Zamkati
- Kuledzera kungakhale vuto lowononga kwambiri
- Kodi mukuvutika ndi chiwerewere?
- Kodi mumangoganiza zogonana nthawi zonse?
- Kodi mumachita maliseche kangati?
- Kodi mumapezeka kuti mumakonda zolaula nthawi zambiri?
- Kodi kusakhulupirika kwalowa muubwenzi wanu wanthawi yayitali?
- Kodi mumadzikonda nokha?
Kodi mukufunitsitsa kuzindikira zizindikilo zowonekera zakugonana? Ndizotheka kuti mwina ndiwe wokonda kugonana wekha, kapena umagwiriridwa.
Mulimonsemo, muyenera kuphunzira kuzindikira zizindikiritso zakugonana pachibwenzi. Ndipamene mutha kutenga njira zofunikira kuthana nazo.
Werengani kuti muwone zizindikilo zowoneka zakugonana zomwe mwina mungazinyalanyaze.
Zingamveke zosamvetseka kumva mawu a Angelou pachidutswa chomwe chimafikira zovuta za chizolowezi chogonana, koma Angelou ali ndi zambiri zoti anene pokhudzana ndi vuto lakumwa, ndi ena onga ilo.
“Sindikudziwa ngati ndipitilizabe, ngakhale lero, nthawi zonse ndimadzikonda. Koma chomwe ndidaphunzira kuchita zaka zambiri zapitazo, chinali kudzikhululukira.
Ndikofunikira kuti munthu aliyense azidzikhululukira yekha chifukwa mukakhala ndi moyo, mudzalakwitsa- ndizosapeweka. Koma ukachita ndipo ukawona cholakwikacho, umadzikhululukira ndikunena kuti, 'chabwino, ndikadakhala kuti ndikadadziwa bwino ndikadachita bwino,' ndizomwezo.
Ndiye mumati kwa anthu omwe mukuganiza kuti mwina mwawavulaza, 'Pepani,' ndiyeno mumtima mwanu, 'Pepani.' Ngati tonse tigwiritsitsa cholakwikacho, sitingathe kuwona ulemerero wathu pagalasi chifukwa tili ndi cholakwika pakati pa nkhope zathu ndi kalilole; sitingathe kuona kuti ndife otani. ” Maya Angelou
Nthawi zambiri timachita zinthu zowopsa tikakhala ndi zolemetsa zazikulu mkati mwathu. Mwanjira ina, timadzipweteka tokha ndi ena omwe timawakonda tikamamva kuwawa mkati.
Kuledzera kungakhale vuto lowononga kwambiri
Kumbali imodzi, zizolowezi zakugonana zitha kutitengera nthawi, chidwi, komanso kudzipereka kudzisamalira. Kumbali inayi, zizolowezi zakugonana zitha kuwononganso maubwenzi apafupi.
Kuledzera kumachepetsa "kulumikizana" kofunikira kwambiri m'miyoyo yathu ndipo kumatha kuyambitsa zovuta zina zambiri zosasangalatsa muubwenzi wathu.
Kodi mukuvutika ndi chiwerewere?
Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili ndi chizolowezi chogonana?
Popeza kuti muli ndi chidziwitso chokwanira kuti mugwiritse ntchito nkhaniyi chikusonyeza kuti mwina mwawona zisonyezo zakugonana mwa mnzanu, kapena mwatsimikiza mtima kupeza thandizo ndikupita patsogolo ndi moyo wanu.
Kugonana kumawononga thanzi lathu ndikuwononga kudzipereka kwathu ku banja, ntchito, komanso mdera, ndi nthawi yoti tithandizidwe. Pitirizani kuwerenga kuti muwone kuchuluka kwa zizolowezi zakugonana zomwe zikugwirizana ndi vuto lanu.
Kodi mumangoganiza zogonana nthawi zonse?
Ngati kuyerekezera zakugonana kumakhala kutanganidwa komwe kumakulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo wopindulitsa, mutha kukhala ndi vuto. Pomwe anthu ambiri amasangalala kapena kusangalala ndi kugonana nthawi inayake m'moyo, kutanganidwa kotheratu ndi vuto ndimavuto.
Ngati nkhambakamwa zakugonana zikukulepheretsani kumaliza ntchito kapena zina, ndiye izi ndi zizindikilo zowonekera zakugonana.
Yakwana nthawi yoti mubwerere ndikudziwitsa, "Chifukwa chiyani?" Ngati mukuona kuti simungakwanitse kuchita izi, gawani chitsanzo chanu ndi wina ndikufunsani kuti anene maganizo anu.
