Zamkati
- 1. Kusowa chidwi
- 2. Kusakhala ndi chidwi chogonana
- 3. Kukumana pa intaneti
- 6. Makhalidwe
- Njira yamtsogolo yamachitidwe
Kodi mumakayikira zomwe zimakupangitsani kufunsa - "Kodi amuna anga ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?" Mwinamwake muli ndi belu lochepa la alamu lomwe limalira apo ndi apo kapena mwazindikira zizindikilo zingapo pamakhalidwe ake zomwe zimakupatsani zifukwa zodandaulira ndikukayikira zomwe amakonda.
Ngati mwakhala mukuganiza kuti izi ndizotheka, zingakuthandizeni kudziwa zizindikilo 6 izi zomwe zitha kunena kuti amuna anu ndi achiwerewere.
1. Kusowa chidwi
Akakhala nanu mphindi, ndiwopanga ndipo samangokhala wokonda kapena wokonda zochitika zilizonse. Apanso, izi zimatha kuyambitsidwa ndi zinthu zina, koma akhozanso kupezeka ngati amuna anu ali ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
2. Kusakhala ndi chidwi chogonana
Nkhani zokhudzana ndi chilakolako chogonana chokha sizomwe zimatsimikizira kuti amuna anu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma azimayi omwe amati amuna awo amakhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amati izi ndizomwe adazindikira poyamba.
Mukawona kuti amuna anu akulimbana ndi kuchita nawo zachiwerewere kuphatikiza pazizindikiro zina zomwe takambirana pano, mwina kuthekera kwanu ndikulondola.
Koma kumbukirani, pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zambiri zomwe zogonana m'banja sizokhutiritsa, kupatula kuti amuna anu atha kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
3. Kukumana pa intaneti
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti amuna anu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Ngati zochita za mnzanu zikukudetsani nkhawa, ndiye kuti intaneti ndiye njira yoyenera kuti mupeze chowonadi.
Intaneti yathandiza kuti anthu azifufuza mosavuta za anzawo. Mbiri yake yakusakatula ikhoza kukupatsani chithunzi chowoneka bwino ndipo itha kukhala imodzi mwazizindikiro zambiri zomwe amuna anu amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
- Mbiri yake yosakatula foni kapena kompyuta nthawi zonse imakhala 'yoyera.'
- Zithunzi zolaula zolaula zawoneka pakompyuta yomwe amagwiritsa ntchito, ngakhale akunena kuti alibe chochita nazo.
- Omwe amacheza nawo pa TV ndi achilendo komanso odzaza ndi anthu, kapena abwenzi atsopano omwe simukudziwa momwe amawadziwira ndipo ambiri mwa iwo ndi achiwerewere.
- Ali ndi mbiri patsamba lachiwerewere.
Mfundo yomaliza ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zowonekera kuti amuna anu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndizokayikitsa kwambiri kuti, ngati mnzanuyo ali wowongoka, angafune kuyika chithunzi chake ndi zidziwitso patsamba lachiwerewere.
6. Makhalidwe
Padzakhalanso zizindikilo zoti amuna anu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha monga momwe amakhalira, makamaka okhudzana ndi amuna anzawo ogonana. Zizindikiro zochepa chabe zomwe mnzanuyo amagonana ndi izi ndi izi -
- Amayendera malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pafupipafupi ngakhale anganene kuti ali komweko kuti azicheza ndi abwenzi ake achiwerewere.
- Amayang'ana kapena akuwoneka kuti ali womasuka kuonera zolaula ndi amuna amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
- Akuwoneka kuti amasangalala ndi kuyamikiridwa ndi amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
- Amalankhula zambiri za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pokambirana - kuposa masiku onse.
- Amatha kuwoneka ngati wokonda zachiwerewere ndipo amalankhula zambiri za anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi anzawo mopanda ulemu.
- Simumamuwona akuyang'ana akazi ena.
- Mwamuwona akuyang'ana amuna ena.
- Amayang'ana maso ndi mwamuna wina yemwe akuwoneka kuti akuchedwa pang'ono.
- Amachita zonse zomwe angathe kuti atenge kukumbatirana ndi abwenzi ake.
- Amayambitsa zochitika ndi abwenzi ake komwe atha kukhala amaliseche limodzi monga kulowa mu sauna kapena hot tub.
- Amaganizira kwambiri za kugonana kwa ena.
Zachidziwikire, zina mwa zitsanzozi zitha kuwonetsa zochitika zina m'banja, kapenanso machitidwe azikhalidwe za amuna owongoka pang'ono.
Komabe, ngati mungazindikire zingapo za izi, ndiye kuti pakhoza kukhala zowonjezereka pamkhalidwewo kuposa zomwe amuna anu angafune kuti mukhulupirire. Izi ndizizindikiro kuti mnzanuyo ndi gay ndipo palibe malo okayikira ena.
Njira yamtsogolo yamachitidwe
Nthawi zambiri, ngati amuna anu akhala akubisirani zizolowezi zogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwina chifukwa choti amakhala mchipinda ndipo samadziwa momwe angatulukire kwa inu kapena wina aliyense pamoyo wawo. Sizovuta ngati mwamanga moyo ndi zolinga zabwino zomwe tsopano zikukuvutani kuzisunga.
Mukamadzifunsa mafunso ngati, 'ndingadziwe bwanji kuti amuna anga ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?', Muyenera kuyang'anitsitsa mnzanuyo ndikuyang'ana zizindikilo pamakhalidwe ndi mayendedwe ake. Ndipo, ngati mutapeza zikwangwani kuti amuna anu ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, chinthu choyamba chomwe muyenera kuchita ndikukhala pansi ndikuyankhula naye.
Ndizotheka kuti akhoza kukana kuti ndi gay kuyambira pachiyambi, osakupatsani mayankho ogwira mtima pamafunso anu.
Ngati zikukuchitikirani, muyenera kusankha zomwe mukufuna kuchita. Ngati mutha kukhala pabanja pomwe muli otsimikiza kuti amuna anu atha kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, upangiri wanu ungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi izi kuti mupeze njira yabwino yakutsogolo.
Ngati amuna anu avomereza kuti ndi achiwerewere, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti sanasankhe moyo uno kuti akupwetekeni.
Pokumbukira izi, mutha kukhala ndi zotayika komanso zopweteketsa mtima zomwe mungafunike kuthana nazo, koma mwina mutha kufunafuna thandizo ndi kuthandizidwa kapena upangiri kuti zikuthandizireni kuyenda limodzi, mwachikondi komanso mokoma mtima.
Chifukwa chake, nthawi yotsatira ngati mungakhale ndi kukayikira kofananako, ingophunzirani za mnzanu, onani mbiri yake yosakatula ndikupeza zambiri za abwenzi ake ndipo mudzakumana ndi zikwangwani kuti amuna anu ndi achiwerewere. Kukayika kwanu kukakwaniritsidwa, muyenera kukonzekera njira yotsatira mosamala popeza izi ndi zinthu zofunika kuzisamalira.