Zamkati
- 1. Kugwiritsa ntchito mphatso monga zomangira
- 2. Kudalira maupangiri ngati njira yabwino yolankhulirana
- 3. Kusokoneza chibwenzi
- 4. Khalidwe lokakamira chabe
- 5. Tit for tat
- 6. Kulephera kutenga udindo wachimwemwe chanu
- Kutengera kunyumba
Pokhapokha mutakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi makolo omwe analinso ndi ubale wabwino, ndikupanga mfundo yakukuphunzitsani ndikuwonetsani zanzeru zamalondazo, mwachidziwikire mumayenera kupita nokha. Komabe, "kungozilimbitsa" nthawi zonse kumakhala njira yocheperako yophunzirira china chofunikira komanso chomwe chingasinthe moyo monga maluso abwenzi.
Pali zikhalidwe zingapo zomwe mabanja ambiri amatengera muubwenzi wawo momwe iwo alili kuwonekera kuti akhale othandiza poyamba, koma osati kumapeto. M'malo mwake, akatswiri ambiri azamaubwenzi angakuwuzeni kuti machitidwe ofalawa ndiomwe amakhala osayanjanitsika omwe maanja akuganiza kuti ndi ovomerezeka.
Chiyanjanochi chimapangitsa kuti pakhale chisokonezo poyambapo koma, pamapeto pake chimapweteketsa ubale komanso kutalika kwa ubalewo pamapeto pake. Zimatumikira cholinga chokupangitsani kuti mumve bwino munthawi yochepa, pakuwononga ubale wanu.
Chifukwa chake, ndalemba mndandanda wazinthu zisanu ndi chimodzi zoyipa kwambiri zoyanjana zomwe zimayenda komanso zolakwitsa zomwe maanja amapanga zomwe muyenera kuzipewa.
1. Kugwiritsa ntchito mphatso monga zomangira
Anthu ena omwe amatchedwa "chilankhulo chachikondi" alandila mphatso, koma sizomwe tikunena pano. Kugwiritsa ntchito mphatso ngati njira yosonyezera chikondi kapena kuyamika komwe muli nako kwa mnzanu, zili bwino. M'malo mwake, amalimbikitsidwa.
Komabe, kugwiritsa ntchito mphatso ngati Band-Aid kubisa kapena kukonza zolakwa, zolakwa, kapena chinyengo, sichoncho.
Kutenga mnzanu kupita kutchuthi kotentha chifukwa choti munagwidwa mukubera kumangowononga ubale wanu. Kumulola kuti agone nanu chifukwa adakukwiyirani chifukwa cholola amayi anu kuti azingokhala osakambirana zitha kubweretsa mavuto ena kumapeto.
Chowonadi ndichakuti kubisa nkhani zaubwenzi ndi ndalama, zosangalatsa zosangalatsa, kapena zachiwerewere sikukhalitsa. Vuto lomwelo limabweranso pamapeto pake, limangolimba pang'ono nthawi ina.
2. Kudalira maupangiri ngati njira yabwino yolankhulirana
Ndizodabwitsa kuti polankhula zonse zakufunika kwakuti "kulumikizana" ndikofunika muubwenzi, maanja ambiri sachita bwino kwenikweni. Chomwe chiri chosangalatsa kwambiri, muzochitika zanga, ndikuti m'malo mophunzira njira zoyankhulirana zogwirira ntchito kuti apeze zomwe akufuna, maanja amasankha zomwe sizothandiza kwenikweni, monga kuwonetsa.
Onani, nthawi zina, mnzanu sangapeze uthengawu pazifukwa zilizonse, ndipo zili bwino. Koma, zomwe sizothandiza konse, kodi mukusiya malingaliro m'malo momangofotokoza zomwe mukufuna. Tengani udindo pazosowa zanu ndikufotokoza momveka bwino. Mwanjira imeneyi, mumakhala ndi mwayi wopeza zosowa zanu.
3. Kusokoneza chibwenzi
Izi ndizofala kwambiri komanso ndizowopsa kwambiri kuubwenzi uliwonse. Ndi anthu osatetezeka okha okha omwe angalekerere njirayi kwa nthawi yayitali.
Mukawopseza ubale ngati njira yopezera zomwe mukufuna, mumasokoneza ubalewo. Zimadziwitsa winayo kuti sangachite chilichonse cholakwika popanda kuwasiya.
Kugwiritsa ntchito sewero kuti mupeze njira yanu kumangokulitsa kukula ndi kuchuluka kwa sewero mumgwirizano wonse. Mutha kupeza njira yanu munthawi yochepa, koma pali mtengo waukulu wolipira.
4. Khalidwe lokakamira chabe
Iyi ndi njira ina yotsatsira, malingaliro ake okha ndi omwe samamveka bwino, ndipo mukumulanga mnzake munthawiyo. Khalani omuganizira komanso olimba mtima mokwanira kuti auze mnzanu zomwe mukufuna. Kulanga mnzanu pansi pa radar sikungakhale kopambana monga mukuganizira ndipo mwina mudzalandira chithandizo chomwecho posachedwa.
5. Tit for tat
Mumamudziwa uyu. Mudakhumudwa posapita nawo kuntchito yake yomaliza, chifukwa chake amagwiritsa ntchito ichi ngati chodzikhululukira chodyera mkalasi ndi banja lanu. Mverani, nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito zomwe zidachitika ndi mnzanu ngati chowiringula kuti musamachite bwino nokha, kusungika nthawi zonse kumakhala chifukwa.
Zolankhulidwazo ndizowona. Kusunga zabwino zomwe mumachita ndikukana kuchitira mnzanu chilichonse kufikira atakwanitsa kulemba sikungapangitse malo olimbikitsa kukula kwa maubwenzi, kukwiya kokha.
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6. Kulephera kutenga udindo wachimwemwe chanu
Kodi mumaimba mlandu mnzanu chifukwa chosakupangitsani kukhala osangalala? Kodi mumamuimba mlandu mnzanu chifukwa chakukhumudwa kwanu? Ngati apita ndi abwenzi ake usiku umodzi mtawuniyi, kodi mumamunyoza ndikumunena kuti wakupweteketsani? Ichi ndi chitsanzo chabwino chodalira.
Maganizo anu ndiudindo wanu. Maganizo a mnzanu ndiudindo wawo.
Kutengera kunyumba
Pewani kugwiritsa ntchito omwe amapha maubale.
Mvetsetsani kuti mnzanuyo ndiwanthu, ndipo ndiwotheka, monganso inu.
Patsani mnzanu chisomo, muchepetse pang'ono, ndikudzitengera nokha udindo komanso zomwe mudzabweretse patebulo.