Zamkati
- Lekani kuyerekezera
- Lekani kuyambitsa mitu yotentha kale
- Mulole mtima ukonde
- Musapewe zovuta zomwe zikungoyamba kumene
- Pangani zokonda pamodzi
- Khalani ndi moyo
- Khalani okoma mtima
- Fufuzani zowonjezera za siliva
- Yambitsani kusintha
Mukakhala ndi mnzanu kwa nthawi yayitali, chikondi chimakula, ndipo chikondi chimatha. Simundikhulupirira ndikadzakuwuzani kuti zonsezi zimachitika, ndipo si zachilendo.
Amuna ndi akazi nthawi ina amadutsa gawo la tchuthi kupita pachibwenzi, amawonetsedwa pazinthu zosakongola za theka lawo labwino, ndewu pazinthu zopusa zomwe zimayamba, ndipo amakhala atatsala pang'ono kusiya ukwati.
Koma funso nlakuti, kodi akuyenera kuti akulekerera ukwati?
Moona mtima, yankho ku banja losalephera limadalira zomwe mukufuna, kuti mukhale osangalala, mutha kusiya kapena kulimbana.
Kumbali yabwino, kusiya ukwati ndichinthu chofala chomwe maanja ambiri amakumana nacho nthawi ina m'moyo wawo.
Kodi mungakonze bwanji banja losweka?
Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti mupulumutse banja ndikusintha kutsikira kwa banja lanu; Zomwe mukufuna ndi mphamvu komanso kudzipereka.
Tawunikanso maupangiri ofunikira momwe mungapulumutsire banja lomwe muyenera kulingalira:
- Mvetsetsani kuti inunso muli mbali ya vutoli; kutenga udindo pa zochita zanu.
- Apatsane malo ndi nthawi yolingalira.
- Siyani mlanduwu.
- Dzikumbutseni kuti mumakonda wokondedwa wanu, ndipo mwaganiza mwakufuna kwanu pazifukwa zabwino zambiri, kuti mukhale nawo moyo wanu wonse ... ngakhale ali ndi zolakwa.
Tsopano popeza muli ndi maupangiri omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa momwe mungasungire banja lanu, onani malangizo athu ozama ndi malongosoledwe omwe mungagwiritse ntchito pokonzanso banja.
Lekani kuyerekezera
Mabanja ambiri amakumana ndi zovuta chifukwa m'modzi mwa awiriwa amafanizira ubale wawo ndi ena m'miyoyo yawo.
Mutha kukakamizidwa kuganiza kuti oyandikana nawo ali ndi banja labwino, chifukwa amangolemba zambiri pa Facebook, koma muli ndi chitsimikizo chotani kuti mukhulupiriranso zomwezo?
Kuyerekeza ndikulakwitsa kwakukulu, pewani.
Lekani kuyambitsa mitu yotentha kale
Mukuganiza kuti banja lingayende bwanji? Pongoyambira, musawonjezere moto pamoto.
Mukayamba kukangana ndi mwamuna / mkazi wanu yemwe wakhumudwitsidwa kale, mukuyenda m'malo owopsa, liwu limodzi lolakwika, ndipo limatha kufalikira.
Kafukufuku waposachedwa awulula kuti ngakhale maanja omwe ali osangalala kwambiri amakangana mitu yofanana ndi mabanja osasangalala, kusiyana ndikuti maanja achimwemwe amatenga njira yothetsera kusamvana.
Yesetsani kumamatira kuzowonadi zenizeni osati zongopeka, ndikuyesera kukambirana zinthu mwanjira yabwinobwino.
Mulole mtima ukonde
Zomwe tikutanthauza ndikuti mumakonda wokondedwa wanu, ndipo mwina kusowa kwa chikondi kungakhale chifukwa cha mtunda wapakati pa inu ndi mnzanu.
Tengani nthawi yanu kuti mumukumbatire mnzanu, ngakhale kukhudza kosavuta kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu kumatha kuchepetsa mahomoni opsinjika, sayansi yake!
Musapewe zovuta zomwe zikungoyamba kumene
Limodzi mwa upangiri wabwino kwambiri wopereka maukwati aliyense ndi kupewa m'malo mochiritsa. Mukawona kuti china chake chikhala vuto chomwe chitha kuyambitsa mavuto m'banja lanu, chitsekeni koyambirira, musalole kuti kusalabadira kukufalikire mnyumba mwanu.
