Zamkati
- Chikondi chimakhala ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana komanso mwamphamvu
- Khalani okonda moyo wanu ndipo mudzakopa chikondi cha moyo wanu
- Kudzikonda wekha osati kuyitanidwa kuti mukhale odzikonda, odzikonda
- Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani komanso zomwe mumakonda
- Ukwati wabwino umafuna chikondi chonse chomwe mungapereke ndipo ndizosavuta kuyendetsa ngati mwadzikondadi kale
Mukubweretsa chiyani kuukwati? Ili ndi funso lomwe amafunsidwa onse mwamawu komanso mopanda tanthauzo; munthawi ya chibwenzi, nthawi yopalana chibwenzi komanso muukwati wonse; tikufunsa funso ili. Kwenikweni timayesa kufunikira kwa bwenzi lathu. Kodi tidzakondedwa ndilo funso lomaliza lomwe layandikira. Koma kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Kodi chikondi chimatanthauza chiyani? Zomwe tikufunadi kudziwa ndikuti, tidzakhala otetezeka, othandizidwa komanso osangalala.
Chikondi ndi liwu lodzaza, lodzaza kotero kuti anthu ena sangathe ngakhale kulinena kapena kulimva. Ndipo komabe anthu ena amalankhula momasuka ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana. “Ndimakonda keke iyi; Ndimakonda diresi lija; Ndimakonda galimoto iyi; Ntchito iyi ndimaikonda ... ”Ndimakukondani! Ndimakukondani? Ndimakukondani.
Chikondi chimakhala ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana komanso mwamphamvu
Ndi kangati pomwe timayang'ana pagalasi ndikudziuza tokha kuti 'Ndimakukondani'? Kodi mumadzikonda nokha? Monga munthu aliyense payekha, mumamva kuti ndinu otetezeka, kuthandizidwa komanso kukhala osangalala? Kodi mumamvetsera nokha ndikuyankhanso? Mukakhala kuti mukufunika kutetezedwa ku zinthu zovuta kwambiri — bwenzi, wachibale kapena mnzanu wantchito, kodi mumatenga nthawi ndi malo omwe mumakhala otetezeka? Pamene mukuyesera chinthu chatsopano-ntchito, sukulu kapena pulogalamu yolimbitsa thupi, kodi mukudzichirikiza ndikudzilimbikitsa ndi malankhulidwe abwino? Kapena bwino, kodi mumadzichirikiza nokha pamene mukuyesa ndikulephera? Kodi mumadzitonthoza ndi chakumwa chofunda kapena kusamba? Kodi mumakhala ndi nthawi yokondwerera nokha, zomwe mwakwanitsa kapena zopereka zanu ku ubale wanu (waumwini kapena waluso)? Ngati mungayankhe kuti inde ku mafunso awa, ndiye kuti mwakonzeka kukwatira. Ngati mayankho anu anali ochepera inde, mutha kuwongolera mosavuta poyambira pano.
Khalani okonda moyo wanu ndipo mudzakopa chikondi cha moyo wanu
Izi ndi zoona mosasamala kanthu za ubale wanu. Simungakope munthu amene amakukondani kuposa momwe mumadzikondera nokha; ndizosatheka mwasayansi. Simudzilola kuti mulandire zambiri kuposa momwe mukukhulupirira kuti mukuyenera.
Ngati muli pachibwenzi, mudzakopa osilira omwe amakukondani monga momwe mumadzikondera nokha. Ngati mukuchita nawo zochitika zaubwenzi wanu zidzasintha mukamawonetsa kudzikonda; Mnzanuyo atha kuyamba kukondana kwambiri, kapena kukhumudwitsidwa ndi mtundu wanuwu ndikusankha kusiya chibwenzicho. Uwu ndi uthenga wabwino womwe muyenera kukhala nawo musanapange mgwirizano wokhalitsa waukwati. Ndipo ngati mwakwatirana ndipo mwasankha kuchita zodzikonda, zingakhale zothandiza kuyamba mwamupatsa mnzanu mutu pofotokoza cholinga ndi zokhumba zanu muubwenzi. Popeza mwakwatirana kale, pali mwayi waukulu kuti iye, kapena mkaziyo, akufuna kuti muzimva kuti ndinu otetezeka, othandizidwa komanso osangalala, ndipo ndinu wofunitsitsa kukuthandizani.
