Wokwatiwa wachichepere. Ndiye kulephera. Ndiko kulingalira kwakukulu eti? Makamaka mukawonjezera msomali wowonjezera m'bokosi. Kukwatira wachichepere kwa winawake mu wankhondo. Ndiye lephera. Imeneyi ndi njira yomwe maukwati achichepere ambiri amapita koma sizowona nthawi zonse. Maukwati achichepere achichepere amatha kuchita zambiri kuposa kungopulumuka, atha kuchita bwino ndikuyimilira nthawi yayitali ngati banja lina lililonse. Amatha kukhala olimba komanso oyandikira kuposa maukwati ena. Izi ndi zina mwazinthu zomwe simukudziwa zakukwatiwa ndi atsikana achichepere:
1.Mumakulira limodzi. Mukakwatirana achichepere asitikali ngati mukufuna kuti igwire, muli ndi chisankho chimodzi ndikusankha chimodzi chokha ndiye kutero kukula, kukula msanga. Kukhwima kumatha kukhala ndi zowawa zokula, makamaka ngati zenizeni za kutumizidwa kangapo ndikusunthika zimayambira, koma chinthu chamatsenga ndikuti mukawapulumuka mumakulira limodzi, ndikupanga ubale wapadera womwe umakufikitsani pafupi. Ndi angati ena okwatirana omwe amati amakulira limodzi?
2. Mukudziwa zomwe anthu akunena. Kukwatirana ndi achichepere sikungakupangitseni kukhala osazindikira padziko lonse lapansi. Mukudziwa kuti pali ena omwe amanyoza kukula kwa kudzipereka kwanu kumbuyo kwanu ndikukutsutsani. Mukudziwa kukwatiwa ndi achichepere kumawoneka ngati kwamisala, ndimisala pang'ono, koma chomwechonso chikondi chanu kwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo zimangokupangitsani kutsimikiza mtima kupitilira.
3. Ymukudziwa kuti musintha. Simuli opusa ... Ok, mwina ndinu osadziwa pang'ono; mumayenera kukhala osazindikira pang'ono komanso maso a nyenyezi kuti mukwatire msinkhu uliwonse. Koma mukudziwa kuti nonse mudzasintha pazaka zonsezi. Anthu amasintha nthawi zonse, makamaka akadali achichepere, ndipo kukwatira achichepere sikuyimitsa izi, chifukwa chake mumangophunzira kusintha limodzi.
4. Mumakhala ndi zosangalatsa zambiri. Zaka makumi awiri zoyambirira zikuyenera kukhala zaka zosangalatsa kwambiri, zopusa kwambiri m'moyo wanu. Kukwatirana ndi achichepere sikuyimitsa izi. Mumapitabe kunja, mumamwabe pang'ono nthawi zina, mumangodziwa omwe mudzapite nawo kunyumba kumapeto kwa usiku.
5. Kungakhale kovuta. Nthawi zina zonse zomwe akunena zakukwatiwa ndi anyamata achichepere zimakhala zowona. Kungakhale kovuta. Simukudziwa zomwe mukuchita. Nthawi zina zimawoneka zosatheka. Koma mumachikoka pamodzi ndikudutsamo nthawi imeneyo chifukwa mumakonda wokondedwa wanu kwambiri kotero kuti mudakwatirana nawo mosayembekezereka ndipo mwatsimikiza mtima kuthana ndi mavuto amenewo.
6. Inu muli mmenemo kuti mupambane. Kukwatira wachinyamata kunkhondo ndikopenga pang'ono, koma chikondi chako kwa mnzako. Munakwatirana nawo mudakali achichepere chifukwa mumafuna kukula nawo, mumafuna kulimbana nawo, ndipo mumafuna kuti tsiku lililonse pamoyo wanu wonse mukhale nawo. Mwinamwake mwakwatirana muli achichepere, koma inu muli mu izo kwa nthawi yayitali.
Ashley Frisch
Ashley ndi msungwana waku California, wobadwira ndikuleredwa ku San Diego, California. Ndi Paralegal masana ndipo amalakalaka kulemba usiku. Amakhalanso sabata limodzi pamwezi akudzipereka ku Habitat for Humanity, zomwe amakhulupirira. Amakwatirana ndi amuna awo, omwe ndi a Navy, atakhala pachibwenzi zaka 7 ku 2014. Pakadali pano amakhala ku California ndi ziwopsezo zawo komanso wotsekemera kwambiri wagolide.