Zamkati
- Chifukwa chani umagonana ndi mkazi wako wakale?
- Ndipo mukuwopa kuti mwina simudzagonananso
- Ngati mumakonda kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale
- Izi sizitanthauza kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale lingaliro labwino
- Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kupitiriza chibwenzi?
- Chifukwa chogonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale chitha kukhala chotentha kwambiri
- Akatswiri ambiri amakutsutsani
Iwe ndi mkazi wako wakale mudasudzulana. Zitha kukhala posachedwa. Zikhoza kukhala zaka zapitazo. Nonse awiri mukudutsa muukwati wosakwatira. Mumakopekabe naye. Ndipo mukudabwa ... kodi angakhale womasuka kwa abwenzi omwe ali ndiubwenzi wamtundu wabwino?
Mukuyamba kulingalira chifukwa chake izi zitha kugwira ntchito. Inu nonse mumadziwana bwino kwambiri. Mukudziwa zomwe zimamupangitsa. Nthawi zonse mumakhala ogwirizana pamagonana. Chifukwa chake, gonana ndi wakale wako. Kulekeranji?
Chifukwa chani umagonana ndi mkazi wako wakale?
Palibe zofufuza zambiri kunja uko zomwe zimayankhula zogonana ndi wakale. Izi mwina ndichifukwa choti anthu ambiri omwe amachita izi amakhala ndi manyazi. Ndi chinsinsi chodetsedwa chomwe sakufuna kudzitama pagulu. Kupatula apo, ngati mukugonana ndi wakale wanu, bwanji mudasudzulana?
Koma chifukwa chomwe chimapangitsa anthu ambiri kugonana ndi wakale ndichosavuta. Mumadziwana. Popeza mwasudzulana tsopano, sipamakhalanso mpungwepungwe ndi mikangano. Zonse zomwe zili kumbuyo kwanu tsopano. Ndipo iye ndi wozolowereka kwambiri kwa inu.
Kwenikweni, kuyambira chisudzulo wakhala akudzisamalira bwino. Amavala moyenera moyenera. Muli ndi tsitsi latsopano. Ndi mafuta onunkhira abwino ati omwe wavala tsopano?
Ndipo mukuwopa kuti mwina simudzagonananso
Ndi mantha wamba kwa anthu omwe angokwatirana kumene kuti sadzagonanso. Kusudzulana kwawononga kudzidalira kwawo ndipo sangaganize kuti wina angakopeke nawo, osakwanira kuti agone nawo.
Chifukwa chake kugonana ndi wakale wanu kumamveka ngati njira yabwino yopezera zogonana, komanso ndi munthu yemwe alibe chiopsezo. Palibe chiopsezo cha matenda osadziwika, palibe chiopsezo choti ayambe kukondana mwachangu kapena kukupangitsani kukhala pachibwenzi pomwe simunakonzekere.
Kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale ndikosavuta. Ndizodziwikiratu. Palibe nkhawa yakubvula maliseche ndi mnzanu watsopano ndikudandaula za zomwe angaganize za mimba yakale ya mowa. Ndipo ndiye kugonana!
Ngati mumakonda kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale
Pali kafukufuku wina yemwe akuwonetsa kuti kugonana ndi wakale wanu sikungasokoneze malingaliro anu. "Omwe amalakalaka anzawo akale anali okonda kupita kokagonana nawo, ndipo anthuwa sananene kuti anakhumudwa kwambiri atawona izi; kwenikweni, kucheza ndi okondedwa awo kunawapangitsa kukhala osangalala tsiku ndi tsiku ”, anatero m'modzi mwa ofufuzawo, Dr. Stephanie Spielmann.
Izi sizitanthauza kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale lingaliro labwino
Ngakhale anthu ena angaganize kuti palibe cholakwika pakugonana ndi mkazi wakale, uku sikumva konsekonse. Ambiri mwa anthu omwe amagonana ndi wakale, kaya ndi kamodzi kapena mobwerezabwereza, ali ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Ikhoza kukulepheretsani kupita patsogolo ndikupeza mnzanu watsopano, woyenera bwino.
Ikhoza kudzutsa malingaliro alionse omwe sanathetsedwe pa chisudzulocho ndi zomwe zingayambitse ukwatiwo. Mkazi wanu wakale sangakhale patsamba limodzi ndi inu pazomwe mukufuna kutuluka. Kodi akugonana nanu chifukwa akuganiza kuti mutha kuyambiranso?
Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kupitiriza chibwenzi?
Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kupitiriza chibwenzi, ngakhale kugonana kokha, ndi mkazi wanu wakale. Ndipo mufunseni funso lomwelo. Nonse muyenera kukhala owona mtima mwankhanza pazomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chogonana ichi. Kodi ndikungofuna kumasula thupi?
Kodi wina wa inu akuyembekeza kuti izi ziyambitsa malingaliro akale, mwina ndikubwezeretsani pamodzi?
Ngati wina wa inu adakali ndi malingaliro okondana, kugonana kumakulitsa, ndipo mwina kumapereka chiyembekezo chabodza kwa mnzake yemwe akuvutika kusiya banja.
Onetsetsani kuti nonse mumamvetsetsa bwino zomwe mukuyang'ana kuchokera pagulu lino.
Chifukwa chogonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale chitha kukhala chotentha kwambiri
Amuna omwe amavomereza kuti amagonana ndi akazi awo akale amati kugonana kotentha kwambiri. Choyamba, pali chinthu choletsedwa. Sosaiti imati simukuyenera kugonana ndi mkazi wanu wakale, chifukwa choti muli pamasamba naye zimapangitsa zinthu kukhala zosangalatsa.
Chachiwiri, chisudzulo chanu chakumasulani ku mavuto onse omwe banja loyipa limakuvutitsani. Chifukwa palibe amene akusunga chakukhosi, mutha kukhala nonse opusa komanso openga, monga m'masiku akale.
Mukufuna kuyesa kink yatsopano? Ndi wakale, mutha kupita kumeneko ... mumadziwana bwino. Chifukwa chake kwa amuna ambiri, kugonana ndi mkazi wakale ndi zokometsera modabwitsa. Nzosadabwitsa kuti kafukufuku waposachedwa wofalitsidwa mu Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology adapeza kuti mwa anthu 137 omwe adakwatirana kale, gawo limodzi mwa magawo asanu adagonana ndi okondedwa awo atasudzulana.
Akatswiri ambiri amakutsutsani
Wothandizira anthu ogwira ntchito zachipatala, Sherry Amatenstein, amachenjeza za mtundu uliwonse wogonana ndi wakale. Amakhulupirira kuti zimangopweteketsa mtima kwakanthawi kwakanthawi chifukwa cha kutha kapena chisudzulo.
Ndiye ganizirani izi nthawi ina mukadzawona mkazi wanu wakale akuwoneka wotentha komanso wokopa. Ngakhale kugona naye kumawoneka ngati lingaliro labwino, pamapeto pake ndibwino kuti mupite kukapeza mnzanu watsopano. Zachidziwikire, zitha kumveka ngati ntchito yambiri, koma ndibwino kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino.