Zamkati
- 1. Mutha kumadzimva kuti ndinu olakwa ngati kuti mukukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu
- 2. Kumva kufunidwa ndikufunidwa ndichabwino
- 3. Kugonana koyamba pambuyo pa chisudzulo sikungayende monga momwe amaganizira
- 4. Musachedwe, musachite chilichonse chomwe simukuvomereza kwathunthu
- 5. Musagwiritse ntchito chiwerewere kuti mugwirizane
Dziko litatha banja litha kukhala losangalatsa komanso lowopsa.
Zosangalatsa, chifukwa chaputala chatsopano m'moyo wanu chikuyamba. Zowopsa, chifukwa zambiri ndizachilendo komanso zosiyana m'malo atsopanowa.
Simunakhale ndi chibwenzi choyamba pazaka, musiye kugonana musanathetse banja!
Mumazolowera mnzanu, thupi lawo ndi momwe amachitira zinthu. Simungalingalire kuchotsa zovala zanu pamaso pa munthu watsopano, kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina, kukhala pachiwopsezo cha munthu wina.
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Zinthu zonsezi simunadandaule nazo mukadzakwatirana. Tiyeni tiwone momwe kugonana pambuyo pa chisudzulo kungakhalire:
1. Mutha kumadzimva kuti ndinu olakwa ngati kuti mukukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukuyembekezera mwachidwi kupeza mnzanu watsopano ndikukhala ndi chilakolako chatsopano, nthawi yoyamba kugonana mutasudzulana kungakusiyeni ndikudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa.
Kupatula apo, mwakhala mukugonana ndi anthu okwatirana kwazaka zambiri, ndi zonse zomwe zikutanthauza- kudziwa kudziwa momwe mungasinthire mnzanu, zomwe amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, komanso momwe mungafikire pachimake.
Nayi, wamaliseche komanso wokondana ndi munthu watsopano, koma malingaliro amnzanu wakale akhoza kutsekereza gawo kapena chisangalalo chanu chonse.
Kugonana pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumabwera ndi mantha angapo. Izi si zachilendo. Zimachitika kwa anthu ambiri. Dziuzeni kuti palibe chifukwa chodziimbira mlandu. Simunakwatiranenso, chifukwa chake izi sizingaganizidwe zachinyengo.
Mukawona kuti mukupitilizabe kudziimba mlandu, ichi chitha kukhala chisonyezo kuti simunakonzekere kupita patsogolo pogonana ndi munthu watsopano. Kugonana pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumawoneka ngati chiyembekezo chovuta kwa inu.
2. Kumva kufunidwa ndikufunidwa ndichabwino
Ngati moyo wanu wogonana wokwatirana udayamba kukhala wachisangalalo, wotopetsa, kapena wopanda chiyembekezo chisanachitike chisudzulo, kuyamba chibwenzi, kukopana naye, komanso kunyengedwa kumverera bwino.
Mwadzidzidzi anthu atsopano amakukondani, amakupezani kuti ndinu achigololo komanso osiririka ndikukuyang'ana m'njira yomwe wakale sanakhaleko kwa nthawi yayitali. Izi zipangitsa kuti libido yanu ikhale yopanda pake ndikupanga zogonana mutatha banja chisangalalo chosangalatsa.
Samalani ndikudziwonera nokha. Sangalalani ndi chidwi chonsechi koma chitani zofunikira kuti mukhale otetezeka mwakuthupi komanso kwamaganizidwe.
Nthawi zonse muzichita zogonana motetezeka.
Ndikosavuta kwa anthu omwe angosudzulana kumene kuti atengeke ndi zibwenzi zatsopano zomwe, podziwa momwe mungakhalire osatetezeka, zingakupezereni mwayi m'njira zambiri kuposa kungogonana.
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3. Kugonana koyamba pambuyo pa chisudzulo sikungayende monga momwe amaganizira
Kugonana kwanu koyamba mutasudzulana kumatha kukhala kofanana kwambiri ndi zomwe munakumana nazo pogonana koyamba. Kugonana koyamba pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumadza ndi gawo lawo lamavuto kwa amuna ndi akazi.
