Zamkati
- Maanja akadikira, amakulitsa kukondana kwawo
- Ngati mukufuna kuti mnzanuyo akhale BFF yanu, dikirani kuti mugonane
- Ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu amtsogolo ndiabwino
- Simuyenera kuda nkhawa za mimba kapena matenda opatsirana pogonana
- Kugonana pambuyo paukwati ndi njira yabwino yophunzirira
- Zomwe amayi ena adanenazi podikira mpaka atakwatirana:
Kuyembekezera mpaka ukwati kuti ugonane kumawoneka ngati kosavomerezeka mmoyo wamasiku ano wazakugonana, zilakolako, komanso zibwenzi zogonana. Zowonadi, omwe amadikirira ndi ocheperako: azimayi 89.1% amachita zogonana asanakwatirane, kusiya 10% yokha ya azimayi osagonana akafika paguwa lansembe. "Namwali" ndi "Oyera" amamveka ngati mawu ochokera mzaka za m'ma 1950, kupatula pomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi zipembedzo zina zomwe zikupitilizabe kulemekeza mayiko amenewo.
Tiyeni tibwerere m'mbuyo kuzikhalidwe zomwe zilipo, zomwe zimatiuza kuti ife ayenera Kukhala ogonana tisanalowe m'banja kuti "tione zomwe tikupeza", ndikuwonanso zina mwazabwino zopumira pakudikira kuti "ndimachita" tisanakhale bwenzi lathu.
Maanja akadikira, amakulitsa kukondana kwawo
Kupanga chikondi ndi njira yolumikizirana, inde. Ndipo mdera lathu lino, zikuwoneka kuti ndi gawo lovomerezeka la zibwenzi, ngakhale koyambirira kwa chibwenzi. Koma pamene chibwenzi chimayamba kuyang'ana kwambiri pazakuthupi, zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chisangalalo chogonana chimakhala cholinga, chomwe chimatenga nthawi yayitali ndikuphunzira njira zina zolumikizirana ndi mnzanu.
Anthu omwe amadikirira mpaka kulowa m'banja awona kuti kumangilana kwawo kwamalingaliro ndi nzeru kumakulirakulira msanga muubwenzi popanda chiyeso chogonana.
Madeti awo amatha kucheza, kugawana, ndikupanga chibwenzi china chomwe, akangokwatirana ndikuchita zachiwerewere, chimapangitsa kukondana kwakuthupi kukhala kwakukulu komanso kosangalatsa. Amamudziwadi munthu amene akupanga naye chikondi, popeza akhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yolumikizana nawo.
Ngati mukufuna kuti mnzanuyo akhale BFF yanu, dikirani kuti mugonane
Popanda chiwalo chogonana musanakwatirane, muli ndi nthawi yopanga ubale wabwino, wokwanira komanso watanthauzo ndi mnzanu wamtsogolo.
Monga momwemo kapena ayi, kugonana kungakhale ngati chododometsa ndikukhala gawo lofunikira pazomwe mumachita pachibwenzi.
Mutha kumathera nthawi yochulukirapo yopingasa koposa ndikukhala ndi mwayi wocheperako pazokambirana zazitali, zomwe zimathandiza pakupanga ubale weniweni komanso wowona.
Ubale wanu ndi apongozi anu amtsogolo ndiabwino
Ngakhale m'masiku ano amakono, apongozi anu amtsogolo atha kukhala ndi zosasangalatsa atadziwa kuti mwana wawo, ngakhale wachikulire, akuchita zachiwerewere. Kusunga kugonana mpaka ukwati utakupulumutsani ku izi, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi nthawi ndi makolo anu azachuma popanda kudziimba mlandu kapena kuwabisira zinthu.
Nthawi zanu limodzi simudzakhala ndi mawonekedwe amdima kapena mafunso osasangalatsa kuchokera kwa iwo.
Kuletsa kugonana mpaka banja litakumasulani kuti musazembere, kapena mupeze zifukwa zonena za komwe mudali komanso zomwe mumachita. Mutha kusangalala ndi apongozi anu amtsogolo ndi chikumbumtima choyera.
Simuyenera kuda nkhawa za mimba kapena matenda opatsirana pogonana
Chifukwa inu ndi mnzanu mwagwirizana kuti mudikire mpaka ukwati ugone limodzi, simuyenera kuda nkhawa ndi zakulera (kapena kulephera kwake), kuyezetsa pakati, matenda opatsirana pogonana ndi mayeso aliwonse a iwo, ndi Nkhani zina zosafunikira zomwe kugonana musanalowe m'banja kumabweretsa.
Kugonana pambuyo paukwati ndi njira yabwino yophunzirira
Awiri omwe amadikirira mpaka ukwati kuti agonane amavomereza kukhumudwitsana komanso kuchita manyazi pamene afika polemba chikalatacho.
Koma chifukwa amaphunzirana matupi momwe asankhira kulemekeza, kusapeza bwino, manyazi kapena kusadziwa zomwe zimachitika komwe sikukuphwanya malamulo.
Njira yophunzirira matupi a wina ndi mnzake ndi chisangalalo ndichabwino, ndipo amazitsatira m'malo otetezeka m'banja lawo. Nanga bwanji ngati nthawi yoyamba sichili ulendo wopita ku paradaiso? Ali ndi moyo wawo wonse kuti azindikire izi ... ndipo nthawi zambiri zimangotenga mayesero ochepa kuti athe kuzimvetsa.
Zomwe amayi ena adanenazi podikira mpaka atakwatirana:
“Kaŵirikaŵiri, okwatirana a lerolino amangoloŵerera m’zakugonana mosazengereza. Koma zikafika pamtundu wanji wamabanja womwe ukufuna pamapeto pake, ndimafuna kuwonetsetsa kuti amuna anga amandikonda tonsefe, ma quirks anga, zizolowezi zawo, chilichonse, ndi zina zambiri.
Ndikuganiza kuti ngati mungakhale pachibwenzi ndi wina motalika kokwanira kuti mudziwe inu zenizeni, mwina atha kutalikitsa ngati sangasunge chibwenzicho kwamuyaya. Pafupifupi aliyense adzayamba kukonda kugonana, simuyenera "kuyesa mnyamatayo" musanasankhe zokwatira. Onetsetsani kuti mwapeza munthu woyenera komanso kalembedwe kake kopanga zachikondi, kakhala koyenera. ” -Rebecca, wazaka 23.
“Inde, ndinadikirira ukwati ndisanagonane ndi amuna anga. Kwa ine kunali kofunika kwambiri kusunga unamwali wanga kwa mwamuna amene ndimamukonda ndi mtima wanga wonse, ndipo kugonana pa usiku wanga waukwati koyamba inali bonasi. Unali ulemu kumupatsa unamwali wanga. Ndinakwatiwa ndili ndi zaka 23. Ndimanyadira kuti ndasungabe unamwali wanga kukwatiwa. Zinali kusankha kwanga mwadala, mwadala. ” -Christina, wazaka 25.
“Kugonana ndimaphunziro ophunzirira kwa aliyense, ndipo ngati nonse mumayandikira ngati anamwali, ndichofunika kwambiri chifukwa mukuphunzira limodzi! Kwa ine, kugonana sindimonso maziko a ukwati wabwino, ngakhale ndi mwayi wabwino. ” -Carmen, wazaka 27.