Zamkati
- Kodi kupatukana mwalamulo ndi chiyani?
- Kodi ndizotheka kubwerera ndi wakale?
- Kodi mungabwererenso bwanji mutapatukana?
- Kusunga banja mutapatukana: Patsani kuyanjanitsa mwayi
Chifukwa chake mukufuna kukulitsa mwayi woyanjananso akatha kulekana?
Kupulumuka kupatukana ndi mnzanu sizimachitika mwangozi.
Komabe, anthu omwe amatha kuphunzira momwe angagwirizanitsire banja atapatukana amakhala ndi machitidwe ena kuti awonjezere mwayi wowonetsetsa kuti zinthu zikuyenda bwino m'banjamo.
Kodi kupatukana mwalamulo ndi chiyani?
Mosiyana ndi chisudzulo pomwe awiri amathetsa ukwati, kulekana movomerezeka kumawapatsa mwayi wokhala motalikirana momwe malire azachuma komanso akuthupi amapangidwira.
Kupatukana kwa banja mgwirizano wofotokoza kasamalidwe ka chuma ndi ana umaperekedwa. Anthu oterewa amakhala okwatirana papepala ndipo sangakwatirane.
Njira yosavomerezeka ya izi ndikulekana kwamilandu komwe milandu sinachitike. Nthawi zambiri, kupatukana kuli bwino kuposa kutenga chisudzulo popeza mwayi wakuyanjananso pambuyo poti apatukana ndiwokwera kwambiri.
Kodi ndizotheka kubwerera ndi wakale?
Nthawi ndi nthawi komanso zovuta, maanja ena amatha kuyanjananso patatha nthawi yopatukana.
Ziwerengero zochokera kwa maanja kubwerera limodzi atapatukana zikuwonetsa kuti ngakhale 87% ya maanja amathetsa chibwenzi chawo atatha kupatukana, 13% otsalawo amatha kuyanjanitsa atapatukana.
Kubwereranso pambuyo pa kupatukana ndikuyanjananso ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kutha kwakanthawi kwaukwati kapena kupatukana kwamayesero, ndiye cholinga chachikulu chomwe mabanja ambiri omwe akuyembekezerana akuyembekeza.
Tsiku loti abwerere ndi mkazi wakale likuyandikira, pali mantha ambiri ozungulira kuyanjananso. Uwu ukhoza kukhala womaliza kuthetsa mavuto ofunikira ndikusunthira kuyanjananso ndi mwamunayo.
Kodi anthu apabanja atha kuyanjananso? Kuyanjanitsa positi kulekerera sikuli kungolakalaka chabe, koma kuthekera kokwanira.
Yambani ndi kuwona mtima pomwe mukuganiza zobwereranso pambuyo pa kupatukana. Inu ndi mnzanu muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kuwonetsa moona mtima zomwe zidabweretsa mavuto.
Kaya ndi nkhanza, kusakhulupirika, kuledzera, kapena zina zotero, "makhadi" ayenera kuyikidwa patebulo.
Ngati okwatirana sangakhale achilungamo pazinthu zomwe zimapweteketsa, nanga angayembekezere bwanji kubwera posintha zomwe ziyenera kuchitika kuti zilimbikitse banja?
Mlangizi nthawi zonse amalangizidwa kuti mubwererenso mutapatukana.
Funani nzeru za munthu yemwe adakhalako m'mbuyomu kapena wina woyenera kuti akupatseni zida zomwe zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale owona mtima, masomphenya, komanso kuyanjana kuti muthe kuyanjananso mutasiyana.
Kodi mungabwererenso bwanji mutapatukana?
Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungabwezeretse amuna anu mukatha kupatukana kapena momwe mungabwerenso ndi akazi anu, muyenera kuchitapo kanthu moyenera kuti muwonjeze mwayi wobwerera limodzi, kupulumutsa banja lanu ndikumanganso ubale pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
Mwina chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chobwererana mutapatukana ndikuyika gawo lowonekera bwino muubwenzi. Ngati kudalirana kwasokonekera, kuwonekera poyera ndi mankhwala oyenera.
Kukhala omasukirana pankhani zachuma, zizolowezi zawo, komanso ndandanda zithandizira banjali kuyambiranso kudalirana. Simalingaliro oyipa konse kuganizira za coaching.
Ngati muli ndi anthu ena m'moyo wanu - akatswiri kapena osachita - omwe angawonetsere zoyeserera zoyambirira za anthu, kenako nkumachita nawo.
Kuphatikiza apo, muyeneranso kukhala owona mtima ndikudzifunsa mafunso ovuta. Ganizirani mozama pansipa kuyanjananso pambuyo polekana:
- Mudathetsa chibwenzicho kapena mnzanu? Pa nthawi yopatukana, nonse munapeza mwayi wokambirana momasuka komanso moona mtima za zomwe zinasokonekera muubwenzi wanu? Ngati ayi, ino ndiye nthawi yokambirana momasuka komanso moona mtima.
