Zamkati
- 1. Osangotengera zongonena chabe
- 2. Mvetserani
- 3. Musamadziteteze
- 4. Ganizirani zofananira
- 5. Pewani kusonyeza kunyoza okondedwa wanu
Palibe kulekana kosavuta. Ndipo zikafika pa chisudzulo, zinthu zimatha kukhala zovuta pang'ono. Komabe, ngati onse akufuna, nthawi zonse amatha kukonza zinthu mwamtendere. Koma pamakhala nthawi zina pamene maanja amalimbana ndi kupitilizana molakwika. Kudzera mikhalidwe yakusokonekera kwa chisudzulo, m'modzi ayenera kukhala wodziyimira pawokha ndikupitiliza milandu yomwe mwamunayo wayamba mwamtendere.
Kulankhulana ndikofunikira.
M'mayeso ngati amenewa, palibe chida china chabwino kuposa kulumikizana. Kuthetsa kusamvana kwakukulu sikungakhale kosavuta kwa onse awiriwa. Ndi chifukwa onse awiriwa amaganiza ndikumverera kuti ali olondola ndipo sakufuna kuganiza kuchokera kwa wina. Chifukwa chake, ndibwino kufunsa upangiri wazamalamulo ndikuwakhazikitsa. Pachifukwa ichi, maanja akuyenera kulumikizana ndi kampani yalamulo kuti mabanja awo athe kuchitidwa moyenera.
Pamsudzano waukulu, mnzanu amakhala mdani wanu! Mudzawapeza kuti azingoganizira zofuna zawo zokha, zomwe sizingafanane ndi zanu. Muthanso kumva kuti mukumenyedwa nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipo muzochitika ngati izi, mutha kuwona izi:
- Kuthamanga kwa adrenaline komwe kumakupangitsani kuti musakhale ndi njala komanso musamve bwino.
- Kulephera kuyang'ana pazinthu zina.
- Mumanyekedwa ndi ukali ndikuponya mkwiyo pa anthu osayenera.
- Mumatenga nawo gawo pazolankhula zokhazokha, zomwe zingapangitse zinthu kukhala zovuta pamoyo wanu waluso komanso waumwini.
Ngati mukuyanjana ndi mfundo zonsezi zomwe zatchulidwa pamwambapa, dziwani kuti zoterezi zimatenga nthawi kuti zithetsedwe mukakhala kuti mwasudzulana kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, zilandireni ndikuwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi anthu ena oti akutonthozeni.
Malangizo ochepa ofunikira momwe mungapulumukire kusudzulana:
Mutha kukhala olimbikira nthawi zonse ndikutsatira maupangiri othandiza opulumuka chisudzulo nthawi yonse yovuta ya chisudzulo chokhwima. Lankhulani ndi loya wazabanja yemwe mungadalire ndikuyesa kupeza njira zingapo zodzitetezera pokonzekera kusudzulana:
- Musalandire kalata iliyonse yomwe imabwera popanda yankho lililonse.
- Osachotsa imelo kwa mwamuna / mkazi wanu, mwachitsanzo, yemwe akufuna kukhala wakale.
- Osapanga chisankho chofunikira chokhudza kusungidwa kwa ana komanso ndalama popanda loya wanu.
Nthawi zonse ndibwino kufunsa loya wanu pazolumikizana zilizonse zomwe muyenera kukambirana ndi mnzanu pomwe nonse mukusudzulana kuti mupewe mikangano yomwe ingachitike mwamsudzulo. Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kuwonetsetsa kuti simukupusitsidwa kapena kunyengedwa mukakhala okonzeka kusudzulana. Onetsetsani kuti musasaine chikalata chilichonse mukayamba kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya komanso kumva chisoni. Tengani nthawi kuti muwerenge mawuwo musanalembe pepalalo. Njira yabwino yomwe mabungwe azamalamulo am'banja akuti mabanja ali ndi chisudzulo chotsutsana ndikulingalira kutseka kwachuma.
Chifukwa chake, izi zikutanthauza, maanja akuyenera kusankha FDR (Financial Dispute Resolution). Palifunika munthu wandale wosatenga mbali, mwachitsanzo, loya kapena woweruza, yemwe amva malingaliro ochokera kwa onse awiriwa ndikupereka yankho labwino kwambiri momwe angakonzekere chisudzulo. Ndipo chigamulochi ndichinthu chomwe woweruza amawunika mosamala ndipo samakakamiza kuti banjali lithe posudzulana.
