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Mumamva bwanji mutagwirana manja, kugwira mwendo, kukumbatirana kwambiri ndi mnzanu? Kodi ndi chinthu chomwe inu ndi mnzanu mumachita kawirikawiri kapena ndizosoweka m'banja lanu? Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi ndi mphamvu yakukhudza.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani ngati kugwiranagwirana kulibe muubwenzi wanu?
Kodi mumapanga bwanji kulumikizana komwe kumabweretsanso chiyanjano muubwenzi wanu? Kodi kukhudzika ndikofunikira m'banja lanu?
Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe ndimamva kawirikawiri kuchokera kwa maanja ndikuti zaka zikamapita, kuchuluka kwawo kwakukhudza thupi kumachepa. Izi ndizofala muubale wanthawi yayitali. Osataya mtima ndipo musataye mtima! Pali nkhani yabwino. Izi ndizosavuta. Chidziwitso ndi sitepe yoyamba. Kenako tengani chidziwitso chanu ku gawo lotsatira ndikutsatira ena mwa malangizowa. Khalani pano komanso kukumbukira momwe mumamvera mukakhudzidwa ndi chibwenzi chanu ndipo mudzayamba kukhudza thupi.
Malangizo owonjezera kukhudza muukwati wanu
- Kukumbatirani mobwerezabwereza ndipo yesetsani kukhala kwa mphindi zochepa mmanja a mnzanu.
- Gwiranani manja mukamayenda mgalimoto kuti musunge kapena poyenda mozungulira dera lanu.
- Gwiranani manja mukuwonera TV kapena ikani dzanja lanu pa mwendo wa mnzanu.
- Sungani pamodzi pabedi ndikugawana bulangeti.
- Cuddle musanagone ndi chinthu choyamba m'mawa musanadzuke pabedi.
- Pogwira maso anu, gwiranani manja.
- Ikani dzanja lanu pa mkono kapena mwendo wa mnzanu.
- Tsukani mapazi a mnzanu mukusangalala pabedi.
- Apatseni mnzanu thupi pakhosi pamene akhala pampando.
- Mupatseni mnzanu minofu yokhazikika.
- Yesani china chosiyana ndikutsuka tsitsi la mnzanu.
Chifukwa chiyani kukhudza kuli kofunika?
Kufunika kokhudzidwa muukwati sikungakhazikitsidwe mokwanira.
Kukondana ndi njira yabwino yolankhulirana ndipo kulimbitsa banja lanu. Zina mwazosangalatsa zidzakhala zakulumikizana, malingaliro abwino ndipo zimatulutsa kumwetulira kwa inu ndi mnzanu.
Zitha kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka, osamalidwa ndikupanga mgwirizano wokhalitsa. Kukhudza kwa thupi kumathandizanso kuchepetsa nkhawa ndipo tonse titha kupindula pakuchepetsa kupsinjika. Kukhudza kwamphamvu kumathandizanso kuyambiranso chidwi. Kukhudza ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri kuti banja likhale losangalala ndi labwino.
Kugwira thupi ndikulumikizana kwamphamvu ndipo amalankhula mokweza komanso momveka bwino kuti, "Ndikufuna kumva kulumikizidwa". Chifukwa chake yambani lero ndikubwezerani mphatso yakukondana. Ukwati wanu uyamika.