Zamkati
- 1. Pangani pulani koyambirira
- 2. Imani zolakwa
- 3. Phunzirani kulankhulana
- 4. Nthawi zonse perekani zana limodzi limodzi
- 5. Kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake
Mukakwatirana, ntchito zonse, ngongole, ku dos sizingapite kwa munthu m'modzi. Zonse ndizolinganiza, ndizokhudza mgwirizano. Simungalole kuti chilichonse chigwere kwa m'modzi wa inu. Gwiritsani ntchito limodzi, kulankhulana, kupezeka muukwati wanu. Osatsimikiza za njira zopititsira patsogolo banja lanu pogwirira ntchito limodzi?
Nawa maupangiri asanu omangira mgwirizano muukwati wanu.
Kupanga mgwirizano m'banja
1. Pangani pulani koyambirira
Ndani ati alipire ndalama ya mafuta, madzi, renti, chakudya? Pali zolipira zambiri komanso zolipira zomwe mungafune kugawa. Popeza mumakhala limodzi ndipo si maanja onse omwe amasankha kuphatikiza maakaunti awo akubanki, sizabwino kuti ndi m'modzi yekha wa inu amene amawononga ndalama zonse kusamalira mabilu kapena nthawi yawo kuda nkhawa kuti alandilidwa.
Ndani ayeretse mlungu uliwonse? Nonse mumapanga chisokonezo, nonse mumayiwala kubwezeretsa zinthu momwe zilili, nonse mumagwiritsa ntchito zovala zomwe zimafunika kutsukidwa kamodzi kapena kawiri pa sabata. Ndizabwino kuti nonse mugawane ntchito zapakhomo. Ngati wina aphika winayo amatsuka mbale. Wina akatsuka chipinda chochezera winayo akhoza kukonza m'chipinda chogona. Ngati wina ayeretsa galimoto, winayo amathandizapo mu garaja.
Mgwirizano muukwati wanu umayamba ndi ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku, kugawana ntchito, kuthandizana.
Kwa gawo loyeretsera, kuti likhale losangalatsa mutha kupikisana nawo, aliyense amene atsuka gawo lawo mwachangu kwambiri, amatenga zomwe adye usiku womwewo. Mwanjira imeneyi mutha kupangitsanso chidziwitso kukhala chosangalatsa pang'ono.
2. Imani zolakwa
Chilichonse ndi cha mzake. Nonsenu mumayesetsa kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino. Ngati china sichichitika monga momwe munakonzera simuyenera kuimba mlandu aliyense. Ngati mwaiwala kulipira bilu, musadandaule za izi, zimachitika, ndinu anthu. Mwina nthawi ina mukadzakhala kuti mukufuna kukhazikitsa chikumbutso pafoni yanu kapena mutha kuuza mnzanu kuti akukumbutseni. Palibe chifukwa chonamizirana zinthu zikavuta.
Chimodzi mwazinthu zopangira mgwirizano muukwati wanu ndi kuvomereza zolakwa zanu, zomwe mumachita bwino, chilichonse chokhudza wina ndi mnzake.
3. Phunzirani kulankhulana
Ngati simukugwirizana pa chinthu china, ngati mukufuna kuwauza momwe mukumvera, khalani pansi kuti mukambirane. Mvetsetsani wina ndi mnzake, musadule mawu. Njira yopewera mkangano ndikungokhazika mtima pansi ndikumvetsera zomwe wina anena. Kumbukirani kuti nonse mukufuna kuti izi zigwire ntchito. Chitani izi limodzi.
Kuyankhulana ndi kudalirana ndichofunikira kwambiri kuti ubale ukhale wopambana. Osangobisa zakukhosi kwanu, simudzafuna kuphulika mtsogolomo ndikuwonjeza zinthu. Musaope zomwe mnzanu angaganize, alipo kuti akulandireni, osati kuti akuweruzeni.
4. Nthawi zonse perekani zana limodzi limodzi
Chibwenzi ndi 50% iwe, ndipo 50% mnzako.
Koma sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina mumatha kukhala wokhumudwa, mwina simungathe kupereka 50% yomwe mumakonda kupereka pachibwenzi mnzanuyo akafuna kupereka zochulukirapo. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa palimodzi, nthawi zonse mumayenera kupereka zana limodzi. Wokondedwa wanu akukupatsani 40%? Kenako apatseni 60%. Amakusowani, muwasamalire, musamalire banja lanu.
Lingaliro logwirira ntchito limodzi mu banja lanu ndikuti nonse mumagwirira ntchito limodzi kuti izi zitheke. Kuti mufike ku zana la zana tsiku lililonse, ndipo ngati nonse mumamva kuti simungafikeko, khalani komweko kuti muthandizane njira iliyonse. Ngakhale mutalimbana bwanji, mosasamala kanthu za zovuta, zivute zitani, khalani othandizana wina ndi mnzake nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungakwanitse.
5. Kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake
Chisankho chilichonse chomwe m'modzi wa inu amapanga, cholinga chilichonse, maloto onse, chilichonse chomwe mungachite, khalani othandizana. Khalidwe limodzi lomwe lingatsimikizire kuti anthu azigwirira ntchito limodzi m'banja ndi kuthandizana. Khalani thanthwe la wina ndi mnzake. Njira yothandizira.
Khalani ndi msana wina ndi mnzake zivute zitani. Kunyadira kupambana kwa wina ndi mnzake. Khalani pomwe wina ndi mnzake atayika, mudzafunika kuthandizana. Dziwani izi: Pamodzi nonse mutha kupyola chilichonse. Pogwirira ntchito limodzi muukwati wanu, nonse mutha kuchita chilichonse chomwe mungaganize.
Kukhala ndi mgwirizano muukwati wanu kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhale nonse chitetezo kuti mupite mpaka pano. Osanama, izi zimafuna chipiriro chambiri komanso kuyesetsa kwambiri, koma nonse awiri mukayika zonse zomwe mwapeza patebulo, izi zitha kutheka.