Zamkati
- 1. Mukuyang'anira momwe mukumvera
- 2. Dziwani kuti nkhondoyi ndi yotani
- 3. Gwirani ntchito kuchokera pamalo achidwi ndi chidani
- 4. Kumbukirani nkhani za chilankhulo
- 5. Ntchito yokonza ndi gawo lofunikira pomenya nkhondo
Sikuti nkhani iliyonse yayikulu imangokhala ndi mikangano, maubwenzi onse abwino ali nawonso. Ndimasangalala nthawi zonse ndikafunsa funso loti, "Kodi ubale wanu uli bwanji?" akumana ndi yankho, "Ndizabwino. Sitimenya konse. ” Monga ngati kusamenyanako kuli muyeso wa ubale wabwino.Zachidziwikire, palibe thanzi lomwe lingapezeke pomenya nkhondo yomwe imasintha mwakuthupi, mwamaganizidwe, kapena mwano. Koma ndi liti pamene mikangano pakati pa maubale idapeza mbiri yoyipa? Kuphunzira kumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo kungathandize kulimbitsa ubalewo potipatsa mwayi wothana ndi zovuta zomwe tikufuna, m'malo mothetsa zovuta zomwe zilipo pano. Kusamvana kumatipatsa mwayi womvetsetsa mnzathu, kumanga gulu lamphamvu logwirira ntchito limodzi kuti tipeze yankho, ndipo kumatipatsa chizolowezi cholankhula pazomwe tikufuna muubwenzi. Si mikangano yomwe ili yoyipa paubwenzi wabanja, ndi momwe timachitiramo. Nayi "malamulo" asanu oti muphunzire luso lomenyera mosakondera ...
1. Mukuyang'anira momwe mukumvera
Zachidziwikire, mnzanuyo amatha kukankha mabatani anu, koma simungathe kuwongolera mnzanu, nokha. Chifukwa chake fufuzani nokha. Kodi mukudziwa momwe mukumvera? Kodi ndimotheka kumverera ndikumverera kuti mumawongolera zolankhula zanu komanso zochita zanu? Tikakwiya kwambiri kapena kukwiya, titha kutaya magwiridwe antchito aubongo oyenera kumenya nkhondo mwachilungamo ndikuwonetsa mikangano m'njira yomwe imapangitsa kuti ikhale yopindulitsa. Chifukwa chake ngati mukudzimva kuti muli ndi malingaliro ambiri, dzisamalireni ndipo mwina pumulani pankhondoyo; Ingomulolani mnzanuyo adziwe zomwe zikuchitika komanso nthawi yomwe mungakhale okonzeka kubwerera kuzokambirana. Kufikira pamenepo, khalani olankhula momasuka momwe mungathere ndi momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mukuganiza. Mnzanuyo, ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi anzanu kwanthawi yayitali bwanji, siwowerenga malingaliro komanso kuwerenga zomwe ena akuchita zomwe zimapangitsa mikangano. Chifukwa chake mkangano ukadzabweranso muubwenzi wanu, dzitsimikizireni kuti mungolankhula zakumva kwanu komanso momwe mumamvera.
2. Dziwani kuti nkhondoyi ndi yotani
Kusanthula malingaliro athu kumatithandiza kumvetsetsa za zomwe anzathu akuchita zomwe zatipangitsa. Kawirikawiri nkhondoyi ndi yoiwala za kuyeretsa kouma kapena kuchedwa kudya. Zowonjezera, kuyankha mokwiya pazinthu izi kumachokera pamalo opweteketsa, amantha, kapenanso kudziona kuti ndi achabechabe m'banjamo. Mukazindikira msanga komwe kukuyambitsa nkhaniyo, mudzatha kuthana ndi zosowa zenizeni zomwe sizikukwaniritsidwa pano. Chifukwa chake m'malo molimbana ndi ndalama zomwe mwagula posachedwapa, dzitsimikizireni kuti mukambirane zakupsinjika kwachuma kapena kufuna thandizo kuchokera kwa mnzanu pakusunga bajeti. Kudziwa kuti nkhondoyi ndi yotani kumatithandiza kupewa kugawa ubalewo posochera pomenya tsatanetsatane wa zomwe zachitika ndipo m'malo mwake timapereka mwayi wopeza limodzi kuti tithandizire chisankho.
