Zizindikiro za nsanje muubwenzi

Zamkati

• Kutanthauza nsanje
• Zizindikiro za nsanje mu chibwenzi
• 1. Kukufufuza mobwerezabwereza
• 2. Kukutsatirani pafupi
• 3. Pokwiya mukamachita kanthu popanda iwo
• 4.Kulowererapo pagulu lanu
• 5. Kufunsa zaubwenzi wanu ndi anthu ena
• 7. Kukuwuzani momwe mungavalire
• 8. Musawone zabwino mwa inu
• 9. Kukunyengani
• 10. Zimaseketsa mukatchula munthu wina
• 11. Akukuimba mlandu woti umachita zachinyengo
• 12. Kukukhumudwitsa iwe kuti usatuluke
• 13. Kuwongolera machitidwe anu
• 14. Kupanga kuti uzifotokoze wekha
• 15. Kukwiya mukamayamikira ena
• 16. Kufuna kudziwa za mbiri yanu yakale
• Njira 5 mukamakumana ndi mnzanu wansanje
• 1. Yambani kukambirana modekha
• 2. Fotokozani momwe mukumvera
• 3. Funsani kuti asinthe
• 4. Apatseni mwayi wolankhula
• 5. Vomerezani kuyankha kwawo kapena kuchoka
• Mapeto

Nthawi zambiri, anthu amawona kuti nthawi zina nsanje muubwenzi sizowopsa chifukwa anthu ambiri sakonda kuthana ndi chiopsezo kuubwenzi wawo.

Ngakhale zizindikilo zansanje pachibwenzi sizofunika kwenikweni koyambirira, ndikofunikira kuti tipeze nsanje yozama m'mabanja. Mutha kuwonetsa kusakondwa mnzanu akamakonda kukhala ndi anthu ena ngakhale mutakhala nawo pafupi kapena ngati amawakonda kwambiri.

Komabe, nsanje yosayenera pa zinthu zazing'ono ndi yosavomerezeka chifukwa ikhoza kuwononga ubale wanu. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina, nsanje ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zazikulu zankhanza zapabanja. Ngakhale izi sizitanthauza kuti nsanje yamaubale imakhala yoopsa nthawi zonse, zikutanthauza kuti nsanje yayikulu imatha kuthetsa chibwenzi chanu.

Ndiye, kodi nsanje imatanthauza chiyani muubwenzi?

Kutanthauza nsanje

Nsanje ndikumverera kokwiya kapena kuipidwa pamene wina akuganiza kuti wina akuyesa kukopa chidwi cha wokondedwa kapena wokondedwa wawo. Anthu amagwiritsa ntchito nsanje ndi nsanje mosinthana kutanthauza chidwi champhamvu cha munthu chokhala ndi zomwe wina ali nazo. Komabe, mawu awiriwa amasiyana.

Kaduka ndikumva mkwiyo komwe kumakula mukamafuna chuma cha munthu wina kapena mikhalidwe yake. Mosiyana ndi izi, nsanje ndikulamulira komwe mukufuna kukhala nako pazinthu kapena munthu yemwe ali kale wanu. Ndi njira yotetezera kuphatikana kwanu kapena kuwonetsa kulamulira munthu kapena chinthu china.

Akatswiri a zamaganizo aphunzira kusiyana pakati pa zizindikiro za kaduka ndi nsanje kuti athe kusiyanitsa pakati pa zomwe zimayambitsa ndi momwe zimakhudzira khalidwe. Kaduka amapangitsa anthu kulakalaka zinthu za ena komanso mikhalidwe yawo. Komabe, nsanje imawapangitsa kukhala osatetezeka za china chake kapena wina yemwe ali kale m'moyo wawo.

Zizindikiro za nsanje mu chibwenzi

Munthu akakhala pachibwenzi, zimakhala zovuta kudziwa ngati nsanje yakhala yovuta.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ndi nsanje pachibwenzi chomwe mukufuna, ndipo mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungaziwonere, onani izi 15 za nsanje yaubwenzi:

1. Kukufufuza mobwerezabwereza

Mutha kudziwa ngati wina ali ndi nsanje poona kuti amakufunsani kangati. Kupeza zolemba zochepa kapena kuyimba kumatanthauza mnzanu amasamala zaumoyo wanu. Koma mnzanu akaimbira foni mobwerezabwereza, makamaka mukamacheza ndi anzanu, chimakhala chizindikiro chosonyeza nsanje pachibwenzi.

Kuyankhulana ndikofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse, koma kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito ukadaulo kulumikizana pafupipafupi ndi mnzanu kumachepetsa kukhutira ndi ubale kwambiri.

2. Kukutsatirani pafupi

Kutsatira mnzanu ku zochitika ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolimbitsira mgwirizano.

