Zamkati
- Chikondi chosasinthika tanthauzo
- Sizachikondi monga momwe mungaganizire
- Kodi mungatani ndi chikondi chomwe sichinaperekedwe?
- Dzifunseni ngati iyi ndi njira yachikondi chosafunsidwa
- Zochita zolimbitsa chikondi chomwe sichinapemphedwe
- Dzichotseni nokha
- Pitani pachibwenzi ndi wina watsopano
Kodi chikondi chosafunsidwa ndi chiyani?
Ngati chikondi chanu sichimawoneka, kumvetsetsa ndikubwezeredwa ndi amene mumamukonda ndicho chikondi chosaneneka. Ndi imodzi mwamakanema otchuka kwambiri aku Hollywood, ndipo chilichonse chomwe tonsefe tidakumana nacho kamodzi m'moyo wathu.
Mukudziwa kumverera, sichoncho?
Zomwe mumakonda, maloto anu, malingaliro anu, chabwino, samamvanso chimodzimodzi za inu. "Ndimakukonda, koma monga bwenzi," ikhoza kukhala yankho lomvetsa chisoni kwambiri lomwe mungamvepo polengeza za chikondi chanu kwa munthu amene mwakhala mukumulakalaka.
Zowawa za chikondi chosafunsidwacho ndi zopweteka ndipo kupitilira chikondi chosafunsidwacho ndi ntchito yokwera.
Kuti timvetsetse chifukwa chomwe chikondi chosalembedwera chimapweteka kwambiri, tiyeni tiwone zonse zomwe zili pamutuwu ndi maupangiri amomwe mungathetsere chikondi chosafunsidwacho.
Chikondi chosasinthika tanthauzo
Wikipedia imanena bwino kuti: "Chikondi chosafunsidwa ndi chikondi chomwe sichibwezeredwa poyera kapena kumvetsetsa motero ndi wokondedwa. Wokondedwayo sangadziwe za chikondi chachikulu komanso chosiririka cha wokondedwayo, kapenanso akhoza kuchikana. ”
Mwanjira ina, chikondi chosafunsidwa chili ngati msewu wopita ku mzinda wachikondi. Pali njira imodzi yokha.
Tangoganizirani ngati mutakhala masiku ambiri mukuyenda modutsa mumzinda chonchi? Ndizokhumudwitsa, sichoncho?
Sizachikondi monga momwe mungaganizire
Chikhalidwe chodziwika bwino chimapereka chithunzi chodzaza ndi kukondana cha chikondi chosafunsidwacho, kuyambira pomwe wokondedwayo amamukonda.
Nyimbo ngati Adele's Another Like You, makanema onga Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, ndi nthabwala zachikale Peanuts-mukukumbukira Charlie Brown akulakalaka msungwana watsitsi wofiirayo? kuti azikondedwa ndi chinthu chomwe amadzikonzera.
Koma malingaliro amtunduwu awa samakhala wokonda wokondwa.
Kukhala ndi moyo wokonda kwambiri munthu amene samabweza izi ndikumva chisoni komanso kusungulumwa.
Zinthu sizimatha ngati mu kanema, okondedwa mwadzidzidzi amabwera kuzikumbukira ndikuzindikira kuti amakonda munthu winayo nthawi yonseyi.
Tisanalowerere mozama kuti titha kuthana ndi zowawa za chikondi chomwe sichinapemphedwe, mawu oti tingakhale achikondi chosafunsidwanso.
Chikondi chammbali chimodzi muukwati kapena ubale komwe inu ndinu wokana zingathenso kuyambitsa zowawa zambiri ndi zowawa.
Zowawa za chikondi chosafunsidwa muukwati kapena ubale chimamukhudzanso wokanayo. Wokana nthawi zonse amadzimva kuti ndi wolakwa komanso wokhumudwa posokoneza chiyembekezo cha wokondedwayo.
Amangoyang'ana njira zaulemu zowakanira poyesera kusunga ulemu wa wokondedwayo.
Kodi mungatani ndi chikondi chomwe sichinaperekedwe?
Chifukwa chake, mungathane bwanji ndi chikondi chosafunsidwa? Nayi malangizo ofunikira kwambiri achikondi.
Choyamba, kusunthira kusiya chikondi chomwe simukufuna kukupemphani kuti muzindikire kuti simuli nokha.
