Zamkati
- 1. Dziwani bwino za zomwe wina ndi mzake ali ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka
- 2. Musayembekezere zinthu zomwe sizingachitike
- 3. Muzikonda wokondedwa wanga momwe akufunira kukondedwa
- Kodi ndikutenga kotani kuchokera ku zonsezi?
Monga anthu, tonsefe ndife anthu osowa chikondi, ndipo pamapeto pake timathandizidwa.
Chithandizo chachikulu m'miyoyo yathu chimakhala banja lathu la zida za nyukiliya-mnzathu ndi ana athu. Monga mungaganizire, maziko am'banja lililonse labwino ndiye gawo la makolo.
Popanda malire m'derali, madera ena amatha kumaliza kulemera kwawo ndipo pamapeto pake amakhala opanikizika kwambiri kapena osafikiridwa, amapunthwa chifukwa chapanikizika.
Ndiye timamanga bwanji maziko olimba?
Pansipa pali maupangiri ochepa okuthandizani inu ndi mnzanuyo kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga ubale wolimba motero, banja lolimba.
1. Dziwani bwino za zomwe wina ndi mzake ali ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka
Mabanja ambiri kapena osudzulana omwe pamapeto pake amabwera kudzandipatsa chithandizo amawonetsa zovuta zambiri mderali.
Amayamba ndewu chifukwa amamva kuti wokondedwa wawo sangachite gawo lawo. Komabe, tikafika povomereza izi, sikuti wokondedwa wawo sanayesere kutero, kungoti momwe amaganizira kapena momwe amagwirira ntchito zimawaika pachiwopsezo chachikulu ndi pempholi lomwe likupemphedwa ndipo amalephera chifukwa za izo.
Ngati bwenzi langa silili bwino pankhani zandalama (koma ine) zikupanga nzeru bwanji kuwafunsa kuti akhale oyenera kuwunika bukuli?
Ndimangokhumudwitsidwa (ndipo nawonso). Nthawi zambiri, timakangana, ndipo ndimatha kudzichitira ndekha.
Izi zitha kubweretsa kukulitsa kapena mkwiyo ngakhale kunyoza.
Monga banja, tiyenera kukambirana za mphamvu zathu zonse ndikugwiritsa ntchito izi kuti tigawe maudindo omwe angathandize ngati gulu.
2. Musayembekezere zinthu zomwe sizingachitike
Izi mwamtheradi zikugwirizana kubwerera ku mfundo yoyamba.
Tiyenera kudziwa zomwe anzathu ali nazo bwino zomwe tili nazo ndikupanga zomwezo komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro omveka bwino pazomwe tingayembekezere.
Ngakhale bwenzi langa ali wokhoza kutsuka mbale kapena kutaya zinyalala, ndiyeneranso kumvetsetsa kuchuluka kwake komanso nthawi yomwe angayembekezere kuti achite izi. Sindingathe kukwiya ndikafunsa mnzanga kuti asamalire china chake tsiku kapena nthawi koma ali otanganidwa ndi zina zomwe sangathe kuzipeza munthawiyo.
Zingakhale zophweka kuganiza kuti tikudziwa zomwe zikuchitika ndikupempha kutengera izi koma itha kukhala malo ena omwe maanja nthawi zambiri amapitako.
Popita nthawi, amasiya kufunsa ndikuyamba kuganiza.
Izi sizimangopita pakakhalidwe kokha komanso malingaliro ndi malingaliro. Tiyenera kulumikizana powafotokozera zosowa zathu, kupeza mayankho kuchokera kwa mnzathu za momwe angakwaniritsire kapena nthawi yanji, ndikukambirana zina zomveka kwa onse awiri. Ndi pokhapo pomwe angayankhe mlandu pokwaniritsa (kapena kulephera kukwaniritsa) pempho lathu.
3. Muzikonda wokondedwa wanga momwe akufunira kukondedwa
Ichi ndi china chachikulu.
Mabanja ambiri omwe ndimakumana nawo samva kuti anzawo amawakonda kapena kuwayamikira. Kupatula pazowoneka zowopsa monga kuzunzidwa, kusiya, kapena zochitika; si chifukwa chakuti wokondedwa wawo samachita zinthu zachikondi koma sakuwakonda m'njira yomwe imatsimikizira izi.
Ndikuwona chiyani?
Wokondedwa wina amayesetsa kusonyeza chikondi momwe angafunire kuti alandire. Wokondedwa wawo akhoza kuwauza zomwe akufuna koma atha kuzinyalanyaza kapena kungomupeza bwino kuti achite mwa njira yawoyawo.
Izi zimangotumiza uthenga kuti samvera kapena ayi-sasamala. Dziwani zilankhulo zachikondi ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito!
Kodi ndikutenga kotani kuchokera ku zonsezi?
Pomaliza, zimadalira kulumikizana, kumvetsetsa, ndi kuvomereza.
Tiyenera kuvomereza mnzathu komanso tokha momwe ife tilili ndikugwira ntchito molingana ndi izi kuti timange ndikukhala ndi maziko olimba.
Sichidzangokhala chabwino paubwenzi wathu ngati banja, koma zithandizanso banja lathu lonse kukhala ndi ubale wapamtima wina ndi mnzake.
Idzakhalanso chitsanzo cha kuphunzira kwa ana athu kuti athe kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi iwoeni, omwe amawasamalira, ndipo pamapeto pake ngati achikulire achikondi.