Komabe, mnzanu akawona kuti akufunika kukutsatirani kulikonse kapena akakwiya mukawauza kuti atsalire, ndi chizindikiro cha nsanje yaubwenzi. Maanja amapindula popatsana malo, chifukwa zimawathandiza kuti asatayike paubwenzi.

3. Pokwiya mukamachita kanthu popanda iwo

Kutha nthawi yayitali ndi mnzanu ndi njira yolimbitsira ubale wanu ndikupanga ubale. Mukasiyana nawo, zimatha kumva ngati china chake chikusowa, zomwe sizachilendo. Koma ngati mnzanu akukwiya mukamachita zinazake popanda iwo, zikuwonetsa nsanje kwambiri.

Mabanja amakhala ndi zosangalatsa zosiyana komwe amasangalala ndi nthawi yanga. Zimathandizira ubale wosangalala komanso wathanzi. Kulimbana pomwe mnzanu wasankha kusangalala ndi anzawo kapena kwina kulikonse kukuwonetsa zizindikilo zansanje.

4.Kulowererapo pagulu lanu

Chimodzi mwazizindikiro za nsanje pachibwenzi ndi pamene wokondedwa wanu amangobwera macheza anu mosadziwika.

Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu atha kupita kuphwando la mnzanu mwadzidzidzi, pongofuna kukuyang'anirani. Akhozanso kuyima pafupi ndi malo ogwirira ntchito mukakhala pamsonkhano.

5. Kufunsa zaubwenzi wanu ndi anthu ena

Kufunsa mafunso okhudza omwe ali mmoyo wa mnzanu ndi abwinobwino chifukwa ndi njira yowadziwira bwino.

Komabe, mnzanu akafuna kudziwa chilichonse chokhudza ubale wanu ndi anthu ena, ndi chisonyezo chosokoneza cha nsanje. Osadabwa akamakufunsani kuti mutsimikizire zonse zomwe munawauza.

7. Kukuwuzani momwe mungavalire

Mnzanu akamakukakamizani kuti muzivala kapena kuvala zovala zinazake, ndiye kuti mumakhala nsanje m'maubale.

Anthu ali ndi chithunzi cha momwe amafuna kuti anzawo aziwonekera, koma sangakhale ovuta. Kudziwa komwe tingalembetse mzerewu kumawonetsa ubale wabwino.

8. Musawone zabwino mwa inu

Chimodzi mwazizindikiro za nsanje pachibwenzi ndi pamene wokondedwa wanu amakuwonongerani ndikupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu ochepa.

M'malo molimbikitsa ndi kukuchirikizani, amakukakamizani kuti musiye ntchito ndikukupatsani lingaliro locheperako kuti muyesere.

9. Kukunyengani

Chizindikiro china cha nsanje yaubwenzi ndi pamene wokondedwa wanu akukumenyani mukamatuluka kapena mukakhala mumaakaunti anu ochezera.

Angagwiritsenso ntchito winawake kuti aziyang'anitsitsa, kuthyolako akaunti yanu, kapena kufunsa kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake mumakambirana. Mukawona kuti mukutsatira, ndi nsanje yosayenera.

Onani kanemayu yemwe angakuthandizeni kuzindikira zizindikiro zakusokonekera:

10. Zimaseketsa mukatchula munthu wina

Ngati mwadzifunsapo kuti, "Kodi nsanje imamva bwanji?" penyani momwe mnzanu amachitira mukamangotchula dzina la munthu wina.

Akhoza kukwiya kapena kukufunsani mafunso kuti mudziwe ubale wanu ndi munthuyu ngakhale mnzakeyo ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu kuntchito.

11. Akukuimba mlandu woti umachita zachinyengo

Kunenedwa molakwika kuti ndichinyengo ndikumapeto kwa zizindikilo zina za nsanje muubwenzi.

Zowonadi, ndikuneneza kochokera kwa munthu wansanje kwambiri. Kusewera ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikwabwino, koma kukambirana kulikonse kumakuzungulirani mukakhala kuti si kolondola, muyenera kukhala tcheru kwambiri.

12. Kukukhumudwitsa iwe kuti usatuluke

Nsanje yoopsa imadziwulula pamene wokondedwa wanu akukulepheretsani kupita kunja.

Mnzanu wansanje akufuna kukuwonani pafupi nawo nthawi zonse, ndipo amatenga kamenyedwe kakang'ono nthawi iliyonse mukatuluka. Kutsutsanaku ndichotsatira chotsatira cha nsanje yawo potengera malingaliro osatetezeka.

