Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani kuti simuli nokha
- 2. Palibe vuto kukambirana nkhani zogonana
- 3. Pitani kutchuthi
- 4. Yesani chatsopano
- 5. Musachite mantha ndi mankhwala ogonana
- Kodi mungayembekezere chiyani kuchokera kuchipatala?
Ndani anayamba kubwera — nkhuku kapena dzira?
Pali zifukwa zabwino za onse awiri, ndichifukwa chake anthu onse sangathe kuvomereza.
Funso lomweli limabuka pokhudzana ndi okwatirana omwe ali ndi nkhani zogonana momwe angawonere zinthu motere.
Kodi kugonana kunayanika palokha ndikumabweretsa mavuto, kapena zinthu zina zinalowa m'chipinda chogona chifukwa chakukondana?
Nthawi zina yankho la funsoli limakhala lovuta kutchula. Maukwati nthawi zonse amakhala ndi nthawi zawo zovuta komanso nthawi zawo zosavuta.
Tikakhala ndi nthawi yosavuta, zinthu zimangoyandama. Munthawi imeneyi, titha kutenga wina ndi mnzake mopepuka. Mwinanso timatenga kuchuluka kwa kugonana komwe timakhala nako mopepuka. Komano, bwerani nthawi zovuta.
Mwinamwake pali mwana watsopano mu kusakaniza, kapena kusamukira ku mzinda watsopano, kapena mwina ntchito yatsopano kapena imfa m'banja.
Kupsinjika kwakanthawi kwakanthawi kudzatipatsa mphamvu zathu zonse ndikukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Nthawi zina, kumapeto kwa tsikulo, zimangokhala ngati palibe chotsalira choti mupereke.
Ukwati wathu ndi kugonana ndizofunikira pamndandanda. Kufunafuna malingaliro abwino ogonana kwa okwatirana sikuli m'ndondomeko yazinthu zoti muchite.
Tsoka ilo, nthawi zambiri timayika mavuto azakugonana m'banja poyatsira kumbuyo. Ndipo popita nthawi, tikapanda kuchita izi nthawi zambiri, timataya libido yathu.
Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto m'chipinda chogona, nayi malangizo ndi malangizo kwa okwatirana oti azikumbukira.
1. Dziwani kuti simuli nokha
Chiwerengero chodabwitsa cha maanja ali ndi nkhani zogonana mbanja lawo.
Ndipo sizosadabwitsa-mukuganiza kuti pali njira iliyonse yoti aliyense m'banja azithandizira kugonana? Zikhulupiriro zomwezo zokhuza kugonana? Mulingo wofanana wodziletsa? Sizingatheke!
Kugwirira ntchito limodzi pazofunikira kwambiri kungakhale gawo la zomwe zimapangitsa banja kukhala lalikulu. Ngati tingagwirizane kuti tithetse mavuto, titha kukhala olimba.
Zimachitika kwa aliyense. Kupangitsa kugonana kukhala bwino m'banja kumafunikira kuyesayesa kosalekeza. Awa ndi amodzi mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri ogonana omwe angakuthandizeni kukonza moyo wanu wogonana.
Ngati kusowa kwa kugonana ndiye vuto, ndinu amodzi mwa ambiri ku US Malinga Newsweek , penapake pakati pa 15-20 peresenti ya maanja atha kukhala kuti ali ndi "ukwati wosagonana," womwe ena amati akuchita zogonana kosapitirira khumi pachaka.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2017, amuna opitilira 15% komanso azimayi pafupifupi 27% adanenanso kuti sanagonepo chaka chatha.
Zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu asamagonane m'banja zitha kukhala zinthu zambiri, kuphatikiza zovuta muubwenzi, ku mitundu yosiyanasiyana yakugonana. Malinga ndi WebMD, 43% ya akazi ndi 31 peresenti ya amuna ali ndi vuto lina logonana.
Chifukwa chake, simuli nokha. Nkhani zakugonana m'banja zimakhudza anthu ambiri.
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2. Palibe vuto kukambirana nkhani zogonana
Nkhani yokhudza kugonana ndikuti sitimafotokoza zambiri za izi kunja kwa anzathu.
Zachidziwikire, nthawi yakusungako atsikana, nkhani zakugona zitha kukhala patebulo, koma zimangokhala mawu wamba. Nitty-gritty imasungidwa kuchipinda, momwe ziyenera kukhalira.
Koma pali maanja ambiri omwe samakambilana zogonana. Mwina saganiza kuti akufunikira kapena amachita manyazi.
Nthawi zambiri amakhala osatsimikiza kuti ndi bwino kukambirana, kapena samadziwa momwe angafotokozere zakukhosi kwawo.
“Mwina ndithana nayo” kapena “Idziyesa yokha” ndi ena mwa malingaliro omwe mwina amakhala akuganiza m'maganizo mwa anthu ena.
Koma, muyenera kumalankhula zogonana pafupipafupi. Kambiranani malingaliro opangira zogonana kwa okwatirana kapena yang'anani pa intaneti malangizo ena abwino opangira chikondi m'banja.
Ngati mwakhala pabanja kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo nkhaniyo sinabwerepo m'kulankhula kwanu pilo, ndiye kuti mwina mumamverera mopusa pobweretsa izi tsopano. Simukufuna kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wokhumudwa kapena kuti simukusangalala ndi momwe zinthu zikuyendera.