Izi zithandizanso kuthana ndi kusiyana kwa kulumikizana pakati pawo.
Pangani zokonda pamodzi
Mutha kuseka, koma izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Mukayamba zosangalatsa ndi mnzanu, monga kuthamanga limodzi usiku, mukuchita zinthu zingapo.
Mukukhala limodzi, kulankhulana mosazindikira, ndikuwonjezera kupezeka kwanu munthawi ya mnzanu.
Khalani ndi moyo
Mvetsetsani kuti monga inu, mnzanuyo ndimunthu, ndipo zolakwitsa ndizokhala anthu. Phunzirani kukhululuka ndikuziyikira kumbuyo mukamakula. Kubwerera ku mabala akale kumangokulitsa kupweteka!
Khalani okoma mtima
Kupatsa kumatha kubweretsa chimwemwe chambiri m'moyo wa munthu wina. Kukhala wowolowa manja ndi mnzanu kumakupatsani mwayi wodziwa zomwe zimawasangalatsa.
Izi siziyenera kubwera ndi mtengo wokwera, koma kungoti china chodziwitsa mnzanuyo kuti mumaganizira za iwo. Kupatsa ndi chilimbikitso chachilengedwe chomwe chimabweretsa malingaliro abwino komanso kuyandikira muubwenzi.
Kafukufuku wofunafuna kukhazikitsa ubale pakati pa kupatsa ndi mkhalidwe wabanja adanenanso kuti zochita zazing'ono zosonyeza kukoma mtima, kuwonetsa chikondi ndi ulemu nthawi zonse, komanso kufunitsitsa kukhululukira mnzanu zolakwa ndi zolephera zawo - zidalumikizidwa ndikukwaniritsidwa m'banja komanso kusokonezedwa ndi mikangano m'banja ndikuwona kuthekera kwachisudzulo.
Fufuzani zowonjezera za siliva
Kuchita zinthu mwachangu kuli ndi mphamvu zothetsera vuto lililonse padziko lonse lapansi.
Ngati munthu ali ndi chiyembekezo, zinthu zimayamba kukhala bwino, ndipo munthuyo amamasuka. Poganiza kuti muli pachibwenzi choipa, mungafune kudziwa momwe mungakonzere ubale woopsa komanso momwe mungakonzere chibwenzi.
Poterepa, mphamvu yakukhala ndi chiyembekezo ingakuthandizeni kwambiri.
Pakafukufuku wa nthawi yayitali wochitidwa ndi Dr. Gottman ndi Robert Levenson adazindikira kuti kusiyana pakati pa mabanja achimwemwe ndi osasangalala ndikulingalira pakati pazabwino ndi zoyipa zomwe zimachitika panthawi yankhondo.
Mothandizidwa ndi kafukufukuyu adayambitsa tMatsenga Ubale Wachibale, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti pakuchita zoyipa zilizonse mkangano, banja lokhazikika komanso losangalala limakhala ndi machitidwe asanu (kapena kupitilira apo).
Khalani otsimikiza ndi anthu okuzungulirani komanso ndi mnzanu, koposa zonse. Izi sizimangoteteza mikangano komanso kupangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba.
Yambitsani kusintha
Zachidziwikire, mudaganizapo kangapo zamomwe mungakonde kuti mnzanu asinthe. Ndizachilengedwe, ndipo aliyense amachita.
Vuto lokhalo ndiloti, simungawasinthe. Anthu amangosintha akakhala okonzeka, ndipo kuchuluka kwazomwe zingawapangitse kuti azichita.
M'malo mwake, funsani momwe mungasinthire kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino. Ndiye, mungakonze bwanji ubale woyipa?
Yambani ndi zizolowezi zomwe mungasiye, kapena kuyamba, ndi zomwe mungasinthe kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino.
Onaninso: Momwe mungamangire banja ndikupewa kusudzulana.
Kutaya ukwati ndi kovuta, koma kuupulumutsa kumakhala kovuta kwambiri; chilichonse choyenera chimafuna kudzipereka, kudzipereka, komanso kufunitsitsa kulimbana ndi zovuta zonsezi.
Tikukhulupirira malangizowa akuthandizani kumvetsetsa momwe mungakonzere banja losweka ndikupangitsani kuganiza zina za kusiya banja. Zabwino zonse!