Zamkati
- 1. Kuyamba - Kuyamba
- 2. Kuyesera - Kudziwana ndi winayo
- 3. Kulimbitsa - Kukulitsa malingaliro
- 4. Kuphatikiza - Chiyambi cha china chake
- 5. Kumanga mgwirizano - Kulimbitsa ubale
- Tengera kwina
Tazingidwa ndi maubwenzi angapo kuyambira pomwe tidayamba, sichoncho? Izi zikuwonetseratu kuti maubale ndi gawo lofunikira m'moyo wathu. Kaya ndizosowa zakuthupi kapena zakuthupi, tili ndi maubale ambiri m'mabanja komanso osakhala achibale kuti tiwakwaniritse.
Maubale athu obadwa nawo ndi dalitso popeza sitiyenera kukulitsa mwachangu; komabe, maubwenzi ena amafunikira nthawi ndi khama kuti akule.
Maubwenzi achikondi amadutsa magawo angapo amakulidwe aubwenzi chilakolako ndi kukopa koyamba kusandulika kukhala kudzipereka komanso kulumikizana kwamuyaya. Osati maubwenzi onse amadutsa magawo onse a chitukuko chaubwenzi. Magawo awa si kanthu koma njira yomwe anthu amazindikirira omwe akufuna kukhala nawo, omwe amapitilira momwe munthu winayo amadzinyamulira.
Nayi magawo 5 amakulidwe aubwenzi operekedwa ndi a Mark Knapp.
1. Kuyamba - Kuyamba
Yoyamba pamndandanda wamagawo amakulidwe aubwenzi ndi kuyambitsa, pomwe cholinga chawo chachikulu ndikupanga chithunzi chabwino. Anthu amadziwana pakadali pano ndipo amakambirana makamaka za zabwino za iwo.
Maphwando onsewa amayesa kukhala oseketsa, opambana, komanso aulemu kuti apambane.
Kuyambitsa ndi gawo lovuta chifukwa limasankha ngati anthu awiri ali oyenerana kukhala pachibwenzi kapena ayi. Mukakhala pagawo lakubadwa, yesetsani kupewa kudzitama chifukwa kumachotsera mnzakeyo.
2. Kuyesera - Kudziwana ndi winayo
Palibe amene akufuna kulumphira pachibwenzi ndikuyika pachiwopsezo thanzi lawo lamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro, sichoncho? Pofuna kupewa izi, ndibwino kuyeserera pang'ono, zomwe ndi gawo lachiwirili lachitukuko cha ubale.
Pali zina zomwe zimadziwana bwino, ndipo anthu amayamba kusinkhasinkha wina ndi mnzake.
Amakumana pafupipafupi ndipo amayenda pang'onopang'ono koma motsimikiza. Ndikungowonana kumaphwando kapena kumwa khofi kamodzi pa sabata. Izi zimawapatsa onse mpumulo wina ndi mnzake, ndipo amayamba kulingalira za wina ndi mnzake momveka bwino. Onse awiri amakonda kuyesa zinthu monga kufanana, kuyandikira, ndi kudzizindikira okha pakuyesa.
3. Kulimbitsa - Kukulitsa malingaliro
Kukulitsa ndi gawo limodzi mwazovuta kwambiri zakukula kwa ubale kuyambira pomwe anthu amayamba kukhala ndi ndalama. Amagawana zambiri zam'mbuyomu komanso malingaliro amtsogolo kuti winayo awone mozama.
Ili ndiye gawo lolumikizana kwambiri, pomwe zonse zimawoneka zokongola, ndipo pali chisangalalo chachikulu ichi.
Anthu zimawavuta kukhala kutali wina ndi mnzake ndikungoganiza za momwe angakulitsire ubalewo.
Kudzipereka kumayambiranso kukulira. Anthu amayambanso kuwona mbali zakuda nthawi imeneyi ndikuyesanso kuthetsa mikangano iliyonse yomwe ingabuke.
Pali kuyesetsa kuthana ndi mavuto ndikupangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito popeza zonse ndi zatsopano. Anthu amayambanso kukayikira mtundu waubwenzi womwe akupita ndipo akuyembekezeranji kuchokera pamenepo.
4. Kuphatikiza - Chiyambi cha china chake
Kuphatikiza ndi gawo lokongola chifukwa anthu ali otsimikiza za ubale wawo ndipo akuyembekeza kuti lithandizadi. Achotsa kukayikira kulikonse ndipo akudziwa zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso zomwe iwowo atha kupereka. Ndi pachimake pa chikondi ndi chifundo pamagulu a kukula kwaubwenzi.
Pali kulumikizana kwamphamvu pakadali pano, ndipo anthu amayang'ana kudzipereka pakuphatikizika.
Ayeneranso kukhala oganizirana ndikukambirana mozama za tsogolo laubwenzi wawo.
5. Kumanga mgwirizano - Kulimbitsa ubale
Mgwirizano womaliza ndi umodzi mwa magawo achikondi pakati pa anthu kuyambira pomwe anthu amalembetsa ubale wawo pakadali pano. Maanja amakwatirana ndikunyamulana pamaso pa anzawo ndi mabanja kuti awonetsetse kulumikizana kolimba.
Pakadali pano kakulidwe kaubwenzi, palibe mikangano popeza yathetsedwa koyambirira, ndipo anthu amakhala ndi chiyembekezo chambiri pachibwenzi chawo.
Kumangiriza mfundoyi pakagwiridwe kantchito ndi kulimba kwa mgwirizano mpaka pakatikati pa ubale wa platonic ndiye chimake cha gawoli.
Tengera kwina
Magawo onse a chitukuko chaubwenzi ndiwofunikira ndipo amayenera kuchitidwa mozama chifukwa amakuthandizani kulowa muubwenzi wofunikira. Anthu omwe amakonda kusamala ndi mphepo ndikuthamangira pachibwenzi amafunika kuti achepetse ndikuwona zinthu moyenera.
Kukopa ndi kukondana ndizofunikira kwambiri pakupangitsa magawo a chitukuko chaubwenzi kukhala osalala komanso osangalatsa. Khalaninso ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa pamene mukupanga chibwenzi chatsopano kuti mudziwane zazing'ono zomwe zimalimbikitsa maubwenzi.