13. Kuwongolera machitidwe anu

Mnzako akafuna kuti uchite zinthu zina, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za nsanje pachibwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu atakuwuzani kuti mumuyamikire pa TV kapena akukuuzani kuti mukhale kumbuyo kwawo pamene akuthetsa mavuto anu, ndizodziwikiratu zakulamulira.

Katswiri wa zamankhwala Kamalyn Kaur awona kuti kuwongolera mayendedwe pamaubwenzi kumawononga chidaliro cha munthu wolamulidwa komanso kukhala ndi thanzi lamtendere. Ndizofunikira kuti aliyense athetse ubale woterewu.

14. Kupanga kuti uzifotokoze wekha

Njira ina yowonera nsanje ndi pamene mnzanu akufunsani zambiri pazonse zomwe mumachita komanso anthu omwe mumakumana nawo.

Katswiri wa zamaganizidwe a Sharon Martin amafotokoza momwe kudzilungamitsira, kukangana, kudzitetezera, ndikudzifotokozera (JADE) kumawonetsa njira zolumikizirana zosagwirizana zomwe zimakhudza munthu komanso ubale.

15. Kukwiya mukamayamikira ena

Ngati mukufuna kuwona ngati wokondedwa wanu ali ndi nsanje kapena ayi, onani momwe amachitira mukamayamika ena.

Kuyamikira ena ngakhale muli pachibwenzi sizitanthauza kuti mukubera. Anzanu akapsa mtima ndi mayamiko opanda vuto, amakhala osatetezeka, akuwonetsa zizindikilo zansanje.

16. Kufuna kudziwa za mbiri yanu yakale

Ngakhale maubale anu am'mbuyomu alibenso kanthu, mnzanu yemwe ali ndi zizindikiro zansanje akufuna kudziwa tsatanetsatane wake. Ndipo mukakana, amakwiya. Kusatetezeka kwawo kumapangitsa chidwi chawo chomwe chikukulirakulira kuti mudziwe zambiri zam'mbuyomu nthawi zonse.

Njira 5 mukamakumana ndi mnzanu wansanje

Ngati mukufunabe kuti ubale wanu ukhale wogwira ntchito, mutha kuyambitsa kusintha komwe kumafotokoza za nsanje muubwenzi.

Onani njira izi kuti mukambirane ndi mnzanu za nsanje yawo:

1. Yambani kukambirana modekha

Onetsetsani kuti simukupangitsa kuti ziwoneke ngati ali ndi vuto.

M'malo mwake, muwonetseni ngati vuto lomwe mungafune kuthana limodzi kuti banja lanu lipite patsogolo. Zingathandize momwe zingapulumutsire mnzanu kuti asamveke, zomwe zingawapangitse kukhala omasuka kukambirana.

2. Fotokozani momwe mukumvera

Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu moona mtima komanso moona mtima. Yesetsani kunyalanyaza mawu amomwe akumvera chifukwa chamakhalidwe awo.

Fotokozani momveka bwino tanthauzo lanu la ubale wabwino ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera. Khalani olimba mtima komanso osapepesa, popeza muli ndi ufulu wokhala pachibwenzi chomwe chimakwaniritsa zosowa zanu.

3. Funsani kuti asinthe

Adziwitseni kuti mufunika kuti asinthe machitidwe awo kapena momwe amalankhulira nanu.

Kufunsa zosintha zomwe zingathandize ubale wanu sikudzikonda mwanjira iliyonse. Kungofunsa kuti musinthe zitha kukuwonetsani vuto lalikulu kwa mnzanu.

4. Apatseni mwayi wolankhula

Ndibwino kuti nawonso amvetsere malongosoledwe awo.

Yesetsani kuti musatengeke kwambiri ndi madandaulo anu kuti muiwale kuwapatsa mpata woti akambirane. Kuwamva adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zinthu ndikukonzekera zochita zanu moyenera.

5. Vomerezani kuyankha kwawo kapena kuchoka

Pakadali pano, mayankho a mnzanu ndiye adzawone komwe ubalewo ukupita.

Ngati ali achisoni ndikuvomereza zolakwa zawo, mutha kuwauza kuti mumayamikira kuwona mtima kwawo ndikukonzekera kuti zinthu ziyende. Komabe, ngati sakuwona cholakwika ndi zomwe akuchita, itha kukhala nthawi yoti awunikenso zomwe mukutsimikiza ndikuchoka.

Mapeto

Ubale umabwera ndimikhalidwe yawo, kuphatikiza zizindikilo zansanje pachibwenzi.

Nsanje ya apo ndi apo si yachilendo, koma nsanje yayikulu imatha kukhala yoopsa kwa aliyense amene akutenga nawo mbali. Ngati mukukayikira kuti mnzanu ali ndi nsanje ndipo akufuna kudziwa momwe angaziwonere, mverani zizindikilo zomwe zalembedwa munkhaniyi.