- Kodi pali aliyense wa inu amene wasintha chiyambireni chibwenzi kapena kulekana kwakanthawi kudayamba? Ngati inde, bwanji? Kodi kusintha kumeneku kwakuthandizani kuti mukhale ogwirizana kapena osagwirizana?
- Mukamasiyana, kodi mumadziwa zomwe zimachitika pa moyo wa munthu wina?
- Kodi pali zinthu zina zofunika zomwe zingakhudze ubale wanu mtsogolo ndikubwerera limodzi ndi wakale wanu?
Ndi maluso ati atsopano omwe inu nonse muli ofunitsitsa kugwiritsa ntchito tsopano kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito? (China chake chomwe sichinagwiritsidwepo ntchito kale)
Kusunga banja mutapatukana: Patsani kuyanjanitsa mwayi
Munthu wanzeru nthawi ina adatinso, "Nthawi zina anthu awiri amayenera kugwa kuti azindikire momwe akufunikira kuti abwerere limodzi." Kodi mukuvomereza?
Zachidziwikire, danga lili ndi njira yotiwonetsera zomwe zili zofunika, zomwe sizili, zomwe zimapweteka, ndi zomwe zimathandiza.
Ngati mukufunitsitsa kubwerera limodzi mutapatukana, ndipo mnzanuyo ali wofunitsitsa kuchita gawo lawo, ndiye, mwa njira zonse, perekani kuyanjananso mwayi.
Koma musanapite patsogolo, ganizirani za chiyanjanitso mutapatukana.
Zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mnzanu akufuna kuyanjananso ndi ziti? Ngati mnzanu sakudziwa nthawi yabwino yocheza limodzi ndikuwuzani kuti mupeze upangiri kapena chithandizo chokwatirana limodzi.
Kulekana ndikubwerera limodzi kumawononga thanzi lanu ndipo wothandizira angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi nthawi yovutayi.
Mumakhala bata, kukhazikika, komanso kukhazikika pamakhalidwe a mnzanuyo ndipo amatenga umwini wawo chifukwa chowononga ubalewo.
Atha kuwonetsa zodandaula za zotulukapo za upangiri koma atsimikiza kuchita zonse zomwe zingateteze ukwatiwo.
Ngati mukufuna kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino, nazi malangizo omwe angakuthandizeni bwererani limodzi mutapatukana:
- Landirani zolakwa zanu: Kuti banja liziyenda bwino, nonse muyenera kuvomereza zolakwa zanu zomwe zidapangitsa kuti banja lithe. Mabanja omwe akuyenda njira yachiyanjanitso ayenera kukhala okonzeka kunena kuti pepani. Mvetsetsani kuti kukhululukirana, kukhulupirirana, ndi kumasuka kukakonza zinthu zomwe zitha kupulumutsa banja lanu ndikupangitsa kuti ntchito yobwereranso mutapatukana ikhale yosavuta.
- Khalani okonzeka kusintha: Mwina chofunikira kwambiri pazinthu zonse pamene mukuyanjananso mutatha kupatukana ndikukhala okonzeka kusintha. Landirani kuti chibwenzicho sichingabwerere komwe chinali chisanapatukane; chifukwa izi zingobweretsa kulephera kwina.
Lankhulani momasuka za zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna kusintha. Ndipo khalani okonzeka kusintha inunso chifukwa cha mnzanu. - Vomerezani: Muziyamikira mnzanu nthawi iliyonse mukawona zoyesayesa kuchokera kumbali yawo kukonza ubalewo. Inunso muyenera kuyesetsa kuti awadziwitse chimodzimodzi. Gawani malingaliro anu, ziyembekezo zanu, zokhumba zanu ndi kufunitsitsa kwanu kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingafune kuti ubalewu ukhale wopambana.
- Ipatseni nthawi: Kuyanjananso pambuyo poti kupatukana sikuchitika mwadzidzidzi. Yambitsaninso ubale wanu pang'onopang'ono ndikupatseni nthawi yokwanira, kuti inu (komanso mnzanu) mukhozenso kukhala okonzekera zofuna zake zambiri. Apatsane nthawi yokwanira komanso malo okwanira kuti akonze zinthu. Maganizo ndi kufunikira zikaperekedwa kwa izi, onse awiri amatha kuganiza mozama ndikusintha chilichonse chomwe chingasinthidwe. Zindikirani zolakwa zanu ndipo nanunso yesetsani kuzithetsa.
Malangizowa ayenera kukhala othandiza ngati mukukumana ndi chibwenzi chosweka ndipo mukuyang'ana momwe mungagwirizanitsire mutapatukana.
Zomwe mungachite ndikungowombera bwino, ndipo ngati sizingagwire momwe mumaganizira, funani chithandizo ndipo muchira.