Zamkati
- 1. Sankhani zomwe sizofunika kwa inu
- 2. Tulukani m'malo anu abwino
- 3. Yesetsani kukanidwa
- 4. Siyani zoyembekezera zanu
- 5. Gwiritsani ntchito luso la maubwenzi
Nthawi zambiri ndimagwira ntchito ndi makasitomala ofuna mgwirizano ndi chikondi omwe pamapeto pake amafuna kudziwa momwe angakhalire pachibwenzi.
Ubale umatenga ntchito, nthawi, ndi kudzipereka, koma nthawi zambiri timafufuza yankho mwachangu.
Tili ndi mafunso ambiri okhudzana ndi maubwenzi. “Kodi tichite chiyani muubwenzi?” "Zomwe sitiyenera kuchita muubwenzi." “Ndikufuna chibwenzi chotani?” "Ndikufuna chiyani pachibwenzi?"
Mayankho amafunso am'banja lathu siosavuta monga momwe mafunso amawapangira kuti amveke!
Lingaliro lopeza chikondi cha moyo wanu ndilokondedwa komanso kugulitsidwa, ambiri aife sitimvetsetsa momwe kulowa muubwenzi kumagwirira ntchito.
Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti, ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungayambire chibwenzi, momwe mungadziwire zomwe mukufuna muubwenzi, kapena momwe mungapezere bwenzi, pali zinthu zina zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wathanzi zinachitikira.
1. Sankhani zomwe sizofunika kwa inu
Ngati mumawonera makanema okwanira kapena kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa TV okwanira, mutha kukhulupirira kuti zinthu zina ziyenera kukhalapo mwa mnzanu kapena pachibwenzi.
Kafukufuku wowunika zomwe zimachitika pazama TV pazakuwona kwaubwenzi zanenetsa kuti kumwa makomedwe achikondi kumawonjezera chizolowezi cha munthu kukhala ndi malingaliro olota pamabanja.
Kafukufuku wina adawonetsa kuti kuyerekezera pagulu, kukhumudwa, komanso kukhumudwa ndizotsatira zoyipa zomwe zimachitika pa intaneti pazokondana.
Matupi abwino, tchuthi chapamwamba komanso magalimoto okwera mtengo amawononga zowonekera zathu ndikutipangitsa kukhulupirira kuti zosakaniza ndizofunikira pachibwenzi.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti, amatha kutero koma sayeneranso kutero.
Muyenera kusankha zomwe sizofunika kwa inu pachibwenzi, ngakhale atolankhani kapena anthu ena angakuuzeni. Muyeneranso kusintha malingaliro anu pakapita nthawi!
Yesani kuganizira zomwe mukuyang'ana pachibwenzi ndi mnzanu pompano, kenako dzifunseni chifukwa chomwe mukuzifunira.
Nthawi zina timaganiza kuti china chake ndichofunikira, koma tikadzifunsa chifukwa chake ... sitingapeze chilichonse! Izi zitha kukuthandizani kuti muzuke pazomwe mukufuna, zomwe simukufuna, komanso chifukwa chake zili zofunika kwa inu.
2. Tulukani m'malo anu abwino
“Sindikudziwa momwe ndingakhalire pachibwenzi!” Kodi mudaganizapo za izi posachedwa? Ngati ndi choncho, kuopa zosadziwika mwina kungakulepheretseni kupeza kapena kuyamba chibwenzi.
Koma, palibe njira yoyenera yoti mukhale pachibwenzi.
Ubale uliwonse ndi wosiyana, chifukwa anthu omwe ali mmenemo ndi osiyana, nawonso. M'malo modandaula za momwe ungapezere chibwenzi kapena momwe maubwenzi angayambire, tuluka kunja uko ndikuyese!
Kutuluka m'dera lanu labwino ndikukumana ndi anthu, kufunsa zomwe mukufuna, ndikusuntha ndiye njira yodziwira mayankho a mafunso anu.
Ngati mukukhudzidwa kuti mutha kukanidwa, werengani maupangiri pakuwongolera zomwe zingachitike (ndipo mwina) zotsatira zake.
3. Yesetsani kukanidwa
Kukanidwa kuli kowopsa. Timadzifotokozera tokha mitundu yonse yazomwe zimafotokozera chifukwa chake wina amatikana, kenako timakhala owopsa.
Chowonadi nchakuti, nkhani zambiri zomwe tikudziuza tokha ndizabodza ndipo sizakhazikika pa umboni weniweni.
