing'ono pafupifupi tsiku lililonse
- Muli ndi zinsinsi ndipo ngakhale wokondedwa wanu amabisala kwa inu
- Mukuganiza kuti mnzanu ali ndi chibwenzi kunja kwa banja
- Mumakopeka ndi munthu wina nokha
- Nonse a inu mwadzipereka ku kusakhulupirika kwachuma, ndipo mndandanda ukupitilira
Chifukwa chake, muyenera kupita liti kuchipatala? Ngati banja lanu likulowera kuzinthu zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa, ndiye kuti mukufunikira chithandizo chokwatirana.
Kodi mungayembekezere chiyani kuchokera kuchipatala
Pali mafunso omwe angakukhumudwitseni mukamaganiza zopita kuchipatala kapena ayi. Mutha kumaliza kusanthula pa World Lide Web kuti mupeze mafunso ngati, 'Kodi ndiyembekezere chiyani kuchokera ku chithandizo chaukwati?' kapena, 'Kodi uphungu waukwati ndiwothandiza?'
Ziwerengerozi zimapereka chithunzi chabwino cha chithandizo chaukwati. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, pafupifupi 97% mwa omwe adafunsidwayo adavomereza kuti Marriage Therapy ndi omwe amawathandiza onse.
Ndipo, kuti mumve, chithandizo chokwatirana chimagwira ntchito mwachangu ndipo chimatenga nthawi yocheperapo kuposa upangiri waumwini. Koma, zimangotengera momwe mukufunira kukakumana ndi othandizira limodzi ngati banja komanso momwe mumalandirira upangiri waupangiri.
Mutha kuyembekezera mafunso ambiri okhudzana ndi inu omwe Therapist amafunikira mayankho olondola. Muyenera kulingalira, kulankhulana, ndi kutenga nawo mbali pomaliza ntchito pamodzi ngati banja kuti muyembekezere zotsatira zabwino kumapeto kwa gawo lomwe mwapatsidwa.
Kodi phindu la chithandizo chokwatirana ndi chotani
Akatswiri pa zaubwenzi amavomereza kuti sikuti ndikuti ngati pali kusamvana m'banja mwanu zomwe zimaneneratu za ukwati wabwino, koma momwe mungabwerere limodzi ndikusunga mgwirizano wanu.
Mutagwirizana kuti mufunika thandizo lakunja kuti musinthe machitidwe oyipa, ndipo nonse mwadzipereka pantchitoyi, ndikofunikira kuti mukhale omasuka kulandira zidziwitso zatsopano za zomwe wowonayo akuwona.
Zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito m'malo ambiri zimagwiranso ntchito pano.
“Ngati mukufuna chibwenzi chomwe muli nacho tsopano, pitirizani kuchita zomwe mukuchitazo. Ngati mukufuna chibwenzi china, muyenera kuchita china chosiyana.”
Sizingakhale zophweka kusintha njira zanu zozikika, koma kutero kungabweretse ubale wokhutiritsa komanso wachimwemwe.
Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, kuchuluka kwapakati pa Therapy Yoyang'ana Maganizo kumakhala pa 75% malinga ndi American Psychological Association.