Zamkati
- Kodi mumapezeka kuti mukunena kuti, "Ndikufuna kukondana"?
- Mafunso okondana sikuti amangosangalatsa kuchita koma amangogwira ntchito
- Momwe mungapangire kuti wina akukondeni
- Mafunso omwe ali pamasewerawa ndi awa
Mafilimu achikondi ndi mafumu achifumu a Disney amakondana nanu, kapena wina amawoneka wosavuta.
Komabe, ngati mungalankhule ndi ena omwe adakhalapo pachibwenzi chenicheni, mudzazindikira kuti palibe chitsogozo cha momwe mungakondere kapena momwe mungapangire wina kuti ayambe kukukondani.
Kugwa mchikondi sikovuta kwambiri ngati mukudziwa za njira zaposachedwa pozungulira intaneti. Iyi ndi njira yomwe imakhudza mafunso kuti mugwirizane.
Kufunsa mafunso makumi atatu mphambu asanu ndi limodzi omwe amatsogolera ku chikondi chosakanikirana ndi kuyang'anizana kwamphindi zinayi adatchulidwa kuti ndi njira yoti mukondane komanso kupangitsa kuyanjana pakati pa alendo odabwitsa kwambiri.
Mafunso omwe mungafunse kuti mudziwane ndi wina akhoza kukhala wamba, ndipo mafunso awa makumi atatu mphambu asanu ndi limodzi nawonso ndiofala.
Amawerengedwa ngati mafunso oti angafunse kuti mugwirizane ngakhale ali mafunso wamba. Dziwani kuti zochita zanu zimatha kukopa alendo koma osawapangitsa kukondana; kuti mugwe mchikondi, mafunso awa amabwera mothandiza.
Masewera abwinowa amafunsira kulimbitsa ubale wawo ndikuwapangitsa kuti azisangalala ndi nthawi yawo. Tiyeni tiwerenge zambiri za funso lomwe limadzetsa chikondi.
Kupanga mafunso okonda: Mafunso oti mugwirizane
Kodi mumapezeka kuti mukunena kuti, "Ndikufuna kukondana"?
Tiyeni tiwone kaye momwe mafunso awa okondana adapangidwira.
M'chaka cha 1997, katswiri wamaganizidwe a Arthur Aron adasanthula mwayi wofulumizitsa kukondana pakati pa anthu awiri osadziwika bwino poyambitsa mafunso oti afunse kuti adziwe wina.
Mafunso awa anali okhudza kwambiri, ndipo amakhulupirira kuti mafunsowa ndi yankho labwino kwambiri 'momwe mungapangire wina kuti akondeni ndi inu.'
Chiyambireni kufunsa kwa mafunso a Dr. Aron oti afunse abwenzi, wawona kuti zikulimbikitsanso kukondana ngakhale muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali womwe wataya chiyembekezo.
Malinga ndi Dr. Aron, anthu awiri akapezeka kuti ali pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yoyamba, pamakhala chisangalalo chachikulu pakati pa awiriwa; komabe, nthawi ikamapita, mumakonda kukula pachisangalalo ichi ndikukula momwe mumazolowera.
Komabe, malinga ndi Arthur Aron, ngati mungachite china chovuta komanso chatsopano chomwe chingakukumbutseni za nthawi yosangalatsa ndi mnzanu, ubale wanu wonse uzikhala wabwino komanso watsopano.
Kenako adafunsa mafunso oti 'akudziweni' kwa maanja.
Mafunso awa makumi atatu ndi atatu anali amunthu kwambiri ndipo adatenga pafupifupi mphindi makumi anayi ndi zisanu kuti amalize.
Mukamapita patsogolo, mafunso okondana amakula kwambiri ndikukhala aanthu kuposa omwe kale.
A Aron ndi akazi awo adagwiritsanso ntchito funsoli kuti azilumikizana ndi anzawo nthawi yamadzulo.
Mafunso okondana sikuti amangosangalatsa kuchita koma amangogwira ntchito
Iwo adawonekera mu gawo la Chikondi Chamakono cha New York Times pamutu wakuti 'Kukondana ndi Aliyense, Chitani Izi.' Mzerewu unalembedwa ndi wolemba Mandy Len Catron, ndipo nkhani yake yachikondi inali chitsanzo cha momwe mafunso awa anachitikira.
Adayesa malingaliro a Dr. Aron pa munthu yemwe samamudziwa asanakumane.
Anatinso zimamutengera pafupifupi ola limodzi kuti athe kuyankha mafunso onsewa. Atamaliza izi, adakondana naye, ndipo adamugwera. Ndiye mafunso awa amagwira ntchito bwanji?
Momwe mungapangire kuti wina akukondeni
Kuti muthe kusewera masewera makumi atatu mphambu asanu ndi limodzi amafunso kwa maanja, muyenera kumvetsetsa koyamba momwe zimagwirira ntchito.
Malangizo ndi osavuta; abwenziwo ayenera kusinthana kufunsa mafunso. Wina adzafunsidwa ndi inu, pomwe mnzanu adzafunsa wachiwiri. Kumbukirani kuti amene akufunsayo ayeneranso kuyankha kaye.
Mukafunsa mafunso onse omwe ali patsamba lino, muyenera kuyang'anizana kwa kanthawi kochepa mphindi ziwiri kapena zinayi.
Wolemba, Mandy Len Carton akuti mphindi ziwiri zoyambirira ndikwanira kuchita mantha, koma mukadutsa mphindi yolondera ya mphindi zinayi, mukudziwa kuti itha kupita kwina.
Mafunso omwe ali pamasewerawa ndi awa
- Ngati mutha kukhala ndi zaka makumi asanu ndi anayi ndipo mutha kukhala ndi thupi kapena malingaliro azaka makumi atatu pazaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi zapitazi za moyo wanu, zingakhale ziti?
- Kodi lingakhale tsiku "labwino" liti kwa inu?
- Munamaliza liti kuimba nokha kapena kwa wina?
- Kodi muli ndi chidwi chobisa momwe mungamwalire?
- Popeza kuti mutha kusankha aliyense padziko lino lapansi, ndi ndani yemwe mungafune kukhala nawo ngati alendo?
Mafunso ena onsewa ndi ofanana kwambiri ndi awa koma amapeza zambiri panjira.
Komabe, simungafunse wina kuti, 'kodi muli pachibwenzi' momveka bwino. Sewerani masewerawa ndi okondedwa anu, ndipo tiuzeni momwe zinakuyenderani!