Zamkati
- Anthu ambiri sazindikira kuti ali muukwati wosasangalala
- 1. Kusakhala pachibwenzi
- 2. Kukhala opanda malingaliro mukakhala pamodzi
- 3. Simukhala chete
- 4. Masewera owopsa
- 5. Palibenso ndewu ayi
- Mawu a anzeru
Maukwati osasangalala ndiofala kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Unikani moyo wautali wa banja lanu poyankha mafunso ali m'munsiwa ndikusanthula mawu aliwonse, ndemanga, kapena chilichonse ndikuyesera kudziwa ngati lanu litha kapena ayi. Mafunso monga:
- Chifukwa chiyani sitingakhale achimwemwe?
- Chifukwa chiyani munthu wanga wofunika kwambiri sali ngati munthu ameneyo?
- Chifukwa chiyani sitingafanane ndi banjali?
- Kodi tingakhale otere?
Ngati mafunso ofananawa akhala akuvutitsa malingaliro anu pafupipafupi, ndikofunikira kuti muwunikenso moyo wanu ndi ubale wanu.
Zimakhala zachizolowezi kuti maanja azikhalabe m'banja lopanda chikondi kapena losasangalala osazindikira kuti pali njira ina yonse yamoyo. Amangophunzira kuvomereza kuti umu ndi momwe moyo ulili ndikukhala tsiku limodzi nthawi imodzi ndikukoka mapazi awo.
Mudzawona kuti zizindikiro zakukwati zosasangalatsa ndizodabwitsa chifukwa sizigwirizana ndi zomwe anthu ambiri amaganiza.
Anthu ambiri sazindikira kuti ali muukwati wosasangalala
Pali anthu osakhazikika omwe saona kuti banja lawo lomwe latha ngati losasangalala chifukwa, kwa iwo, banja losasangalala kapena lopanda chikondi limatha kukhala chifukwa cha chigololo, kusakhulupirika, nkhanza, kuledzera, ndi zina zotero. Zomwe amamvetsetsa ndikukhulupirira ndikuti kusudzulana kumachitika kokha chifukwa cha zifukwa zomwe zatchulidwazi.
Chimene sazindikira ndichakuti ukwati uliwonse ukhoza kusokonekera pang'ono ndi pang'ono ngati anthu atasiya kuyesetsa mwapadera.
Ngati maanja ayamba kungotengana mopepuka kapena ngati anthu asiya kusamala za malingaliro ndi malingaliro a anzawo ofunika, ndiye kuti zinthu zimayamba kuyipa. Izi, nthawi zambiri, zimapangitsa kuti anthu azifunsa, mwina iwowo kapena zina zofunika, 'Tinakhala bwanji kuno?'
Chinthu chimodzi chofunikira kwambiri kulimbitsa ubale uliwonse chitha kukhala chifukwa chakusintha kwake: kukondana. Chibwenzi chokwanira komanso chosasokonezedwa ndichofunikira, koma ndimphamvu yayikulu imabwera ndiudindo waukulu. Mukadzitsegulira pamaso pa mnzake ndikulola kuti mukhale osatetezeka, mumakhala mukuwapatsa zida kuti akuwonongeni. Momwe amasankhira kugwiritsa ntchito zipolalazo, tsopano ndiye funso.
Kukhala ndikukana kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa, koma sikukhala kosatha. Khalani maso anu kuti muone zikwangwani zofiira zotsatirazi kuti mudzipulumutse ku moyo wazowawa komanso zopweteketsa mtima
Nazi zina mwazizindikiro zapamwamba zosakwatirana:
1. Kusakhala pachibwenzi
Kukondana ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe chimasiyanitsa chibwenzi ndi ena onse. Ngati simungathe kulimbitsa thupi ndi mnzanu kapena simunakhalepo pachibwenzi kwakanthawi - imeneyo ndi mbendera yofiira yayikulu kwambiri kuti mugonjetse ndipo sichizindikiro chabwino.
2. Kukhala opanda malingaliro mukakhala pamodzi
Chifukwa cha lonjezo lomwe linapangidwa kalekale kapena zofunikira zina pachikhalidwe, wina wanu wofunikira amapezeka nanu mwakuthupi; komabe, chidwi chawo chili kwina. Ichi ndiye chisonyezo chachikulu kwambiri chosonyeza kusalemekeza mnzanu.
3. Simukhala chete
Mgwirizano weniweni ndipamene awiriwa amatha kukhala chete wina ndi mnzake. Amatha kusangalala ndi nthawi yopuma ndikukhala odekha nazo.
Komabe, pakakhala chete ndikulemera ndikudzazidwa ndi mafunso osafunsidwa kapena madandaulo osanenedwa, moyo umakumana ndi khoma louma.
4. Masewera owopsa
Moyo ndi wovuta, ndipo aliyense amachita zinthu, nthawi zina, zomwe samanyadira nazo. Komabe, zimatengera munthu wokulirapo komanso wokhwima m'maganizo kuti avomereze zomwe alakwitsa ndikuvomereza kuti alakwitsa.
Zomwe maanja amachita nthawi zambiri amayamba kutsalira chifukwa cha chifukwa chimodzi kapena ziwiri, ndipo nthawi zonse amaimba anzawo mlandu wamakhalidwe awo. Mwachitsanzo, ndi vuto lalikulu la ena kuti adakwiya - nthawi zonse.
5. Palibenso ndewu ayi
Ngakhale zimamveka zodabwitsa, kumenyana, kudandaula, kapena kukangana ndizizindikiro zakukula ndi chikondi. Oposa theka la anthu amangomenya, kutsutsana, kapena kudandaula za okondedwa awo; anthu omwe amawakonda.
Ndipo chikondi chikangoyamba kuzimiririka, ndewu, kukangana, ndi kudandaula zimatha.
Mawu a anzeru
Kuzindikira zizindikiro zosakwatirana zapamwambazi kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto omwe ali pachibwenzi chanu.
Mosasamala kanthu za nthawi yayitali bwanji, yamikirani kupezeka kwa wina ndi mnzake. M'malo moyang'ana manja akulu, yesani ang'onoang'ono. Duwa kamodzi pa sabata, khutu panthawi yamavuto, kapena kungomwetulira kapena kuyamikira ndizofunika kuti mupambane mtima.