Zamkati
- Momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muukwati wanu
- 1. Kugona pamodzi, kwenikweni
- 2. Yesetsani kukhala ndi chibwenzi nthawi zambiri
- 3. Muzipeza nthawi yocheza
- 4. Konzani tchuthi miyezi ingapo iliyonse
- 5. Onetsetsani kuti moyo wanu wogonana ukugwira ntchito
Ndikofunika kutero taganizirani zopulumuka zachikondi kuti mukonzenso ukwati wanu nthawi ndi nthawi, apo ayi kudzinyadira komanso kusungulumwa kumatha kulowa m'malo mwanu pakati pa mapepala. Koma ikupanga nthawi yoyenera kukonzanso kukondana m'banja sikophweka.
Patatha zaka zingapo mutakwatirana, pamene kudzikweza ndi ntchito zina za tsiku ndi tsiku zikuyamba, zachikondi ndi chidwi zikuwoneka sungunulani kukhala opanda pake. Izi zimabweretsa mabanja osasangalala komanso moyo wosasangalala.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi National Opinion Research Center, 60% yokha mwa anthu ndiomwe ali osangalala m'mabanja awo. Kafukufuku wina akuwonetsa kuti pafupifupi 15% ya amuna ndipo pafupifupi 27% ya akazi sanagonanepo chaka chatha.
Chifukwa chake mukuwona maanja ena amakhala m'mabanja omwe mulibe chilakolako cha chikondi.
Ngakhale zomwe alangizi ambiri azamaukwati akunena kuti chikondi sichitha pakati pa okwatirana, "kusakhala ndi ubale uliwonse kumagawanitsa maanja," atero a Saari Cooper, omwe ndi ovomerezeka pankhani yokhudza kugonana. Pamapeto pake, kusowa chikondi ndi kugonana m'banja kungayambitse kusakhulupirika kapena kusudzulana.
Kukondana komanso chidwi nthawi zina zimangobisika kumbuyo kwakunyalanyaza, mkwiyo, kusungulumwa, kunyong'onyeka, ndi mkwiyo. Chifukwa chake, kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala ndi lochita bwino, ndikofunikira kuti muzindikire zomwe zakukondanazo ndikumanganso chibwenzi m'banja.
Izi ndi zina mwazosavuta maupangiri obwezeretsanso chibwenzi m'banja.
Momwe mungabwezeretsere chikondi muukwati wanu
Zabwino kugonana ndi yomangidwa paubwenzi wapamtima ndi kuyandikana pakati pa abwenzi. Kulephera kwa kukondana muukwati komanso kuyandikirana pakati pa abwenzi kumabweretsa kutha kwa ubale pakati panu.
Koma zonse sizitayika. Dr. Lisa Firestone alemba, "Maganizo akuyenera kusiya kuchoka" momwe angakonzere "kwa mnzakeyo ndikuwona momwe angakonzere ubale.”
M'malo molira chifukwa chotaya chibwenzi, pezani njira zokuthandizaninso muukwati. Izi ndi njira zisanu zosinthira kukondana ndikubwezeretsanso chithumwa muubwenzi wanu.
1. Kugona pamodzi, kwenikweni
Banja lililonse liyenera kugona nthawi imodzi. Kugona nthawi yomweyo imapereka mwayi kukumbatirana, kupsompsona, ndi khalani ndi wina ndi mnzake. Ngakhale atakhala kuti sakulankhulana, kukhala pafupi nthawi zambiri kumalimbitsa kulumikizana pakati pawo.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi University of Pittsburgh akuti kugona pamodzi ndi mnzanu kumalimbikitsa chitetezo. Kuphatikiza apo, amachepetsa mahomoni opsinjika komanso amalimbikitsa mahomoni achikondi, komanso amapangitsa maanja kukhala oyandikana.
Nthawi yomweyo, kupita kokagona limodzi imapereka nthawi yochuluka kuti maanja azilumikizana asanagone m'manja mwao. Komanso, kugona nthawi imodzi kumadzetsa chisangalalo, kukhutira, chikondi, chisangalalo, ndi kuthokoza.
2. Yesetsani kukhala ndi chibwenzi nthawi zambiri
Njira yabwino yobwezeretsanso chikondi ndi kukumbukira masiku akale a chibwenzi ndikutsatizana. Koma, okwatirana ambiri amasiya kukondana ndikuyamba kutengana. Khalidwe lotere limatha kukhala msomali womaliza m'bokosi, pamapeto pake limadzetsa kupatukana kwa banja kapena kapena kusudzulana.
Chilala chofuna kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri chimadziwika ngati kutengeka kumasintha kukhala kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali.
Koma ngati mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungayambitsire chibwenzi, muyenera kukumbukira nthawi zokongola za masiku anu oyamba ndikukonzekera tsiku lodabwitsali. Kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi zambiri kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwana wina ndi mnzake komanso kusunga zomwe zikuyambitsa ubale wanu.
Komanso, madeti omwe amapezeka pafupipafupi amathetsa kukondana ndikuthandizaninso kukonzanso chibwenzi m'banja.
3. Muzipeza nthawi yocheza
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungapatse mnzanu ndipo, nthawi yanu yamtengo wapatali.
Ndikofunikira kwambiri kutero khalani ndi nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala ndi chidwi chopita nanu konsati pomwe ndinu otopa kwambiri mutatha ntchito komanso ntchito zapakhomo.
Zinthu zotere zimachitika kaŵirikaŵiri pakati pa okwatirana. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kupanga kalendala ya anthu awiri kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yopitira limodzi ndi mnzanu, konsati kapena kanema.
Ngati mwafika poti simumakondanso, ndiye kuti ndiyofunika kuyambiranso kuti muyambenso kukondana.
4. Konzani tchuthi miyezi ingapo iliyonse
Ngati mukufuna kupitiriza kukondana muukwati, muyenera kukonzekera njira zachikondi kuti mukonzenso banja lanu nthawi ndi nthawi.
Ndi kwabwino kwambiri kuti anthu okwatirana azikhala nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake kutali, kutali ndi kwawo. Izi zimawathandiza kuyamikirana komanso kulumikizana bwino. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukonzekera tchuthi miyezi ingapo iliyonse kuti mukayambitsenso chikondi m'banja lanu.
Mukukonzekera kumanganso chibwenzi muukwati? Yambani ndi akukonzekera tchuthi chachikondi ndi mnzanu lero!
5. Onetsetsani kuti moyo wanu wogonana ukugwira ntchito
Mabanja athanzi amagonana pafupipafupi. Pamene moyo wanu wogonana ukugwira ntchito, pamakhala malo ochepa okwiya ndi kuipidwa. Chifukwa chake, gulani zovala zamkati zapamwamba ndikuyambitsa zogonana tsiku ndi tsiku. Izi zipangitsa mnzanu kumva kukhala wokondedwa.
Muyenera kubwezeretsanso moyo wanu wogonana kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino.
Monga tanena kale m'nkhaniyi, ndikofunikira kukonzanso chibwenzi kuti muthe khalani ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wokhutiritsa.
Malangizo osavuta awa adzakuthandizani kuti muzisungabe zoyipa m'banja lanu kuti muzikhala okhutira komanso osangalala ndi banja lanu.