Ngati ndinu wamwamuna, mutha kukhala ndi zovuta zina chifukwa chakupsinjika kwa mnzanu watsopano komanso chilakolako chake chogonana. Izi zingakupangitseni mantha kuti simungathe kumusangalatsa.
Thupi lake lidzakhala losiyana ndi zomwe mudazolowera zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala ndi nkhawa-kodi mungadziwe komwe zonse zili komanso zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mumutsegule? Kapena, m'malo mokhala ndi mavuto, mutha kukhala ndi mavuto akutha.
Apanso, kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chogona ndi mkazi watsopano kumatha kulepheretsa kuyankha kwanu.
Ngati ndinu wamkazi, mukamagonana koyamba mutasudzulana, mutha kukhala osamala kuwonetsa thupi lanu kwa mwamuna watsopano, kuwopa kuti silowonda kapena kulimba mokwanira, makamaka ngati muli ndi zaka zapakati. Simungathe kusokoneza nthawi yoyamba mutagonana mutatha banja chifukwa simungathe kumasuka ndikukhulupirira mnzanu kuti "mumulole" kupita naye.
Osakhumudwitsidwa ngati chidziwitso chanu choyamba chogonana sichingachitike momwe mumaganizira.
Zinthu zambiri m'moyo wanu watsopano zizitengera chizolowezi, ndipo bwenzi latsopano logonana komanso chibwenzi mutatha banja ndizochepa chabe mwazinthuzi.
Ndi zachilendo kuti kugonana kwanu koyamba mutatha kusudzulana kumatha kumveka kwachilendo.
Mwina zidzamveka zachilendo, monga mlendo m'dziko lachilendo. Ndipo zili bwino.
Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha mnzanu yemwe mungakambirane naye za izi-wina yemwe akudziwa kuti ichi ndi chidziwitso chanu choyamba mutatha banja ndipo adzakhudzidwa ndi tanthauzo la izi kwa inu.
4. Musachedwe, musachite chilichonse chomwe simukuvomereza kwathunthu
Apanso, sitingalimbikitse kufunikira kosankha bwenzi loyenera kuti tidziwe zatsopano. Mungafunike kutenga zinthu pang'onopang'ono, osakhala ndi ziwonetsero zambiri, kulumikizana, komanso pang'onopang'ono kuti mutenthe.
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Onetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu akumvetsa izi kuti asamapitenso kumalo ogwiritsira ntchito thupi lanu. Muyenera kukhala ndi munthu yemwe munganene kuti "siyani" nthawi iliyonse, ndipo onetsetsani kuti akumvera zopempha zanu.
5. Musagwiritse ntchito chiwerewere kuti mugwirizane
Kusudzulana kumabweretsa kusungulumwa kwina.
Ndiye, mungayambire bwanji moyo wanu wogonana mutasudzulana?
Anthu ambiri amachita zachiwerewere kuti athetse mavuto awo. Vuto ndi ilo ndikuti nthawi yomwe mchitidwewo watha, mumakhalabe osungulumwa ndipo mwina mumangomva kulira. M'malo mochita zachiwerewere zambiri, chifukwa tsopano mungathe, bwanji osachitanso zina kuti athane ndi kusungulumwa?
Chimodzi mwazabwino kwambiri zogonana pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndikuchita masewera atsopano, makamaka pagulu, kapena kutenga nawo mbali pagulu.
Izi ndi njira zakhalidwe labwino pamoyo wanu watsopano mukadali kukonza zomwe zikutanthauza kuti banja litha.
Palibe amene akunena kuti kugonana osagonana ndi koipa (ndi inu nokha amene mungayimbe foni), koma pali njira zina zopindulitsa zokulitsira kudzidalira kwanu ndikukhazikitsanso kudzidalira kwanu, chonsecho mukupindulira kulumikizana kwanu kwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe ndi moyo wako.
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo kugonana kumakhala koopsa, kosangalatsa komanso kokwanira - zonse mwakamodzi. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kuyendetsa gawo losagawika mosamala kuti mupangitse moyo wanu wogonana mutasudzulana. Tsatirani maupangiri okondana pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndipo musanadziwe kuti mudzakhala mbuye wa malowa, ndikuwona zakugonana kwanu m'njira zomwe simukuzidziwa kale!
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