1. Osangotengera zongonena chabe
Pamene inu ndi mnzanu mukukambirana mavuto ena okhudzana ndi chisudzulo, momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito moyenerera zimagwirira ntchito nonse nonse. Mukamagwiritsa ntchito mawu ngati "simumachita izi", kapena "mumachita izi nthawi zonse", kupsa mtima kumatha, ndipo zokambirana zimatha kutuluka mwachangu. Ndibwino kuthana ndi zinthu mozindikira, pobweretsa zochitika zina zomwe mumawona kuti akanakhala atcheru kapena akanakuthandizani. Yesetsani kuti musadzitchinjirize kapena kukakamiza amuna anu kuti achite chimodzimodzi.
2. Mvetserani
Imodzi mwa nthawi zokhumudwitsa kwambiri muubwenzi ndi pamene mumamva ngati wokondedwa wanu sakukupatsani chidwi chomwe mukuyenera. Ngati mungaganize zomwe akuyesera kunena kapena kuwasokoneza mosalekeza, mumatha kuwapatsa mwayi woti afotokozere kwathunthu. Muyenera kuwapatsa malo ndikukuuzani momwe akumvera, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chidaliro pazomwe mukuganiza kuti akunena.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pakumvetsera ndi kumvetsera kwatayika kwa maanja ambiri, ndipo kumatha kupanga kapena kuwononga chibwenzi chanu. Ngati mukuvutika kumvetsera mwachibadwa, yesani kuphunzira maluso akumvetsera mwatcheru. Nthawi ndi nthawi, tchulani zomwe akunena kuti adziwe kuti mukuyenda nawo limodzi, komanso mutha kuthetsa kusamvana kulikonse. Funsani mafunso- mchitidwewu umatchedwa kuti kuona mozama- kuti mumvetsetse zomwe anene molondola.
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3. Musamadziteteze
Kudzudzula sikophweka kuthana nako, koma chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe mungachite mukatsutsidwa ndi mnzanu ndikuwapatsa machitidwe okana ndikudzitchinjiriza. Kudzitchinjiriza sikungathetse vuto lililonse. Pamapeto pake, zimangokhala ngati chowiringula, ndipo mnzanu wokhumudwitsidwayo amalola kuti nkhaniyi ithe, ndipo pamapeto pake ikhoza kukhala mkangano wonse. Palibe zochitika zomwe zingakhale zabwino. Zingakhale bwino ngati mwapeweratu izi kuti muwone kuyankhulana momasuka, moona mtima, komanso mofatsa.
4. Ganizirani zofananira
Kuwawidwa mosakayikira ndi koipa. Chomwe chimapangitsa kuwawa kukhala koipa ndikuti amatha kusintha mawonekedwe anu modabwitsa. Kuwawidwa mtima kumatha kusintha munthu wina, wololera kukhala munthu wina wokwiya komanso wokwiya ndi zomwe ali nazo m'moyo wake zomwe zimawoneka ngati zosatheka kuchira. Zingakuthandizeni kuugwira mtima komanso kukhumudwa pamene mukupita ndi mutu watsopano. Ganizirani kwambiri momwe mwamuna wanu angaganizire kuti mupewe kukwiya mukamakangana pazokambirana.
5. Pewani kusonyeza kunyoza okondedwa wanu
Pali zovuta zina za kulera ana, zachuma, komanso zokuthandizani kuthana nazo zomwe zingakusiyeni mutakwiya komanso kutopa, ndikudabwa ngati zinthu zingasinthe komanso ngati mungapitirire ndikusangalala. Chochita choyipa kwambiri pakusudzulana kwakanthawi ndikuwonetsa kunyoza munthu yemwe akufuna kukhala mnzanu wakale. Kunyoza kunganyoze mnzanu. Komanso, zingakhale bwino ngati mutapewa kutchulana mayina ndi kunyoza. Chimodzi mwamaganizidwe ofunikira osudzula ndikuwongolera machitidwe osanyoza osamveka monga kusekerera kapena kupukusa maso.
Mu kanemayo, a Esther Perel amalankhula za "Kudzudzula kopitilira muyeso ndi mikangano imatha kumva ngati kuchepa, nkhondo yayitali ndipo zitha kutha kwa chibwenzi."
Pewani malingaliro osalemekeza ngati mukufuna kufotokoza zomwe zikuyambitsa mikangano mukamatha kusudzulana. Ndi imodzi mwanjira zopambana kusudzulana kuti mugwirizane ndikuthetsa banja lomwe silikuyenda.