Zamkati
- Zizindikiro zakuti mwina mukukhala osafunikira muubwenzi wanu
- Kuyang'ana umboni
- Njira imodzi yothetsera kukanidwa kapena kudzimva osafunikira muubwenzi
- Zidachitika bwanji mtsogolo?
- Zoyenera kuchita
Amelia Earhart, woyendetsa ndege woyamba wamkazi kuuluka payekha kuwoloka nyanja ya Atlantic, amadziwika bwino chifukwa chazomwe amachita mlengalenga.
Chomwe sichidziwika kwenikweni ndi mawu ake okhudza kusungulumwa paubwenzi: "Kukhala wekha kumakhala kowopsa, koma osati kowopsa ngati kumangokhala wekha pachibwenzi." Woyendetsa ndegeyo anafotokoza zomwe anthu ambiri amawopa - kukhala okha.
Zogwirizana kwambiri ndizomverera zakusafunikira chibwenzi.
Tiyeni tiwone chochitika. Muli pachibwenzi ndipo zonse zikuwoneka kuti zikuyenda bwino tsiku lina malingaliro achilendo ndi osavomerezeka amakudutsani popanda chifukwa chilichonse.
Zimapita motere, "Ndikumva kuti sindimafunidwa. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake. Ndimangomva zachilendo izi. Izi sizikumveka bwino. ” Tikukhulupirira, izi kapena izi sizinachitikepo kwa inu, koma bwanji ngati zitero ndipo zachokera kuti?
Zizindikiro zakuti mwina mukukhala osafunikira muubwenzi wanu
- Mumapita zochepa. Mwinamwake mumakhala ndi tsiku la sabata sabata iliyonse, koma mnzanuyo amangochedwa kapena kuletsa.
- Moyo wanu wogonana watsika kapena wasiya kukhalapo.
- Simumachitanso zinthu zapadera wina ndi mnzake (maluwa "opanda chifukwa"), botolo lodabwitsika la vinyo yemwe mumakonda, ulendo wopita kumzinda, ulendo wamasabata osakonzekera wopita kumapiri kapena pagombe, ndi zina zambiri.
- Wokondedwa wanu amasintha masiku ndi / kapena nthawi zomwe mumayenera kuti mwakumana nazo.
- Anzanu a mnzanu ndi nkhawa zawo akutenga gawo labwino la nthawi yomwe munkakhala limodzi.
- Wokondedwa wanu samatumiziranso mameseji koyamba.
- Mnzanu amakhala otanganidwa nthawi zonse kapena "ntchito zapadera kuntchito" zimawoneka mwadzidzidzi.
- Achibale a mnzanuyo ali ndi matenda mwadzidzidzi omwe amafuna kuti wokondedwa wanu apite nawo. (Ndipo ngati membala wa "banja" ali kutali kwambiri kapena kudziko lina, mutha kungochotsa ubalewu palimodzi.)
- Wokondedwa wanu amakayikira kukulolani kuti mubwereke foni yake pazifukwa zilizonse.
- Ziweto zazing'ono zimakhala gawo lazokambirana zanu.
- Mnzanu akuwononga nthawi yambiri pantchito.
- Zolinga zamtali (maulendo, komwe mungapite kukathokoza, Khrisimasi kapena maholide ena omwe mwakhala mukukambirana kale mosangalala, mnzanuyo angasinthe nkhaniyo kapena sangakwanitse kusungitsa malo.
- Mukumva kuti mwachepetsedwa kukhala "bwenzi" kuchokera kumudindo wakale monga wokondana naye pachibwenzi.
Kuyang'ana umboni
Natalie anali atayamba kuwona zikwangwani kuti mwina akuyamba kukhala wosafunikira muubwenzi wake ndi Gordon 28, wowerengera ndalama.