3. Gwirani ntchito kuchokera pamalo achidwi ndi chidani
Mikangano ikachoka pakulozana chala ndikudzudzula, kusamvana kumatha kuyamba. M'malo mongoganizira zolinga za mnzanuyo ndikuwapatsa momwe akumvera pakadali pano, dzitsimikizireni kuti mufunse mafunso kuti mumvetsetse mnzanuyo komanso komwe akuchokera. Mofananamo, mnzanu akakhumudwa, funsani mafunso kuti mumvetsetse momwe akumvera. Ubale wathanzi ndi mbali ziwiri, chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuyeserera kugawana zakukhosi kwanu, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa za momwe mnzanu akumvera komanso zomwe akumana nazo. Chifundo ndi kumvera ena chisoni, kuthana ndi chidani, ndi chidani ndizotseka kusamvana. Kumbukirani kuti palibe "wopambana" pankhani yakumenya nkhondo m'banja.
4. Kumbukirani nkhani za chilankhulo
Mwambi wakale, "si zomwe wanena koma momwe wanenera," umakhala ndi chowonadi chambiri. Mawu athu, kamvekedwe kathu, ndi kalankhulidwe kathu kamakhudza momwe anthu amalandirira uthenga wathu. Kukumbukira zomwe ukunena komanso momwe mukunenera kungapangitse kusintha kwakukulu pakukangana. Tikamagwiritsa ntchito mawu amwano kapena osalankhula, timalimbikitsa njira zodzitetezera zomwe zimachepetsa chiopsezo komanso kukondana, zinthu ziwiri zofunika kwambiri pakulimbitsa ubale. Ndikofunikira kuti muzitha kuyankhula za mkwiyo, koma mkwiyo sumapereka chiphaso chaulere kuti mugwiritse ntchito mawu opweteka. Nthawi yomweyo, timamva mauthenga kudzera muma malingaliro athu, omwe nthawi zambiri amakula nthawi yankhondo. Kubwereranso kwa mnzanu zomwe mukumvazo kungathandize pakufotokozera kusalumikizana bwino ndikuonetsetsa kuti uthenga womwe mwalandila walandiridwa. Pomaliza, monganso momwe mawu athu amafunira, kusowa kwamawu kumathandizanso kwambiri. Pewani kungokhala chete osagwirizana ndi mkwiyo, chifukwa palibe lingaliro lomwe lingabwere pamene mnzanu akuyang'ana mkangano.
5. Ntchito yokonza ndi gawo lofunikira pomenya nkhondo
Mikangano imayenera kuchitika muubwenzi ndipo imapereka mwayi wokula. Kulimbana mwachilungamo kumathandiza kuti kusamvana kukhale kopindulitsa ndikutumikirana, koma ndi ntchito yokonza pambuyo pa nkhondo yomwe imathandizira abwenzi kuyanjananso. Nenani zomwe zinali zothandiza komanso zopweteka kwa inu panthawi yamkangano kuti mudzamenye mosiyana mtsogolo. Mikangano imayesa abwenzi kuti adule, koma ngati mutha kudalirana wina ndi mnzake m'malo motalikirana, ubale wanu uli ndi mwayi wolimba. Dzifunseni zomwe mukufuna kwambiri kuchokera kwa mnzanu kuti muzimva olumikizidwa kuti muthe kukonzanso mlatho womwe udakulekanitsani mkangano. Polemekeza zopweteka zomwe zimachitika mkangano ndikuwonetsa ulemu kwa anzathu komanso okondedwa athu, timalola ubalewo kukhala mwayi wopitilira mkangano waposachedwa.