Zamkati
Kulekana kwamayesero kumatanthauza mgwirizano wopanda tanthauzo pakati panu ndi wina wanu wamkulu pa kutalika kwa nthawi yomwe nonse mudzasiyana. Pali zinthu zingapo zofunika kuzikambirana pakati pa okwatirana omwe akupita kukasiyana. Kuphatikiza apo, nonse limodzi ndi zofunika zanu muyenera kukambirana ndikuyika malire omwe aliyense wa inu angakhale akutsatira kupatukana kwamayesero. Malirewa atha kuphatikiza omwe azisunga ana, kukonzekera misonkhano ndi ana, malo agawidwa bwanji, muzilankhulana kangati, ndi mafunso ena otere.
Pambuyo pa kupatukana kwa mayesero, awiriwa atha kusankha ngati angafune kuyanjananso kapena kuthetsa ukwati wawo kudzera pamalamulo osudzulana. Nthawi kapena musanaganize zopatukana, muyenera kupanga mndandanda wazoyeserera. Mndandandawu uphatikizira zomwe muyenera kuchita panthawi yopatukana kwanu, momwe zinthu zikuyendere, zisankho zomwe zingachitike posachedwa.
Mndandanda wowerengera woyeserera ungagawidwe magawo atatu. Izi zikuphatikiza:
Gawo 1 - Kusonkhanitsa deta
- Gawani mapulani anu ndi 1 kapena 2 anzanu apamtima kapena abale anu apamtima. Izi ndizofunikira pachitetezo ndi kuthandizira kwamaganizidwe. Komanso, ngati mungaganize zongochoka panyumba, mukhala kuti; ndi mnzanu kapena ndi banja lanu kapena muli nokha?
- Komanso, lembani zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera pagawoli. Mukuganiza kuti zinthu ziyenda bwino kapena zidzathetsa banja? Kumbukirani, nanunso musayembekezere zambiri!
- Tsopano kuti mupatukane, mudzayendetsa bwanji ndalama zanu? Kodi ntchito yanu ikwanira? Kapenanso ngati simukugwira ntchito, mungafune kuganizira zopeza ntchito.
- Pakapatukana mayesero, malire ena amakhazikitsidwa ndipo limodzi mwa mafunso omwe ali m'malire oyeserera ndi momwe malowo adzagawidwire zomwe zimaphatikizaponso kugawa zinthu zapakhomo monga mbale. Lembani zinthu izi ndikuwunika zomwe mukufuna ndi zomwe simukufuna.
- Onaninso zomwe mumakhala ndi mnzanu ndipo ngati mukufuna kuzimitsa, monga ma phukusi a intaneti.
- Phatikizani mndandanda wa zikalata zanu zonse zaukwati ndi zolemba zanu zachuma ndikuzisunga pamodzi ndi zolemba zawo. Mutha kuwafuna nthawi ina.
Gawo 2: Kukonzekera zoyambira
- Ngati mwaganiza zopita kukasiyana kwa mayesero, lembani zomwe mudzakhale mukunena kwa anzanu ena ofunika. Osagwiritsa ntchito mawu amwano chifukwa angowonjezera zinthu. M'malo mwake, sankhani mawu osavuta, odekha ndikukambirana momasuka chifukwa chomwe mukuganiza kuti nonse muyenera kupumula pang'ono.
- Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zomwe zidakusangalatsani m'banja ndi zomwe zidasokonekera. Mumamukondadi mnzanuyo ndikuwasamalira? Lembani zinthu zonsezi ndipo panthawi yopatukana, yesani mosamala ndikuwunika izi. Zithandiza kwambiri.
- Pokambirana, funsani anzanu ena zazikulu zomwe akuyembekezera kuti zotsatira zakulekana kumeneku komanso zomwe akuyembekezera. Muziganiziranso.
- Tsegulani akaunti yakubanki yapadera ndikusiyanitsa ndalama zanu pakadali pano. Izi zitha kubweretsa kulumikizana kocheperako komanso mkangano wokhudza zachuma pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu nthawi yopatukana.
Gawo 3: Kudziwitsa mnzanu
- Adziwitseni okondedwa anu panthawi yomwe nonse muli nokha kunyumba. Sankhani nthawi yodekha. Khalani limodzi ndi mnzanuyo ndikukambirana zomwe zikuchitika komanso chifukwa chomwe mukusankhira izi. Kambiranani zomwe mukuyembekezera.
- Mothandizana, nonse mutha kupita kukalandira upangiri waukwati. Izi zitha kukuthandizani nonse kuzindikira zatsopano. Mukamauza anzanu zaulemu, chitani modekha. Zolemba zomwe mwina mudakonza ziwonetseni mnzanuyo ndikukambirana nawo. Tengani zolemba zawo.
- Pomaliza, kumbukirani kuti pambuyo poti inu nonse mwaganiza zopita kukasiyana kuti mukayesane, muyenera kupatukana chifukwa kungokhala m'nyumba imodzi nthawi yomweyo kumatha kuwononga ubale wanu kuposa kale. Kupatukana nthawi yomweyo kumaphatikizaponso kuti musalowe mumikangano ndi mikangano yosafunikira yomwe ingangowononga ubale wanu m'malo mowusintha.
Kukulunga
Mwapadera, kupanga mndandanda musanapatukane ndi wina wanu ndikofunikira. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti uwu ndi mndandanda wazomwe azilekana pomwe mabanja amatsatira. Siimodzi yomwe maanja onse angatenge, kapena mwina singagwire ntchito kwa inu komanso abale anu ena.