Anali atakhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka zopitilira zinayi pomwe Natalie adawoneka kuti china chake sichili bwino, koma sanathe kudziwa kuti chinali chiyani. "Mukudziwa ngati m'makanema pomwe mumawona munthu akutsegula chitseko ndi chilombo kumbuyo kwake ndipo mukuganiza kuti" Osatero! Osatsegula chitseko! Thawiratu msanga momwe ungathere! ', Chabwino, ndi momwe ndimamvera ndikamayang'ana chikwama chake chokhala pampando wa usiku pomwe Gordon amatenga foni kutuluka mchipinda chathu, ”anatero Natalie.
Wopanga mapulogalamu a zaka 26 akupitiliza kuti, "Ndidadziwa kuti sindiyenera kuyang'ana, koma sindingathe kudziletsa. Ndapeza makondomu. Tsopano ndili pamapiritsi, ndiye bwanji pangakhale kondomu? Anapitiliza kuti, "Ankachita mosiyana, ndipo ndimamva kuti china chake chachitika, ndipo ndimayamba kumva kuti ndikufunidwa, koma sindimaganiza kuti amagona ndi munthu wina.
Zinali choncho.
Adabwerera kuchokera komwe adamuitana, ndipo ndidamupempha kuti achoke. Sindikusewera chiphika chachiwiri. ” Ngakhale nthawi zambiri kudzidalira kumatha kugunda pomwe wina akumva kuti sakufunidwa, Natalie adawonetsa kudzidalira kuti apeze chitsimikizo kuti zonse sizinali bwino ndi ubale wake, ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake zamkati ndi kudzidalira kusiya chibwenzicho.
Njira imodzi yothetsera kukanidwa kapena kudzimva osafunikira muubwenzi
Ubale uliwonse ndiwosiyana, ndipo aliyense athana ndikudzimva wosafunikira komanso wonyozeka m'njira yawoyawo.
Izi zikunenedwa, a Helen Claymer, adapereka upangiri uwu. "Ndidadziwa kuti china chake sichabwino, koma sindine woyambira kufunafuna umboni, mukudziwa, malisiti m'matumba, ndikufufuza m'malemba ndi manambala ake.
Si ine ayi.
Ndinaganiza kuti tizingolankhula mosadodometsedwa ndikukhala achilungamo kwa wina ndi mnzake. Tonse tinkalankhula momveka bwino, ndipo monga mutu wamafilimu uja, ndidazindikira kuti samangokhala mwa ine. (Momwemonso, sitinagonepo mwezi woposa umodzi.)
Tidakambirana momwe zimakhudzira ine, ndipo amamvetsera koma momveka bwino, awa anali mapeto. Zikanapitilira kwamuyaya pokhapokha nditapempha kuti ndikambirane. Sanasinthidwe momwe ndikadakondera, koma zidandilola kupitiliza.
Pomwe ndimadzimva wosafunika pachibwenzi, ndimaganiza kuti ndibwino kuti izi zitheke, kuti ndipite patsogolo kuzinthu zabwino. ” Pempho la Helen loti akambirane moona mtima lidabweretsa kutha, koma amadzimvanso kuti chinali chinthu choyenera kuchita.
Zidachitika bwanji mtsogolo?
Mukamva kuti simukufunikira kukhala pachibwenzi, chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mungakhale nazo ndikudandaula zamtsogolo.
Mumadabwa ngati kulibe tsogolo ndi mnzanuyo. Malingaliro onse omwe mudapanga, onse adalankhula mosangalala ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo sanalankhulepo za mnzanu, chabwino, mapulani onsewa akuwoneka kuti akukayika.
Tsogolo ndi mnzanuyo limawoneka ngati loipa komanso lopanda tanthauzo.
Zoyenera kuchita
Apanso, aliyense ali ndi ubale wapadera, ndipo kuthana ndi kusatsimikizika kwa tsogolo limodzi kuyenera kuthetsedwa posachedwa.
Posachedwa chifukwa ndibwino kudziwa momwe ubale wanu ulili. Yakwana nthawi yoti mubwezeretse njira yanu ngati nonse mwatsimikiza kuchita izi, kapena kuti mumalize kuti muthe kuyambiranso osalimbana ndikumverera osafunikira ndikukhala ndi tsogolo labwino.