Koma iyi ndi nkhani yofunika kwambiri, ndipo sitimangodziwa zonse. Chifukwa chake sizingavulaze kulankhula za izi - zitha kungothandiza.
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Ngati mukuvutika kuswa ayezi, tengani buku lonena za kugonana ndi ukwati, ndipo muwerenge pakama. Motsimikizirika, padzakhala mafunso m'bukuli; mutha kufunsa mnzanu. "Mukuganiza bwanji za funso ili, wokondedwa?"
Sichiyenera kutha ngati kukambirana kwakanthawi, ngakhale pamapeto pake, kutero. Ingoyesani madzi pang'ono mpaka nonse mukhale omasuka kuyankhula za izo.
Kumbukirani, mavuto azakugonana m'mabanja ndiofala, ndipo palibe chomwe mungachite manyazi. Ndipo kuyankhula za izi kumakuthandizani kuti mufike pagwero lavutolo.
Monga mukuwonera, zimathandizira ubale wanu; zingokulimbikitsani kuti mupitirize kumakambirana zambiri zokhudza kugonana.
3. Pitani kutchuthi
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kulumikizana kwambiri ndi mnzanu kumakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wolimba nawo.
Upangiri wina wabwino kwambiri wokhudza kugonana kwa anthu apabanja ndikuti muswe mphwayi ndikukayamba ulendo.
Ngati mukusowa ndalama za izi, ingoyenda ulendo wautali mukamaliza chakudya chamadzulo, konzekerani tsiku lalitali, lapadera kapena musangalale ndi chakudya chamadzulo - chilichonse chomwe chimakusangalatsani nonse. Kulankhula kumakulimbikitsani pamodzi ndikuthandizani kulumikizana mwakuya.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake maanja omwe amayenda limodzi amakhala limodzi ndikukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino.
4. Yesani chatsopano
Kugonana m'chipinda chogona kungakhale kotopetsa. Chifukwa chake, momwe mungagonane bwino m'banja?
Ndikofunika kusiya chizolowezi chogonana pofufuza pafupipafupi malingaliro osangalatsa okhudzana ndi kugonana kwabanja.
Pazomwe mungachite zogonana m'banja, musalole kuti moyo wanu wogonana uzikhala wodalirika kwa inu kapena kwa mnzanu.
Chifukwa choti mwakwatirana sizitanthauza kuti simungakhale ochita bwino pabedi. Kambiranani zokhumba zanu momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu, yesani maudindo atsopano, zoseweretsa zogonana, ndi malingaliro atsopano.
Kungakhalenso kothandiza kuyesa malingaliro osiyanasiyana ogona kwa anthu apabanja sabata iliyonse kapena mwezi uliwonse kuti zisungitse mphekesera m'moyo wanu wogonana.
5. Musachite mantha ndi mankhwala ogonana
Ngati pali zovuta zogonana m'banja mwanu ndipo nonse simukudziwa choti muchite, chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite ndikupita kwa wogonana kapena wothandizira okwatirana.
Palibe chomwe mungachite mantha pankhani yokhudza kugonana. Moona mtima, izi ndi inu ndi mnzanu kupita kwa othandizira ndikukambirana. Ndichoncho.
Mukamakambirana nkhaniyi mwina zimakhala zovuta poyamba - kumbukirani kuti othandizira anu amagwira ntchito ndi mabanja ambiri omwe ali ndi mavuto ofanana. Posachedwapa kunena kwawo momasuka kudzatsitsimula pamene nonse mukulongosola zakukhosi kwanu. Zidzakhala zomasuka kwambiri.
Kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi, mankhwalawa akucheperachepera ndipo akuvomerezedwa kwambiri.
Zimakhala zachizolowezi kuti akulu azifunafuna chithandizo kuchokera kwa othandizira amtundu wina. Zachidziwikire, izi zimaphatikizapo zovuta zamtundu uliwonse, kuphatikiza maubwenzi.Komabe, zikuwonetsa chinthu chimodzi chachikulu — kuti anthu ambiri amadalira thandizo la katswiri wazamaganizidwe.
Kodi mungayembekezere chiyani kuchokera kuchipatala?
Zachidziwikire, zimadalira wodwalayo, koma ambiri, mumakhalapo kuti mupeze malangizo othandiza ogonana ndi banja losangalala ndikukambirana zaubwenzi wanu.
Nthawi zina simukudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa -momwemo, wothandizira amayesa kukuthandizani kuti muzindikire-ndipo nthawi zina, mumadziwa, koma simungathe.
Kuyankhula za izi ndi wothandizira kungakuthandizeni, ndipo mnzanuyo amvetsetsa bwino ndikukhulupirira kuti musintha malingaliro anu ndi zikhulupiriro zanu zokhudzana ndi kugonana.
Cholinga chachikulu ndikuthandizira kugonana kwanu ndi mnzanu mothandizidwa ndi malingaliro azakugonana kwa anthu apabanja komanso kuzindikira za kugonana kwabwino muukwati.
Kumbukirani, kugonana sikuyenera kukhala kungothamanga, koma kulumikizana mwachikondi. Popanda kucheza, kukondana, kugonana kumakhala phokoso lina lomwe limataya mawonekedwe ake, zomwe zitha kuwononga ubale wanu.
Awa ndi ena mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa anthu apabanja ndipo atha kukuthandizani inu ndi mnzanu kuti mupezenso chisangalalo munjira yanu yakugonana yomwe mudakumana nayo kale.