Zamkati
- Kumbukirani, mukuyenda pamaoko azimazira
- 1. Mfundo ndizofunikira ndipo ziyenera kugawidwa
- 2. Zowona ndizosiyana ndi momwe akumvera, chifukwa chake kusiyanitsa pakati pawo
- 3. Osangokakamira, lolani kuti zokambirana ziziyenda bwino
- 4. Kumbukirani kuti uwu ndi ubale wawo
- 5. Dzidziwe wekha mokwanira kudziwa nthawi yokhudza iwe
Ambiri aife takumanapo ndi munthu amene timamukonda, mchimwene wathu, bwenzi lathu lapamtima, kapena mnzathu wapamtima, akutiuza kuti akumanapo ndi wina ndipo akudziwa, akungodziwa, kuti ndiye "ameneyo".
Pamene "m'modzi" apezeka kuti ndi wamwano kapena wamwano, kapenanso kutipatsa mwayi, tikakumbukira chifukwa chomwe dzina la mtsikanayo "wangwiro" amadziwika (chifukwa adanyenga mnzake) kapena "chikondi chenicheni" chikapezeka kuti mukhale munthu yemwe anazunza mnzake wogwira naye ntchito, tichite chiyani kenako?
Mwina sitimamukonda munthuyo tikakumana nawo ndipo timadabwa kuti munthu amene timamuganizira kwambiri angakwatire bwanji choipa kapena zoyipa.
Kumbukirani, mukuyenda pamaoko azimazira
Ndikofunika kuganizira mozama za momwe mungachitire komanso momwe mungawongolere, kuyambira ndikudziwa kuti simukupambana.
Wina akatakwera ndi mankhwala achikondi, sikuti angakukhulupirireni koma atha kukupandukiranitu.
Nazi mfundo zofunika kuziganizira mosamala.
1. Mfundo ndizofunikira ndipo ziyenera kugawidwa
Ngati mukudziwa zoona zake kuti wina akukuzunzani, amabera chinyengo, kapena ngati mukukhulupirira kuti akhoza kuwononga thanzi la mnzanuyo, ndikofunikira kuyankhulapo.
Koma chitani izi mosamala, ndipo perekani zowona popanda kutanthauzira kapena kutsutsa zomwe mukuganiza kuti zikutanthauza. Ngakhale utanene bwanji, zingawonongetse ubwenzi wanu, koma ngati simunena chilichonse, atha kubweranso ndikukufunsani kuti "Simungandiuze bwanji?"
Ndizosavomerezeka kuti musagawe zambiri ndi wina ngati osadziwa kuti zitha kuvulaza.
Mutha kunena china chake chomwe chatsimikizira malingaliro awo ndikufunsani zomwe muyenera kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, “Ndikufuna thandizo lanu chifukwa sindikudziwa choti ndichite. Ndine wokondwa kuti ndinu okondwa. Ndikudziwa kuti mumamukonda kwambiri ndipo ndikufuna kukuthandizani.
Kungoti mlongo wanga amadziwa msungwana womaliza yemwe adakhala naye pachibwenzi ndipo adalankhula zina zake zomwe zimandipangitsa kufuna kukuchenjezani; Ndikudandaula kuti mutha kukhala pachiwopsezo. ” Kenako dikirani kuti muwone momwe mnzanu akuyankhira.
2. Zowona ndizosiyana ndi momwe akumvera, chifukwa chake kusiyanitsa pakati pawo
Atha kuwoneka kuti ndiwodzikuza, wokweza mawu, kapena wamisala yemwe mukuwona kuti ndi wotsika mnzanu amene mungasankhe. Ngati simukuwakonda chifukwa china chake chimakupweteketsani koma simungathe kudziwa, izi zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kulumikizana popanda kuwononga ubalewo.
Mwakhala wofulumira kuweruza anthu ena omwe adadzakhala anzanu omwe mudaphunzira kuti mumawakonda komanso kuwakonda; ziweruzo zoyambirira nthawi zambiri sizowona.
