Zamkati
- 1. Khazikitsani ziyembekezo zanu momveka bwino
- 2. Fotokozani cholinga
- 3. Khazikitsani nthawi yoyenera
- 4. Kudzisamalira
- 5. Dziwani zomwe mungasankhe
- 6. Muzimasuka ndi ana anu
Maukwati mwachilengedwe amachepa; ndichinthu chimodzi chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikubwera ndi gawo.
Chowonadi chovuta cha nkhaniyi ndichakuti, ngakhale maukwati amakhala ndi nyengo zabwino, nyengo zoyipa zimabuka.
Tsoka ilo, nthawi zina nyengo zoyipa zimatenga nthawi yayitali, ndipo nyengozi zikapitirira, banja limadzipeza lili pamphambano, ndipo kulekana kumatha kubwera pomwepo.
Kupulumuka kupatukana ndiukwati kumakhala kovuta kuyenda, koma ndi malangizowa ndi upangiri wotsalira wopatukana m'nkhaniyi, ndikhulupilira kuti zithandizira kuthana ndi mavuto anu.
1. Khazikitsani ziyembekezo zanu momveka bwino
Banja likaganiza zopita patsogolo ndi kupatukana, ndikofunikira kwambiri kulumikizana zomwe zikutanthauza ndi momwe zimawonekera kwa onse awiri.
Kusamalira kupatukana kwaukwati, mukuyenera dziwani malamulo oyenera kukhazikitsidwa, monga ngati chibwenzi cha anthu ena chiloledwa kapena ayi (Ndikulangiza mwamphamvu kuti mupewe izi mpaka chisankho chokomera banja lanu).
Ndi kangati mumayembekezera kulankhulana, maudindo azachuma ndi zina zambiri.
Pamapeto pake, polimbana ndi kupatukana, lembani madera onse omwe angathandize kukhalabe odalirika komanso osawopseza banja. Malire amagwirizananso kwambiri ndikukhazikitsa zoyembekeza zomveka komanso zomveka.
2. Fotokozani cholinga
Pomwe chisankho chapangidwa kuti apatukane, ndikofunikira kufotokozera cholinga chomaliza cha kulekana. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kupatukana ndi njira yopezera zofunika pamoyo; komabe, sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse.
Kulekana kumachitika chifukwa chakuwonanso ukwatiwo. Banja likafika poti ladzipatula, zitha kukhala chifukwa cha kusintha kwamphamvu kapena china chake chasokonekera.
Ndi izi, wokwatirana kapena onse awiri angafunike kutenga mphindi kuti atuluke kunja kwa banja kuti awone ngati zinthu zingabwezeretsedwe kapena ayi, ndipo ngati onse awiri akufuna kulingalira.
Maganizo ena, Mabanja atha kusankha kupatukana ndi cholinga chodzipangira okha ndi cholinga chofuna kukonzanso banja lawo.
Izi zitha kukhala upangiri waumwini, kutenga nthawi kuti musangalale ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda, ndikudzipatsa nokha chikondi chomwe mukusowa, komanso kupatula nthawi yokomera banja, mwina kudzera muupangiri wapabanja.
Kaya zifukwa zopatukana ndi zotani, onetsetsani kuti mukufotokozera zolinga zenizeni zaukwati zopulumuka kupatukana.
3. Khazikitsani nthawi yoyenera
Pali zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zomwe maanja amasankha kupatukana, koma mosaganizira chifukwa chake, nthawi yakumapeto iyenera kuwonetsedwa.
Nthawi zina chifukwa chakulekana kungakhale komwe kumawunikira nthawi yeniyeni, koma sibwino kutulutsa kupatukana ngakhale atakhala ndi cholinga chotani.
Ndawona ndikukumana ndi kupatukana komwe kunatenga nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Izi sizongokhala "kuzipendeketsa"; Kulekana ndi nkhani yofunika kwambiri ndipo kumafuna kumvetsetsa kutalika kwake.
Ndiye, bwanji kuthana ndi kupatukana? Ndipo zoyenera kuchita kuti mupulumuke kupatukana?
Pongoyambira, tulutsani malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro kuti muthe kumvana zomwe zingagwire ntchito kwa inu ndi mnzanu.
Ngati mukufuna kufunsa wina kuti athandizire pantchitoyi, ndikupemphani kuti mupite nawo.
Wachitatu wothandizidwa atha kukhala ndi othandizira, wodalirika wochokera kutchalitchi (mwachitsanzo, m'busa), mkhalapakati, ndipo, ngati kuli kofunikira, loya.
4. Kudzisamalira
Panokha, kupulumuka kupatukana ndi kovuta, ndipo masiku ena, mwina simukudziwa momwe mupitilira, koma mudzatero! Pangani nthawi yanu ndikudzipatsa chisomo chomwe mukufunikira kuti mupirire tsiku lililonse.
Padzakhala nthawi yomwe mudzakhale achisoni, ndipo zimatha kukugwerani modzidzimutsa, koma zikadzachitika, zipatseni chilolezo kuti mumve. Gwiritsani ntchito kutengeka kulikonse ndikuganizira upangiri kuti muthandizire njira zothanirana ndi mavutowa.
Kuti mupulumuke kupatukana, dzisamalireni, onetsetsani kuti mukudya bwino, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi momwe mungathere, kuzungulira ndi anthu othandizira, ndikuchita nawo zinthu zomwe zimakupatsani mtendere ndi chisangalalo.
5. Dziwani zomwe mungasankhe
Ngati zasankhidwa kuti banja lithe, fufuzani kuti mumvetsetse zosankha zanu.
Itha kukhala nthawi yolingalira zopatukana mwalamulo m'malo mongomvana mwamwayi kapena kupatukana kwamilandu ngati ndi zomwe zidalipo.
Kambiranani ndi mnzanu njira yabwino kwambiri komanso yolemekezera. Funsani zokambirana ngati kuli kofunikira ndipo funsani woyimira milandu woyenerera kuti akupatseni upangiri ndi chidziwitso chokhudza kupatukana kwanu mwalamulo komanso / kapena kusudzulana.
6. Muzimasuka ndi ana anu
Ngati muli ndi ana, kuti muwathandize kuthana ndi kupatukana, muyenera kuwapatsa kumvetsetsa bwino monga zikukhudzira mkhalidwe wanu wapano.
Komabe, kumbukirani zaka ndi msinkhu wakukhwima mukamawapatsa chidziwitso popeza izi zidzatsimikizira kuchuluka kwa zomwe mudzagawane.
Ana aang'ono amafunika kupatsidwa chitetezo, podziwa kuti zosowa zawo zakuthupi ndi zamaganizidwe zidzakwaniritsidwa komanso kuti moyo upitilizabe kukhala wabwinobwino momwe angathere.
Khalani okonzeka kuyankha mafunso aliwonse, kukhala khutu lomvera, ndi kupereka chilimbikitso chachikulu momwe angafunire panthawiyi.
Kuphatikiza apo, ndimachenjeza makolo pakuphatikiza ana pankhondo iliyonse. Ana sayenera kudziwa zokambirana zilizonse zokhudzana ndi banja ndipo musalankhule zoipa za ana anu kapena pamaso pawo.
Kupulumuka kupatukana kungakhale kokhumudwitsa kwambiri; komabe, ngati mwatsimikiza mtima kuti musinthe, ndiye kuti mungapeze njira.