Ambiri aife tidamvapo kuwawa kwa chikondi chamunthu nthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu.
Pali mabwalo ambiri omwe atchulidwa pa nkhaniyi, ndipo mwina zingakupindulitseni kuti muwerenge ena mwa iwo, kuti mudziwe kuti vuto lanu ndilofala.
Chifukwa chake khalani odekha nanu ngati mukufuna kuthana ndi ululu wosakondweretsedwawo.
Mutha kugwiritsanso ntchito zowawa izi pazolinga zaluso: lembani ndakatulo, nyimbo, nkhani yayifupi, kapena kujambula chithunzi. Zonsezi zidzakhala zachikatolika kwa inu ndikuthandizani "kutuluka".
Dzifunseni ngati iyi ndi njira yachikondi chosafunsidwa
Kodi ndinu munthu amene nthawi zambiri mumakumana ndi zowawa za chikondi chokha?
Zingakhale kuti mumadziika pamalo otere mwadala. Izi zimamveka ngati zosagwirizana, koma zimakhala ndi cholinga kwa munthu amene amapewa chikondi.
M'malo moika pachiwopsezo cha zotheka zomwe nthawi zina zimatha kubwera ndi ubale wachikondi, amapitilizabe kufunafuna zomwe zili mbali imodzi kuti asakhale ndi mwayi wopanga ubale wothandizadi, potero amapewa "kuchita zenizeni" ndi onse zokwera ndi zotsika zomwe zikutanthauza.
Mukawona kuti mukupitilizabe kuchita izi, kungakhale kopindulitsa kuti mugwire ntchito ndi wothandizira woyenera.
Cholinga chanu? Kuleka kuchita zosapindulitsa, ndikuphunzira momwe mungakhalire ndiubwenzi wathanzi.
Zochita zolimbitsa chikondi chomwe sichinapemphedwe
Zambiri zomwe zimakulitsa chikondi chosafunsidwa chili m'mutu mwanu.
Mwanjira ina, mumapanga nkhani ya "ife" popanda chidziwitso chenicheni.
Mwanjira imeneyi, chikondi chomwe mumamverera ndichopanda pake, chosangalatsa mnzake. Njira yabwino yothetsera izi ndikuti mumudziwe bwino munthu amene mwamukondererayo.
Ndichoncho.
Mukufuna kutuluka m'moyo wanu wamaloto za iwo ndikuwadziwa monga anthu anzanu.
Kudziwa umunthu wawo wonse, ndi zofooka zonse ndi zizolowezi zoyipa zomwe tonsefe tili nazo zingakuthandizeni kuthana ndi chikondi chamtundu umodzi chomwe mukukhala ndikusandutsa china chilichonse tsiku lililonse.
Mudzazindikira kuti chinthu chomwe mukupembedzachi sichabwino, ndipo chidzakubweretsani pansi.
Onaninso:
Dzichotseni nokha
Njira yabwino yosiya kuganizira za izi ndikuchita zina, zopindulitsa komanso zowotcha mphamvu.
Chotsatira cha izi?
Mutha kukumana ndi munthu wina pomwe mukuchita masewera, kuphunzira luso latsopano, kapena kudzipereka mdera lanu.
Wina amene amakukondani, nawonso. Wina yemwe amagawana chidwi chomwe chidabweretsa nonse awiri.
Kenako tsazani chikondi chosasinthidwa, moni, chenicheni, chikondi chathunthu!
Pitani pachibwenzi ndi wina watsopano
Ngati mwatsatira malangizo omwe ali pamwambapa ndipo mudakumana ndi munthu wina kunja ndi kwina, kudzidodometsa, onetsani kulimba mtima kwanu ndi kuwafunsa tsiku.
Sichiyenera kukhala china chilichonse chovomerezeka, mutha kungowafunsa kuti mupite nawo khofi koma zingakupatseni mwayi wokhala ndi konkriti nthawi ndi munthuyu.
Izi ndizofunikira kuti muwadziwe bwino ngati munthu ndipo zidzakutetezani kuti musabwerezenso njira yokonda mtundu womwe ungakhale nawo womwe umabweretsa chikondi chosasinthika.
Ndipo ngati tsikulo limabweretsa china, izi zikuthandizirani kuthana ndi chikondi chamodzi chomwe chimakupweteketsani kwambiri.