Kudzikonda wekha osati kuyitanidwa kuti mukhale odzikonda, odzikonda
Kudzikonda ndiko kukhala mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa inu nokha ndikugawana izi ndi wina yemwe angakupatseni ndikulandila momwe mukufunira ndikuyenera. Chikondi ndi chowolowa manja, ndipo kudzikonda kumatsala podzaza ndi moyo mpaka kusefukira ndi kulimbika komwe kumadza chifukwa chokondedwa, ndipo ndinu okonzekera ukwati ndi mikuntho yomwe ingabwere; chifukwa ndi moyo.
Dziwani kuti ndinu ndani komanso zomwe mumakonda
Kudziwa nokha kumakupatsani mwayi wolankhula bwino zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale otetezeka, othandizidwa komanso osangalala. Kudzikonda nokha kumatsimikizira kuti mudzatero. Tikamakonda munthu wina timamusamalira kuti akhale wotetezeka, wothandizidwa komanso wosangalala. Timayitana anthu omwe timawakonda, kuwateteza, kuwateteza, kuwathandiza, kuwalimbikitsa, kuwalimbikitsa mwa kuwathera nthawi, kupatsana mphatso, maloto, kulephera, kuseka, misozi, kukumbatirana ndi kupsompsona; timawasonyeza kuti ndi ofunika kwa ife.
Timagawana ndi omwe tili ndi anthu omwe timawakonda, ndipo gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakuchita izi, ndikudziwa kuti ndinu ndani komanso zomwe mumakonda. Ngati mumakonda kuyenda paki kapena pagombe, ndiye kuti yendani nokha ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ino kuti muwone ndi mtima wanu komanso mutu wanu; khalani ndi nthawi ino kulingalira za omwe muli komanso komwe muli. Ngati mukuwona kuti simusangalala kukhala nanu, izi ndizabwino, ndipo ndiyofunika kuzifufuza, musanayembekezere kuti wina azisangalala nanu. Ngati mumakonda kukwera njinga, kukwera mapiri, kusambira, kumanga msasa, kuvina kapena zina zilizonse zosangalatsa zomwe mwazitchula pa mbiri yanu, zichiteni nokha ndikuwona momwe zimakhalira zotetezeka, kuthandizidwa komanso kusangalala pakhungu lanu kuchita zomwe kondani, kenako gawanani izi ndi mnzanu. Ngakhale sangasangalale ndi chilichonse chomwe chili pamndandanda wanu, payenera kukhala ochepa omwe nonse mungagawe nawo. Momwemo, izi zidzakuthandizani nonsenu. Ngati sichoncho, pitirizani kuchita zomwe mumakonda ndikufufuza mndandanda wa mnzanuyo ndikupeza komwe mumakumana.
Ukwati wabwino umafuna chikondi chonse chomwe mungapereke ndipo ndizosavuta kuyendetsa ngati mwadzikondadi kale
Mwachidziwikire, ukwati ndi mgwirizano wa anthu awiri amphumphu omwe angalimbikitsane. "Mumandimaliza," ndi mzere wochokera pa kanema wa ola limodzi ndi mphindi khumi ndi zisanu ndi zinayi, ndipo ulibe malo ogwirizana. Kulowa muukwati woyembekezera kuti 'ukwaniritsidwe' kapena 'kumaliza wina ndi kunyoza kwakukulu onse awiri. Ngakhale simukusangalala kapena kusangalala mbali zonse za wina ndi mnzake, sangalalani ndi ulendowo. Dzikondeni nokha ndi mnzanu panthawi yamavuto ndi zikondwerero. Kotero kuti pamene funso loti 'mumabweretsa chiyani ku ukwatiwu' litha, mutha kunena popanda kukayika INE.
Khalani nonse omwe muli ndipo musangalale ndi onse omwe mnzanu ali ndipo pangani china chake chabwino limodzi.