Zamkati
- Pamodzi ndi malo abwino kukhalamo!
- Lumikizanani nokha, choyamba!
- Sankhani malingaliro anu amkati
- Kambiranani!
- Tsegulani zitseko zaubwenzi
- Dina kukondetsa chuma
- Chidole chachikondi
Tikamayankhula zopanga ubale wabwino, chikondi ndiye chinthu choyamba chomwe chimabwera m'maganizo mwathu. Chowonadi chiyenera kunenedwa, popanda chikondi, chinsinsi cha ubale wokongola sichokwanira.
Pakadali pano pali mitundu yambiri yosonyezera chikondi, yomwe njira zogonana sizinachitikepo. Chikhumbo choyaka moto cha wina ndi mnzake, chidwi chofufuza ubalewo ndikukulitsa tsogolo kumadza ndi kugonana koyenera pakati pa anzawo.
Zowona: Azimayi 62 pa 100 aliwonse adavomereza kuti sakukondwa mmoyo wawo wogonana!
Koma mumamanga bwanji ubale wogonana? Kodi ndi bodza chabe?
Chabwino, ngati mukuwunikira kuti 'ndingakulitse bwanji chibwenzi changa' ndikufunafuna maupangiri abwino ogonana pachibwenzi, kulumikizana, kumasula chinsinsi, monga mukuwerenga pansipa.
Pamodzi ndi malo abwino kukhalamo!
Kugonana mwachikondi sindiko komwe kumatsatiridwa mwachilakolako. Popanda kuchuluka kwa zogonana, kupanga chikondi kumangokhala kopanda tanthauzo.
Malangizo asanu odabwitsawa olumikizirana nthawi yakugonana sikungokuwongolerani kuti mutsegule chinsinsi chogonana mosangalala komanso kutsegulira njira yolumikizirana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Lumikizanani nokha, choyamba!
Monga akulu, nthawi zambiri timaletsedwa ndi ntchito ndi maudindo athu mosalekeza. Pakati pa kusamalira ana athu, kukonza mapulani amtsogolo pantchito, komanso kuthana ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku, timadzitayitsa tokha.
Zotsatira zake, sitimakumbukira kulumikizana ndi ife tisanatilimbikitse kuti tizilumikizana ndi ena. M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wina adati azimayi 80 pa 100 aliwonse amawonera thanzi lawo pamapeto pazomwe amafunikira.
Khalani ndi nkhawa kumbuyo - phunzirani Yoga komanso kusinkhasinkha, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mulumikizane ndi zakunja kwanu. Potsirizira pake, mtendere wakuya ndi nyonga zabwino zidzafika panjira yanu.
Kuyesera kuthana ndi malingaliro anu ndi njira ina yabwino yopezera kulumikizana nanu.
Poyeserera kuti mufufuze nokha, mumakumbatira momwe muli, mumaganizira momwe mumamvera, ndikupanga ubale wapamtima nanu kwambiri kuposa kale.
Sankhani malingaliro anu amkati
Othandizana nawo nthawi zambiri amasangalala kukhala limodzi atabisala m'malo awo otetezeka. Ngakhale malo otetezedwawa amakhala athanzi, salola kuti kukhudzika ndi mantha zizidziwikitse ndikusintha.
Musanakhale ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana ndi mnzanu, muyenera kudziwa momwe mumamvera mumtima mwanu ndikuchoka kwakanthawi kwakanthawi.
Gawani zofooka zanu. Aloleni alowe mu moyo wanu ndi kulumikizana nawo kuti amange nyumba yabwino. Landirani mbali zanu zamdima patsogolo pawo, ndipo aloleni kuti azilankhulana nanu.
Mukamayanjana ndi wokondedwa wanu kuti mufufuze bwinobwino zomwe mukukambirana, mukuthandiza ubale wowona kuti ukhale wamoyo womwe uyambe kuwonekera pakama.
Kambiranani!
Kusamvana, kudzimva osatetezeka, ndi mikangano ndizofala pamgwirizano uliwonse. Ngakhale kukangana nthawi zonse sikuli chizindikiro chabwino, kusalola malingaliro anu pachibwenzi kungakhale kovulaza chimodzimodzi.
Kaya ndi za momwe simukukondera ndi momwe amalankhulira nanu, kapena chifukwa choti iwo akumadzikayikira za bwenzi lanu lapamtima, kambiranani!
Kuyankhulana ndi gawo lofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse. Kupyolera muzokambirana, malo aliwonse osamvetsetsana amathetsedwa mwachidule chala.
Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zonse amalimbikitsidwa kuti okwatirana azilankhulana wina ndi mnzake pankhani zomwe zimakukhudzani nonse.
Khalani oleza mtima pochita zinthu ndi anzanu. Onetsetsani kuti pamene wokondedwa wanu akulankhula momasuka, mumawamvetsera mwatcheru kuti mufike ku magwero a vutolo.
"Kulankhulana kuli ngati kugonana kwa malingaliro, ndipo kuti matupi anu azivina mogwirizana, malingaliro anu ayeneranso," akutero Dr. Ak Jain.
Tsegulani zitseko zaubwenzi
Kugonana sicholinga chofunikira kwambiri pachibwenzi chanu. Ngakhale anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kugona bwino pabedi ndikokwanira, amalephera kuwona kufunikira kwa chinthu chozama kwambiri.
Kugonana kumakula mukamatambasulira manja anu kwa wokondedwa wanu ndi chidaliro, kukhulupirika, komanso kutonthozedwa. Kulandila ndi malo pomwe chiweruzo chidatsekedwa ndi zinthu ziwiri zofunika kwambiri zomwe timayembekezera pomwe tikufuna kuvula pamaso pa munthu amene timamukonda.
Onetsetsani kuti kupatula zokopa zakuthupi, mumalola zinthu zoyipa izi kuti zilowe mchipinda mwanu kuti mumve bwino.
Lolani izi zikhale ndi mphamvu zowonjezera m'chipinda chogona, zimapangitsa kuti pakhale kumvana pakati pawo, ndikulimbikitsa chidwi chofufuzirana bwino.
Umu ndi momwe mungayendetsere pafupi ndikupanga kulumikizana kozama pachibwenzi chanu.
Dina kukondetsa chuma
Imodzi mwa njira zoyambira kukulitsa kulumikizana ndi mnzanu ndikuti muyenera kuchotseratu mchitidwe wogonana wokondetsa.
Kaya mukudandaula za kugonana kwanu kapena nthawi yogonana, onetsetsani kuti cholinga chanu chachikulu ndikusangalala ndi kukhala limodzi ndi kupangaubwenzi.
Lolani mnzanuyo kuti atuluke ku zovuta zawo zakukuchitirani bwino pabedi kwa inu. Athandizeni kuti azidziona kuti ndi ofunika komanso kuti azikumbatira zolakwa za anzawo.
Imirirani poyerekeza kuti mudzakondana ndi chikondi chawo kwa inu m'malo mochita kwawo m'chipinda chogona.
Mukamawonetsa malingaliro abwino achipinda chogona, mnzanu alimbikitsidwa kuti abwerere ku mphamvu yomwe mumapereka.
Chidole chachikondi
Kukulitsa kulumikizana kwakugonana m'banja lanu ndikofunikira kwambiri.
Sikuti imangolimbikitsa ubale wabwino koma imathandizanso anthu omwe ali ndi zibwenzi kuthana ndi mavuto pakati pawo ndikukhulupirirana wina ndi mnzake kwamuyaya.
Chifukwa chake, imodzi mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zobwezeretsanso umunthu wakugonana ndikukweza ubale wanu ndi chidole chachikondi!