Sitifunsa winawake chifukwa chake amatiuza ayi, kapena akutikana. Chifukwa chake, sitimapeza yankho lenileni.
M'malo mwake, timakhala ndi nkhawa, timaganiza kuti sitili okongola / owonda / anzeru / opambana mokwanira, ndikubisala pachikondi.
Nanga bwanji ngati wina akunena kuti alibe chidwi chifukwa chongoti achoka pachibwenzi kapena zachitika zoopsa pamoyo wawo? Nanga bwanji ngati nawonso akuganiza kuti sali okwanira ndipo amapewa kudzivulaza?
Sitimaganizira kuti munthu winayo ali ndi zifukwa zomveka zomwe sizikugwirizana nafe.
Kuti muchite bwino kuthana ndi kukanidwa, mutha kuyesa kudzipangira nokha kukanidwa mwadala. Izi zitha kumveka ngati zopenga, koma njira yokhayo yosangalalira ndi zinazake ndi kuzichita nthawi zambiri.
Onerani kanemayu pa Masiku 100 Akukanidwa m'njira zina zaluso zogwiritsa ntchito maluso amoyo ofunikirawa!
4. Siyani zoyembekezera zanu
Sosaiti, ndi zikhulupiriro zathu, zatikhazikitsa ndi chiyembekezo chokhudzana ndi maubwenzi ndi abwenzi. Timakhulupirira kuti zinthu zambiri "ziyenera" kapena "ziyenera" kuchitika kuti tipeze chikondi.
Gawo la kuphunzira kukhala pachibwenzi ndikuzindikira zomwe akuyembekeza ndikuzisiya.
Ngati muwona kuti muli ndi mafunso ndi malingaliro omwe akusonyeza kuti chibwenzi chiyenera kupita kwina, zindikirani ndikudzifunsa chifukwa chake izi ziyenera kukhala zowona?
Mafunso onga akuti "Zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti ukonde wina" mwachitsanzo, alibe mayankho enieni ndikupanga zoyembekezera komanso miyezo yomwe nthawi zambiri imakhumudwitsa.
Ndagwira ntchito ndi makasitomala omwe adakondana m'masiku ochepa, pomwe ena adatenga zaka. Palibe ubale wabwino kapena woyipa kuposa winayo. Ndiosiyana kotheratu koma athanzi.
M'malo moyang'ana pazomwe ziyenera kuchitika, yesetsani kudzionetsera pazomwe zikuchitika ndikuwona momwe akumvera m'malo mwake. Ngati mukusangalala ndi komwe muli, lolani kuti ikutsogolereni komwe mukufuna kukhala!
5. Gwiritsani ntchito luso la maubwenzi
Kaya muli pachibwenzi kapena ayi, kukhala ndi maluso oyanjana pansi pa lamba wanu kumatha kukulitsa luso lanu ndikupambana.
Kudziwa momwe mungalumikizirane ndi mnzanu, kumvetsera, ndikukangana mwachifundo ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino.
Nazi zina mwa maluso ofunikira kwambiri pakumanga maubwenzi oti muganizire zowonjezerapo zida zanu “momwe mungakhalire paubwenzi”:
- Kulankhulana (Mumalankhula zazinthu zikamabwera, kuphatikiza momwe akumvera, mantha, ndi malingaliro.)
- Kumvetsera mwachidwi (Mutha kumvera zomwe mnzanu akunena, zindikirani chilankhulo chawo komanso kamvekedwe kake, ndipo samangomvera kuti mumangoyankha ndi malingaliro anu.)
- Kutenga malingaliro ndi Chisoni (Mumabwerera m'mbuyo ndikuyesa kumvetsetsa momwe munthu winayo akumvera ngakhale simukuvomereza chifukwa chomwe akumvera choncho)
- Chidwi (Mumafunsa mafunso kuti mumvetsetse m'malo mongoyesa kumva uthenga wanu. Mumayesetsa kuti musakangane, koma kuti muwone bwino chifukwa chomwe mnzanu akumvera momwe akumvera.)
- Kuopsezedwa (Ndinu owona, wowona mtima ndipo mumagawana zinthu ngakhale zitakhala zowopsa. Izi zimathandiza kuti pakhale chidaliro)
- Kudziletsa nokha (Mutha kuthana ndi nkhawa zanu, ndipo yesetsani kuti musayike nkhawa zanu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Mumakhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa ndipo simufunsa mnzanu kuti akuchitireni zomwezo.)