Kupatula apo, kukhala chizolowezi chogonana sikungakuthandize m'kupita kwanthawi.
Kodi mumachita maliseche kangati?
Ngakhale ili lingawoneke ngati funso losafunikira kudzifunsa, yankho likuthandizani kudziwa ngati zosokoneza bongo zikusewera.
Anthu kuseweretsa maliseche. M'malo mwake, pafupifupi munthu aliyense wamkulu padziko lapansi amadziseweretsa maliseche nthawi ina. Nkhani ndi pafupipafupi.
Ngati mumapezeka kuti mukuseweretsa maliseche kangapo patsiku komanso pafupifupi tsiku lililonse la sabata, ndi nthawi yoti mupeze thandizo. Pakadali pano, maliseche akukulepheretsani kukwaniritsa ntchito zatsiku ndi tsiku.
Ngati mumaseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi koma mumakonda kuseweretsa maliseche mutangogonana ndi mnzanu, palinso chifukwa chodera nkhawa.
Kodi mumapezeka kuti mumakonda zolaula nthawi zambiri?
Ngakhale titha kupewa zokambirana "zamakhalidwe" oyang'ana zolaula poyamba, tiyeni tipitilize kuvomereza kuti kugula zolaula mwina ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro zakugonana kapena chizindikiro choti mukupita kumalo osokoneza bongo.
Kuphatikiza apo, ngati zolaula zikuwononga ndalama zanu tsiku lililonse, mutha kuganiza kuti muli ndi vuto lalikulu. Zithunzi zolaula zimatsutsana ndi anthu ndipo sizimapindulitsa chilichonse chokhala ndi ubale wabwino.
Osanyalanyaza zizindikiro zakuchenjezazi ngati mukuzizindikira, ndi nthawi yake kuchitapo kanthu pavutolo.
Kodi kusakhulupirika kwalowa muubwenzi wanu wanthawi yayitali?
Ngakhale anthu amatchula zifukwa zambiri zosakhulupirika, ndikofunikira kuzindikira kuti kusakhulupirika kumawononga maubale.
Chimodzi mwa zizindikilo zomwe zimawoneka kuti ndi chizolowezi chogonana m'banja ndi pomwe kusakhulupirika kwanu kumatanthauza kuchoka pa bwenzi kupita kwa mnzanu pafupipafupi.
Dzichitireni nokha ndi anzanu (kapena) okondedwa- pezani chithandizo!
Kusakhulupirika kumabweretsanso matenda opatsirana pogonana mu equation. Kodi mungafune kubweretsa matenda opatsirana pogonana muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali chifukwa cha umbombo wanu? Kodi mungafune mnzanu kuti akuchitireni izi?
Onerani kanemayu kuti mumve zambiri zakugonana:
Kodi mumadzikonda nokha?
Ili ndiye funso lovuta kwambiri kuti mudzifunse nokha mukazindikira ngati chizolowezi chogonana chikuvutitsa moyo wanu.
Anthu omwe amakonda kuwonetsa zizolowezi zakugonana nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi kuvulala kosathetsedwa komwe kumawapangitsa kuti azisangalala nthawi zonse komanso kulumikizidwa. Mwanjira ina, chilakolako chofuna kugonana mosalekeza kapena malingaliro azakugonana chimakulitsidwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kudzaza zomwe zili mumtima ndi amoyo.
Nthawi zambiri, timadziwa ngati timadzikonda tokha kapena ayi. Ngati yankho lanu ndi "ayi," dziwani kuti yakwana nthawi yoti mukhale ndi mlangizi, wazamisala, kapena mtsogoleri wachipembedzo wokonzeka bwino.
Mukamalankhula ndi zosowa mumtima, machiritso amatha kuyamba m'miyoyo yathu.
Ndife ogonana, obadwa nawo olimbirana chifukwa chogonana komanso kubereka. Kugonana ndi mphatso yokongola komanso yopindulitsa.
Koma pamene kugonana kwasokoneza maubale athu, malonjezo athu, ndi thanzi lathu lamaganizidwe / thupi, tifunika kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuwona ngati tikuwonetsa zizolowezi zakugonana.
Pali thandizo ngati muli ndi vuto logonana. Anthu osamala monga aphungu, atsogoleri auzimu, ndi abwenzi odalirika nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kuthana ndi mavuto anu kuti akupatseni chitsogozo komanso chithandizo chabwino.
Yesetsani kuzindikira nokha zizolowezi zakugonana.
Nenani nkhani yanu kwa anthu ofunitsitsa komanso okonzeka kukuthandizani. Konzekerani kulola kuti mafunde akuchiritseni akhale olemetsa m'moyo wanu.