Iyi ingakhale nthawi yabwino kupeza zinthu zomwe mumakonda zokhudza bwenzi lanu latsopano, zinthu zomwe sizikukhumudwitsani.
Kumbukirani, titha kukhala "pachitsimikizo" tikamaweruza za wina aliyense ndipo chilichonse chomwe akuchita chimatsimikizira kuweruza kwathu.
Malingaliro athu otseguka amatseka ndipo timapitilizabe kusankha zinthu kuti titsimikizire tokha kuti tikulondola. Yesetsani kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kuweruza kwanu m'malo mongoyang'ana njira zolondola.
3. Osangokakamira, lolani kuti zokambirana ziziyenda bwino
Ngati mukuwona kuti mnzanu wasintha, musakakamize zokambiranazo, dikirani kuti wina atsegule.
Zikafika ndikugawana kukayikira kwawo, musakhale okondwa kwambiri kapena kusiya zigamulo zanu za iwo chifukwa izi zingawakakamize kuti ateteze wokondedwa wawo. Mwanjira ina, ngati mulumpha ndikuyamba kuyesa kufotokoza malingaliro anu, mumasiya kukhala otetezeka ndipo amatseka.
Komabe, ngati akuwona kuti mumawathandiza, akhoza kumva kuti ndi otetezeka kokwanira kuti anene zakukhosi kwawo.
Ngakhale apo, pitani pang'onopang'ono. "Ngati mukumva choncho, kodi mwaganiza zodikira kanthawi kochepa kuti muchite?" adzapeza zabwino kwambiri kuposa "Sindikuganiza kuti ndi lingaliro labwino kupitirizabe ndi chibwenzicho. Inenso sindimamukonda. ”
4. Kumbukirani kuti uwu ndi ubale wawo
Monga mlangizi wazokwatirana wazaka zambiri komanso mphunzitsi wachikondi, ndikukuwuzani kuti sitidziwa zomwe zikuchitika pakati pa anthu awiri ndipo sitingathe kuwona nkhani yonse.
Wina yemwe angawoneke wosakhazikika atha kukhala mnzake wapamtima yemwe tingaganizire mnzathu, pomwe wina yemwe angawoneke wosalala atha kukhala wamwano komanso wabwino kwambiri kuti sangakhale wowona.
Chofunika kwambiri ndikusankha kwawo, ndipo ngakhale simukukonda kusankha, kumbukirani kuti mumawakonda. Chifukwa chake, tsamira pakukhulupirira iwo kuti adziwe zomwe zili zabwino kwa iwo.
5. Dzidziwe wekha mokwanira kudziwa nthawi yokhudza iwe
Zomwe mumachita nthawi zambiri zimakhala choncho; za inu m'malo mowona molondola munthu wina.
Ambiri a ife tamva kuti titha kungowona kalirole winawake ndipo nthawi zina sitimakonda anthu akatikumbutsa za gawo lathu lomwe timamvera.
Mwinanso amaweruza kwambiri, amakwiya msanga, kapena ndi osowa; zinthu zomwe sizimakukondani. Tengani chigamulo chanu mopitilira kukhulupirira chowonadi chake ndikufunsani zomwe chibwenzi chimakupangitsani chomwe sichingakhudze munthuyo.
Koposa zonse, sungani njira zolumikizirana momasuka.
Mukakhala otseguka ndipo zomwe mumachita m'matumbo zimakhala zowona, mudzakhala otetezeka kwa anzanu kubwera zinthu zikavuta. Ngati mungakhale omasuka ndipo zibadwa zanu sizikhala zowona, mutha kukhala ndi munthu wina m'moyo wanu amene mungakonde.
Mupewanso kutaya bwenzi chifukwa mumaganiza kuti mumadziwa bwino omwe akuyenera kukonda.